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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Sorry if TMI...but could this be it????

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RubyMummy · 02/03/2006 12:13

Am ttc db2 but still bfeeding dd (9mths) about once a day. No af since giving birth so no idea if ovulating etc but have just started using my isis scope (excellent gadget for ttc imo!) and have found fern patterns which indicate fertile period....and we bd last night!! Have loads of cm too which i think can mean ovulation??

Am well aware that i am setting myself up for a BIG fall but am v excited at the prospect that I am fertile again :-) Am assuming need to wait about 2 weeks to test but obviously as no af its hard to know (and hard to wait!!!)

Anyway wanted to share tmi with everyone in my excitement! Fingers crossed for a db due 23rd Nov 2006 :o :o :o :o

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bobblehead · 06/03/2006 14:17

Couldn't hold out any longer and did test this morning BFN
Hope you have better luck RM

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RubyMummy · 07/03/2006 10:25

Oh bobblehead :( baby dust for next time(month??)then. I am expecting the same tbh. Ferns have disappeared now so will wait a fortnight to test. Its even more frustrating having no af to plan things out by iykwim.

Glad you found other thread RedZ- isis scope is brill imo!

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buffythenappyslayer · 07/03/2006 13:00

hi guys,im abit today.was really excited yesterday,and last night i had a bleed.rang nhs direct and they said normal to have spotting in early pregnancy.got up this morning and had alot more tahn spotting.went to see gp who said i could be having a natural miscarraige.i tested again last night and was still pos,but havent tested today again.got really bad pains aswell.gp said to let nature take its course,and i have to go back on friday.i just feel such an idiot for getting so excited yesterday.dd is giving me lots of cuddles and keeps wiping away my tears.what will happen now?i dont want to have to go into hospital.why wont/cant they do anything now instead of just letting me bleed like this?ive lost babies before,but was further on and had d&c first time and the last two i had were twin pregnancies and both times i lost one of the babies.i just feel so useless.sorry.

bobblehead · 07/03/2006 13:43

so sorry Buffy. Perhaps it is still within the normal realms of bleeding in early pregnancy. If not, I don't think you need to go into hospital if you are still very early on. I think nature will take its course. I'm so so sorry things aren't going as you hoped. I feel very selfish for being so disappoinnted with my bfn now. Really hope things work out for you. Please keep us posted. xx

bobblehead · 07/03/2006 13:46

Rubymummy- the worst thing is that still no af, which means I didn't even ov doesn't it? I was so sure this time as the cm was very "fertile"!!! (sorry tmi )

buffythenappyslayer · 07/03/2006 13:49

thanks bobblehead.i just wish i hadnt got so excited.dh said maybe test was wrong and that its just a period,but think hes just trying to make me feel better.gp didnt even take blood,which i thought she wouldve done to test hcg levels.i still want another baby,so will be trying again when this is all over

staceym11 · 07/03/2006 13:49

oh buffy you dont know me but i just want to let you know you'v been heard, im so sorry for your loss, nothing ever seems to go smoothly. i hope your gp can be of more help when you go in friday.

*hugs**

buffythenappyslayer · 07/03/2006 13:52

thanks stacey.i havent anyone to talk to,so its nice that people on here dont mind listening.i cant stop crying,and dd must be wondering why.shes been really loving today,and i feel so lucky to have her,and my other kids.

staceym11 · 07/03/2006 13:57

i acctually had a missed m/c a couple of months ago, it was traumatic but i think everything happens for a reason and you just have to look fwd!!!!

buffythenappyslayer · 07/03/2006 14:00

i keep thinking that maybe this has happened because it had something wrong with it.dd has cf,and i lost her twin at 12 weeks.i thought then that maybe it happened for that reason.

bobblehead · 07/03/2006 14:06

It probaby did Buffy. Apparently its very common to lose a pregnancy early, most people think it is af unless they have been ttc and tested early.
If this wasn't to be it is for a reason, so let yourself cry and grieve for it until you feel ready to try again. I'm sure lots of cuddles from your dd will help more than anything!

