The grumpy, sulky, complaining thread. For when you just need a good old moan about the unfairness of it all.

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So I just want to let of steam but I don't want to bring the thread down elsewhere.
I went to a party on Saturday and there were two pregnant woman there. A very dear friend wrote to me about his baby, who is adorable and I am very happy for him but it just isn't damn fair.
I've been trying 16 months now and I'm just fed up with it all.
All I want is one baby, just one. I don't think it's asking too much.
I'm even finding it hard for the other women on threads who are getting their BFPs.

Rant over, please feel free to add your own.

Ok. Which is worse? Never getting that second line, or getting the second line but not getting a baby at the end?

Idle musings in yr 3 of TTC... (with no hint of a second line)

ah pip i am exactly the same as you. It's just not fair and I try and avoid most threads on here now as everyone seems to get pg so damned easily. I went on Facebook last night and the first 5 things were either baby updates, pregnancy-bump photos, or kiddy pictures. Argh!

If you want somewhere to hang out with ladies going through a wide range of things then do come to the Brookers thread. We try and stay positive for each other, but swing up and down like mad.

sinky - in 15 months i've never had a hint of a second line either... It just seems like nothing at all is happening and it drives me mad! I just want a report each month on what the problem was, cos i know it's not timing!

Hi Pip

I just rejoined the threads last night after a break from them, and wondered if you were around. I left the threads because I just couldn't cope with the BFPs each month when I just had to keep joining the next one.

Monday was a year since we started TTC, and was never an anniversary I thought I'd be celebrating Two of my colleagues are hugely pregnant at the moment (both announcing how easy it was, how quickly it happened and how much of a surprise it was!) and I have four nieces and nephews under 2. With family and at work I hear on a daily basis 'oh you'll be next, you have it all ahead of you...' blah blah. Do I?

Have you been to the GP? I am going to make an appointment now that we are past the magical one year mark.

I'll have a rant! Ok, so previously my bmi was around 28 and had no problems getting pregnant twice. Older now and ttc so gp advised earlier this year should lose weight and get bmi between 20 and 24. So, got bmi to 20.8. And am now seemingly not even ovulating!! Ffs should have stayed 'rounded' :)
Might start a thread to see if weight gain/loss has helped anyone else or not in ttc for 35+ ladies.

Sinky. Sounds dreadful, and I shouldn't ever ever say it, but I want that second line, even if it doesn't result in a baby.
I know I shouldn't but even if it was just one day I'd have over nothing at all.

Yeah. Sometimes I think that. Then I hear all the horrors that people physically go through, and emotionally, well I dot know if I could cope, but just the nothingness is pretty difficult at times.

Just knowing that I could get pregnant would give me hope.

Oh pip :(

Ditto.

I'm sure that people who have suffered a mc would disagree with me, and I'm sure if I ever do I will regret saying it; but to be pregnant for just a day would be better than not at all.

pip i feel exactly the same. i'm jealous of people who have chemical pregnancies. is that insane?

I never test now, haven't in months, as i can't stand to see that arctic white nothing.

cream that is so annoying - get back on the cream teas, lady.

I'm in year 3 and had my first ever bfp last month. I had one week of nervous excitement and then the bleeding started the evening after I'd seen the gp and had just started talking about mat leave and nursery with dh. Was devastated but it was much easier to deal with than months of nothing. You know you've been ttcing a long time when a mc is progress! Best wishes x

ah camel how heartbreaking for you; I'm so sorry

So sorry to hear that camel :(

Oh, I've been looking for a place to vent like this. I'm so tearful and hopeless today. I'm trying to be strong but it's so hard month after month, year after year. Everyone seems to have young children or be pregnant apart from me. Not helping that my p is not being very supportive at the moment since he's very self absorbed about his own problems and I don't want to keep leaning on friends.

Time, welcome aboard. Vent it all here, it's what we are for.
Every one, is pg aren't they. With their 5th or something daft too!

Camel That is so sad, but at least you know you can get pg.

Try being on IVF down reg drugs. I've never felt so grumpy/mardy/moany/sick/tired/negative/emotional all at once!

I should point out I seem to be one of the unlucky ones, plenty people seem to sail through it...

My sis is due next month - got preg first month - and I've been trying all the time :(

Hi all. Hope it's ok I come in for a moan, I know I've not been ttc as long as some of you. It's been 10 months and had 1 missed miscarriage and 1 chemical pregnancy. It's been hard. I'm better the months that I don't get pregnant. The feeling of loss sends me over the edge.

The first time we were so happy, went to get an early scan at 9 weeks as we were so excited. Then seeing the nothingness on the screen of just a 5 week sac, we were devastated. Went through a natural miscarriage just over a week later. It was really painful.

Then a few months later was the chemical pregnancy. My body is annoying because I know by 8dpo if I'm pregnant it seems. So if I'm having a chemical pregnancy I know even without doing a test. The chemical pregnancy affected me more emotionally than the mmc. I was seriously unstable and almost jacked in my job. I was sitting at my desk doing tasks and thinking how unimportant it all was compared to the lives that I had inside me and lost.

I know there are folk who have never been pregnant, I don't know what is worse. I think both are awful, not being pregnant and experiencing pregnancy loss. Even if I could just have one baby I would be ecstatic. I just want to feel a baby inside me, moving around and that whole magical feeling.

Sorry, I feel bad for complaining but it's just hard.

Just to add, I did do a test when I had the chemical pregnancy and it was positive for a day. Then negative after.

Have any of you tried Soy Isoflavones? It is called nature's clomid. I heard about it on another board where most of the girls got their BFP's first month of taking it. I was ttc for 9 months and nothing was happening. You take it like clomid so I took it days 3-7 and ovulated early on day 11. I could really feel the ovulation and the lines on my ovulation sticks were very dark. It worked first go for me. You can buy the supplements in health stores (make sure they are pure) and you up the dose on each day. I took 75, 125, 175, 200, 225.

I thought I was the only person in the world who was 'jealous' of others mc's. I know its totally irrational as an mc must be utterly awful, but at least I would know that if I got pg once it could happen again. I think that feeling isn't helped by the fact that the few people who I know have had mc in real life have then all gone on to have healthy babies. My heart goes out to you Ratata, you sound like you've had an awful time.

It seems like every second news story at the moment is about an abandoned baby or neglected child. I want to scream 'give it to me! I'll love it! Even if you don't want your baby, I bloody well do!'

Here is one of the threads on soy community.babycentre.co.uk/post/a12154345/bfps_with_soy_isoflavones.?cpg=1&csi=2045999741&pd=-1

You know what pisses me off? That people like Snooki from Jersey Shore can reproduce easy enough and yet here we are, a bunch of smart nice women who are having problems. Doesn't seem fair.

Tuesday I work in a school and although nearly all of a parents are wonderful we do have some children that have had to be taken into care etc. They just don't appreciate what they have.