The grumpy, sulky, complaining thread. For when you just need a good old moan about the unfairness of it all.

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So I just want to let of steam but I don't want to bring the thread down elsewhere.
I went to a party on Saturday and there were two pregnant woman there. A very dear friend wrote to me about his baby, who is adorable and I am very happy for him but it just isn't damn fair.
I've been trying 16 months now and I'm just fed up with it all.
All I want is one baby, just one. I don't think it's asking too much.
I'm even finding it hard for the other women on threads who are getting their BFPs.

Rant over, please feel free to add your own.

I think I belong here too! We've been trying for three years, just over actually now and nothing. We have another consultant appointment on 16th October where I suspect we will be deemed 'unexplained' and sent on our way. There is no reason for us not to get pg it just doesn't seem to happen. We've got friends who get pg and have perfectly healthy babies at the drop of a hat but it just never happens for us. Iweve had all the tests, I've had a clear out (5 months ago since lap & dye) so all should be well. I just don't know how much I can cope with any more, I feel so so sad and frustrated and angry that we might never have a baby when others manage it so easily. I can't even write stuff like this without crying anymore. Every month just devastates me and AF is on its way now so it's another month down the drain. I just want it to happen so much, so so much.

Raspberry :(

I feel for you. We've been trying a year and I'm just so desperate to be a mum. It sucks.

One thing that's really irritating is that people with children think that our lives are just so much fun all the time. If I hear one more person go on about "ooh look how much life has changed in the last year, I used to be awake at 3am because I was out clubbing now look at me" I will scream. It's part of the reason I've told quite a few people we're struggling, so not so many thoughtless comments now. I should really keep away from Facebook, does anyone else torture themselves by seeing who from school has kids in their photos?

The other thing that is more sad than ranty is that I can't imagine myself enjoying a pregnancy at all now. I can't imagine flippantly complaining about sickness, tiredness or heartburn, as I will always have loss and failure in the back of my mind.

raspberry are you in the UK? I am unexplained too, but 'only' 15 months in I have been told to wait until 3 years for IVF. Are they saying you're not eligible for anything... Keep pushing.

I am always an impatient person, and I think I am probably quite controlling as well. Having something I want so much totally out of my control is driving me insane. My DH is a bit bewildered - he is desperate for a baby but i think more accepting of things, but hates to see me like this more that the rest, I think.

camel i have been fairly open with good friends about it as well. As I am 30 many of my friends have not started trying yet so I do feel quite isolated as those that have have just popped them out already. but I do want infertility to be more in the open, clearly there are lots of us but noone talks about it so you feel worse, I think. and yes, i do look at people on facebok i don't even see any more. i can't stop myself stalking people who are pregnant on facebook as well until they have their babies then i feel worse. I think i'm crazy.

winkle my sis got pg second month of trying, and is prob going to start trying for a second this autumn. i know it'll happen soon for her, and wouldn't want her to go through this, but at the same time am dreading her announcement. I think she'll be nervous to tell me to. Having said that, I adore my niece.

scarlett hang in there, lovely! you won't belong here for long as you'll have your bfp in a few weeks.

Yep in the UK. Consultant did say that if nothing had happened between now and the op ie April to October he would refer us for IVF when we meet in October so hopefully we'll have some movement in next few weeks! I'm a bit calmer today but still wobbly, my period just showed up with a bit of faint spotting. At least it's a 30 day cycle this month rather than another really long one.

So sorry to hear what everyone is going through

I had someone on facebook who wouldn't stop talking about her pregnancy (updates were either gushing about it or complaining), I had to take her updates off my feed as I couldn't stand it.

One of my friends who can be very self-involved and quite mean at times (she's going through a difficult divorce and has 1 DC so I do try to cut her some slack) said to me "no-one should ever get married or have children". Knowing full well what I had been through, this was hard to hear.

Has The Village of the Damned happened and not included me?
Walking into town this morning every single damn woman I passed was pregnant!

Arrrrrgh

Was in cafe having cake with DH and had to listen to other table (with newborn) describing her entire birth/labour . Grr. Understand this will always happen but it's almost like its on purpose! Of course it isn't though.

Can I join in please? We have been trying for 2 and a half years, have been told I have high FSH and low AMH which is apparently not a good thing (I am 36) and basically been told by the NHS to go away. Am now going for a second opinion but nothing seems to go right....went for day 21 blood test only to be told 2 weeks later the hospital didn't do the test correctly so now waiting for day 21 to come round again! I swear I can literally hear my biological clock ticking as day after day Facebook greets me with the "happy" news of yet another pregnancy, usually via a scan picture and almost went into meltdown yesterday because somebody had put a baby yoga leaflet through the door! Should perhaps change my username to madbitterandtwistedqueen! Thanks for letting me vent...

I'm 37 and my biological clock is clanging away so loudly it keeps me awake at night.