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Anyone else waiting to TTC?

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LadyEmmaHamilton · 15/09/2012 21:00

There was a thread here a while back but I seem to have lost it.

DH and I have decided to start trying in Jan, but I am now getting very impatient! We're going on hols in Dec to sonewhere it would be pretty hideous to be suffering with early pregnancy symptoms, so it makes perfect sense to wait, but it's driving me mad!

It's not so long ago that I was in two minds about getting started and holding on for as long as possible Hmm

Anyone in the same/similar boat?

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MTBMummy · 20/09/2012 08:38

Folic acid good call - will have to nip out to the pharmacy at lunch.

I'm in that awkward position that I'm going to be ovulating this weekend, but we agreed to wait until the 1st October to start trying - that said DD was conceived while on the pill so who knows what will happen.

JobCarHouseNoBaby · 20/09/2012 08:44

Can I join? I'm waiting until January - wedding coming up in October and so need to pay off that before we start.

How far in advance do you think I should start taking folic acid? Nurse said 1 mth before but I have read 3 months before too?

Got my last prescription of pill this week, think will aim to stop in December some time

Thundercatz · 20/09/2012 09:00

Folic acid I think one month is fine as i think the aim is to build up some supplies before you actually conceive although ive seen 3 months reccommended too and it is safe to take so thought I'd get going on it. They are tiny little pills anyway! Good luck to those starting in 11 days -how exciting!

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LadyEmmaHamilton · 20/09/2012 10:49

Sounds like there be will when quite a lot of unusual exercise regimes starting in January :)

I haven't yet but will tell my sister - she already has a DS so she's been through it all before. Plus if there are problems it will be nice to have someone other than DH who can commiserate.

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pinkbuttons · 20/09/2012 11:09

Hi all can I join,
I have DS who is 20 months and we were hoping to start TTC this month, but a few weeks ago was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid and apparently having not normal thyroid hormone levels can affect any unborn baby, started medication a couple of weeks ago and now have to wait until my hormone levels are normal which will hopefully be before christmas, or even better before my anniversary in November!!
Came of the contraceptive patch last month and am going to stay off it and give my body time to get back to regular cycles.
Glad to have found you all to keep me sane sensible over the next few months of waiting

Thundercatz · 20/09/2012 12:50

Good that we have a sizeable group! It's hard keeping schtum in the real world so good to meet others in the same situ and equally impatient excited!
Yep roll on jan exercise regime! (I hope I don't get too controlling about it and take out all the fun!)
How old is everyone? Just wondering if age has been a relevant factor in your choosing to plan to ttc? I'm 30 and dh is 31 - I think I got my wake up call turning 30 - nothing alarming - just being conscious that it's the start of the decade I had in mind for baby making - sneaked up on me before I knew it!
Good luck pink in regulating -I hope it happens quickly. I took ages but have always been irregular but it seems a lot of women only take a month or two.

MTBMummy · 20/09/2012 13:17

well I'm 34 and DH is 37 - but this will be our second, DD is almost 3 and we left it later than we would have liked.

Malteaser1982 · 20/09/2012 13:25

May I join please? I popped the last pill today, with the intention of waiting 3 months for things to setlle down a bit (also because we'll be doing some major structural works at our home in the coming months), and then start TTC#2 next January.

We already have a daughter (22 months). I'm 30 and DH 31.

I already stocked up on cheap internet ovulation and pregnancy tests, and intend to start taking folic acid soon.

BoyMeetsWorld · 20/09/2012 13:42

28 (same as DH) with a 3 year old already. No more DCs for me after 30 (just personal choice - want to focus on career) so need to get crackingWink

JobCarHouseNoBaby · 20/09/2012 15:00

DP and I will both be 27 when we start TTC for our first in the new year

Am terrified of not being prepared financially so want to clear credit cards before we even start

DP wants us to start on honeymoon in a few weeks but I can't agree with so much wedding debt to pay off!

Thundercatz · 20/09/2012 15:16

I'm in a similar position re credit cards - we bought a house a year ago but spent lots on it (with more to spend still but that will have to wait)and we want to ensure we are debt free with some buffer savings before mat leave and then extortionate childcare costs!
I think age only concerns me to the extent that it may happen quickly or may take years - it's hard feeling so out of control of timings but I guess there are advantages to it taking a while in terms of financial stability. JobCar are you intended to clear debt before starting or before birth? We are aiming for before ttc though there may be a month or so overlap which is fine.

Thundercatz · 20/09/2012 15:18

Malteser did you find ov tests useful the first time round? Did you use them from the start?