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RubyMummy · 07/03/2006 20:47

So sorry Buffy (((((hugs)))) Glad your dd is showering you with love. Doctors can be so hopeless. Hope you get news soon xx

Bobblehead you can ovulate without af - I found this by googling!

^"Can I ovulate without having a period?
Since a woman releases an egg 12-16 days before her expected period, it is possible for women to get pregnant without having periods. Women who are not menstruating due to a certain condition (i.e.…low body weight, breastfeeding, perimenopause) risk the chance of ovulating at any point. For those who want to conceive, the lack of periods could make it more difficult to know the timing of ovulation if you are not charting temperature and cervical fluid changes. But if you are not having periods and wanting to prevent pregnancy, a form of contraception should be used since there is no way to know when ovulation will occur."^

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bobblehead · 07/03/2006 22:41

Thanks RM, thats good to know! Deep down I'm convincing myself I tested too soon, but I suppose if thats the case I should have some symptoms in a couple of weeks. Am extremely tired, but can blame that on dd! Nipples do seem a little more sensitive too, but that can also be blamed on dd learning how to use her teeth!. Good luck for when you test, can't wait to hear!

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RubyMummy · 08/03/2006 09:13

Thinking of you buffy x

bobblehead - at least with your saliva scope you'll be able to keep track of whether you get ferns or not and see if your ovulating. I am much more upbeat now i know I had ferns!

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bobblehead · 09/03/2006 13:40

Was this your first month of ferns RubyMummy? Did you just check when you saw cm or do you check everyday?

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RubyMummy · 09/03/2006 15:08

First time i've seen ferns but when i bought the scope i was already pg so didn;t get it out of the box til this month! Wasn't testing everyday it was just a fluke really - and the cm helped ....i really hope I'm pg :o But am prepared for BFN... Urge to test is driving me bonkers and i need to wait at least another week i think. Arggh

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bobblehead · 09/03/2006 15:20

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! Hope it happens for me next month. This is driving me crazy though, not knowing what my body is up to! At least if af came I'd know everything was working again but its hard not to convince myself I'm pg all the time, which makes a bfn so disappointing!

buffythenappyslayer · 09/03/2006 17:26

fingers crossed for both of you!xxxx

bobblehead · 09/03/2006 18:43

Thanks Buffy, how are you doing?

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RubyMummy · 09/03/2006 18:50

Hows things buffy? I know what you mean bobblehead - never thought i'd be praying for af but at least then you know you are fertile. Am trying not to be over optimistic about things as a friend of mine had no af for 2 years after stopping bfeeding! Still at least the ferns are a promising sign... x

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RubyMummy · 09/03/2006 18:51

btw its so helpful to know there are others in the same position...thanks :)

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buffythenappyslayer · 09/03/2006 18:52

im better today.havent told the kids so am having to keep my chin up.i dont want them to get upset,which they would be if they saw me crying all the time.going to see gp tomorrow,and see what she says.am still bleeding quite heavy.am hoping she wont send me to the hospital.we are going to try again.i want another baby so badly.been feeling guilty as i keep thinking i should be grateful for what ive got.

bobblehead · 09/03/2006 19:10

Don't feel guilty Buffy. I'm sure you are very grateful for what you have the need for a baby is a total biological feeling that you can't control! I feel bad too that I'm frustrated about not conceiving quickly, but the reason is because I'm demand feeding my gorgeous 9m old. I am so so lucky as there are people who don't have that reason!
It'll happen to us all when the time is right and it'll be worth the wait!

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RubyMummy · 09/03/2006 19:33

Here here bobblehead!

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buffythenappyslayer · 09/03/2006 22:30

thanks booblehead and ruby.im demand feeding my 19 month old aswell bobblehead!hopefully we'll all big pg together and then we can all moan about all the niggles when we are!!

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