Thinking about TTC#3...anyone else seriously thinking about their third?

[upthere]

So I'm 34 with 2 DCs (3 & 5)

just don't feel 'finished' and to top it all a newborn and his mum sat next to me at the park yesterday and I just melted. Just wanted to cuddle the baby, not in a crazy woman kind of way, just felt so much LOVE towards it. Very strange yes!

Something telling me something?

We havent started trying, DH open to the idea, finances finally ok, we feel settled, always wanted 3 kids in our family...both kids will be at nursery/school while I'm preggers and looking after the 3rd, so it would be a lovely time I think

am I barking mad?

anyone else in similar thinking about a 3rd?

I am in a very similar situation. I have DS aged 5 and DD aged 2 (though v. nearly 6 and 3). I realised I 'have another bay in me' whilst watching 'One Born Every Minute'. It wasn't just some maternal instinct thinking 'look at that cute baby' it felt like some sort of instinctive yearning for another child (I probably sound crazy I know!)

Even though I know I am remarkably lucky to have my two DCs I decided that if I didn't try for DC3 I would regret it and look back and wonder what-if.
DH only wanted two DCs but after much emotional blackmail and arm-twisting persuasion we started TTC DC3 in May.

BTW your situation sounds absolutely ideal so I'm coming to live in your house. If you do start trying I'm on a brilliant MN thread , come join us!

Keep me updated .

oh thank you thank you GuineaPigs

You have exactly described the feeling, it's not a oh look at that cute baby, when I see them (am just back from the supermarket and park and soooo wanted to cuddle and settle the babies of new mums) But didnt say or do anything, obviously not wanting to look NUTS

but yes, the more I think of it, the more I would regret NOT trying for a 3rd last baby

and yes, it does feel like there is another one in there...?!!!???

off to look at your thread mentioned above

thank you again, someone out there completely understands me!! ( my brother and sister have no kids, both serious career orientated, non family making types they never understand me!)

Hi

Cometely know the want-another-one feeling. Dd1 is nearly 7, and dd2 is 4. DH and I always said we'd wait until dd was in school;
Dd1 was 13mths actively TTC, but dd2 was a well timed only had sex once accident.
So decided to wait until dd2 was at school. Which is this September.
The deciding factor was when my bf had her baby at home whilst I was there. New newborn just did it for me.

hi frustratedpants

so now the question for us is, do we start TTC now in July, or wait until September?

It took 2 mths TTC DC1, and happened first time for DC2

so, just thinking, when???? see, am still a bit (scared) if I'm honest, but excited too

We started ttc last month. having a July baby who is not at all mentally ready for school, I don't want another june-August baby, which rules out TTC in September-November
But knowing my sodding luck I'll get a bfp in October

I'd love to start TTc for no 3 but DH isn't entirely sure and I must admit that some days I think we'd better stick with 2. With 2 we have bedrooms for each of them, with 3 they'd have to share, we'd have to get a bigger car, foreign holidays will become astronomical and plus more children than adults in a house seems like a recipe for anarchy. But I think I'd regret not giving it a go. Aaargh.

Well benedicts you make such good points there

Mentioned the idea to DH an hr ago and he has changed his mind, isnt so sure anymore

Darn

Will keep thinking

upthere stick with it. I didn't think I'd ever convince DH to have another one but in the end he was the one who suggested to 'lets not use contraception today and see what happens'!

Benedicts we are in a similar boat (house?!). ATM both DCs have their own room, but they love sharing now for some reason so DD is on a mattress in DS's room . Holidays would be more expensive, but I think not impossible. We recently bought a bigger car that can fit three children in because DH is so tall he couldn't fit in my old one and we sold his. I hadn't thought of the child:adult ratio. You make a good point...but I still want one more baby !

FrustratedPants you should join the thread I mentioned above!

p.s. upthere I have to stop myself from becoming a crazy person on a regular basis - I often want to settle babies for new mums (can't wait to BF again!)

Guinea - you are soooo right, I think he actually wants to be the one to wooo me into thinking of anothrper final baby, not the other way round, have known him for yonks, and usually this is how it goes. Actually now I think of it, perhaps his plan for the anjiversary trip away to Posh hotel in France etc was part of HIS conception plan

hahahaha

I can but hope it was!!!