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LadyEmmaHamilton · 20/09/2012 15:19

In am 31. We've been married a couple of years, house and house situation seem sorted and now seems like the right time.

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Malteaser1982 · 20/09/2012 15:36

Thundercatz lol first time round was unplanned.

This time round it'll be planned. Reason for opk is also to know when/if I'm ovulating since in Jan I will be having a regular checkup at gynea and want to be able to settle any issues before conceiving.

Malteaser1982 · 20/09/2012 15:37

well, and also because I'm a control freak Hmm Blush

Thundercatz · 20/09/2012 16:15

Haha me too - that's what I'm worried about ! I really want to relax and let it happen but knowing my desire to control and my impatience I'm going to find it hard! Am defo going to try and avoid ov testing etc for a few months and then maybe become more proactive. Well that's the plan! Grin

BoyMeetsWorld · 20/09/2012 17:09

I can't quite get my head around the point of OV planning unless you're a couple who have sex v infrequently so need to schedule the precise dates or it wouldn't happen at all / you'd miss all chances (not saying this is the situ for any of you!!!) . There's not only 1 day per month you can possibly conceive is there? (or else the millions of women who get preggers unintentionally were mega coincidental). So surely if you just get merrily shagging as often as poss, you've got as much chance as stressing yourself out timing things? Grin

Thundercatz · 20/09/2012 17:21

I see exactly what you mean Boy and my doc said just that - don't use tests just get jiggy every 2-3 days.... I guess as long as you can do that you're doing all you can ..but we don't always at the mo. so that is my plan a from jan to just focus on sex every other day at least,,, if I can resist the whole "wanting to know what my chances are each time we do it"! If it doesn't work I may test as I have pretty long and irregular cycles so knowing the window will help ensure we don't miss opportunities. I think reading forums like this and hearing of difficulties sometimes just scare you into over thinking it and assuming there is only one day per month.

pinkbuttons · 20/09/2012 17:52

DH is 24 and Im 22, Our DS was unplanned but a completely lovely surprise, we got married and have been very lucky. Now I feel that since have Ds already we want to have all our children first and then I can still have a career thats the plan anyway, also never really wanted a huge age gap between my children, DS is 20 months so feel like soon would be a good time.

Think I will have to stay away from any extra tests as would risk becoming a complete obsessive control freak about the whole thing and DH is more than happy to just DTD every other day throughout the month :) saying that think Im going to struggle to not become obsessed considering I've been counting down the months for the past 4 months already...Blush

JobCarHouseNoBaby · 20/09/2012 19:19

Thunder I know that we need to save a certain amount a month each month I'm pg to cover my mat leave and hopefully a bit aside for initial child care after I go back to work. But can't save that money while crippled with credit cards, so have to clear them before TTC.

If we got a surprise BFP before debt had been cleared we could just about manage but it'd be a struggle and as we are very much trying to plan DC1 it'd be better if we held out until we're debt free.

I'm a bit romantic about it all once we do get going though - am hoping to avoid too much science and join the 'just shagging' philosophy and do the deed every other day!

DP is well up for this plan of action ... Unsurprisingly!!

Purplemonster · 20/09/2012 20:14

I'm afraid I have told lots of people, foolish I know but I just couldn't help myself, I feel like I've been waiting sooooo long and now it's getting close I can't NOT talk about it. I'm almost certainly boring everyone at work to tears Smile

BoyMeetsWorld · 20/09/2012 20:23

The only people iv told are my mum (weirdly, as she'll be helping with childcare!) & my closest work colleagues. In a bit of a race with 1 of them as she's going to start TTC same time as me waves if she's lurking on here somewhere

NovemberAli · 20/09/2012 20:36

Can I join too? Starting in Jan, DD just turned two and don't want a big age gap but started a new job this year so need to wait a little longer to qualify for enhanced mat pay Grin. Dp is 34 and i'm 32, we think we'll probably stop at 2 children as i don't think we could afford 3 Smile.

Last time i did the temping/fertility friend thing as i was quite irregular after coming off the pill. Stopped taking pill in march this year and have been having shorter cycles than i used to so hoping things will settle down soon.

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LadyEmmaHamilton · 20/09/2012 20:43

Oh blimey, there's going to be a lot of shagging going on in January!

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Purplemonster · 20/09/2012 20:44

I'm 30 and DP is 32, it will be my first (fingers crossed) DP has already got a 12 year old son. I'm not coming off the pill until the last minute and going to try to relax and go for the 'just shagging' school of thought and see what happens at least until after Christmas to give my body chance to get back to normal. I might get a bit more serious and scientific about it after that Grin