Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake!

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Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

And we have a recently refurbished Mosh Pit Nursery for the graduates IQ Manda and Blue, we are currently running a rota for babysitting so those three can go and get-pissed have some rest! I have done my bit this week so i need the next volunteer!

Marbles - such great news! Huge congrats!!

Huge hugs to everyone going thru' anniversaries and tricky dates, it must be so hard and I hope you all manage to muddle through it.

I'm in the same gang of wanting to be pregnant before my due date with the twins (Sept) and have absolutely and utterly convinced myself that this month is the month (I'm in the 2ww at the mo)- god only knows what will happen if its a BFN!

Hope everyone's having a great long w-end and getting in lots of SWI!

Congratulations marbles fab news

Jaffa I'm 18 weeks on Wednesday, and haven't been feeling movement much either. I have felt something that could be movements a couple of times but would like the reassurance of proper kicks....

Ladies sorry i have been AWOL for a week but it has been a shitter as you know. My BFF is still with us but is so terribly ill, she is being moved to a hospice at the end of the week and her family are with her. I am losing my best friend, even though we are both 39 we acted like teenagers and talked shite constantly. I already miss her so much

However i shouldnt forget what a supportive bunch of metallers you all are, so i am back to say hi, i cant catch up as a week is a long time in the mosh pit but if that is ok with everyone i shall start again from here!

But i will say a massivo congratulations to my old cycle buddy marbles i am so very happy for you!!!!

i also want to just say a big thank you to all of you for your support, you are all just wonderful loveliness xxx

runs and envelops martha in a giant bear hug

big bear hug from me too martha so sorry about your friend

martha am so sorry. I hope you are ok.

polka so sorry you lost your twins. i know exactly what you mean about wanting to be pg before your EDD. Where are you on your 2ww? Can I ask or are you being all nonchalent so you can POAS on the sly?! Hope it is your month :)

Hi all-
Hope it's ok if I join this thread?

Currently miscarrying first baby- I was 7+2- devastated, angry and so so sad. Have scan booked tomorrow (was booked when I began bleeding 6 days ago, but I've definitely had mc over the weekend so I guess scan will just tell me if there's anything left) I just never I imagined this would happen to me (have, blessedly, led a very naive and charmed life!)

Anyway, I'm getting married at the end of july- Would have been 14 weeks at wedding. I need to focus on getting pg again, I think it's the only way I can move on.

My DF is being so wonderful- he's not feeling the loss as painfully as I am- obviously there's the physical pain but also he very much sees that this is just the first step of our journey and that it wasn't yet a baby. I know, realistically, he's right but I so wanted the baby, has made so many plans in my head about our child. The whole thing has just come as such a surprise- a truly shit surprise, obviously.

We're going to ttc again as soon as the bleeding stops. Fx it happens straight away, I just want a baby!

I have a question- do your family know about your mc? We weren't going to tell my parents- we were going to surprise them the day after the wedding :-( now the baby is gone and I'm so sad I just want to talk to them and be comforted by them, but I know it will just cause them sadness- they would love a grandchild. DF is worried that if I tell them about the mc it'll add extra pressure to our ttc-ing, as they'll know we're trying. When I'm feeling ok and positive I agree with him but then I get these dark moments and I'm just so so sad. :-(

So self indulgent!! Sorry!!

Anyway, I'll get tomorrows scan out of the way I need a medical professional to confirm baby is gone as I still have desperate hope that perhaps I was carrying twins or that the baby is fine and all the blood, pain and tissue I e passed is just a dreadful coincidence! I'm such a dick head

Reading through this thread has already made me feel more positive- thanks!

hello again :) welcome, welcome. So very very sorry you are having a mc. Know that it is totally shit and talking about it is in no way self indulgent, we all have our moments where we need to talk and this is why we are hear, to look after each other.

I hope the scan is ok, and hoping it is all ok is perfectly normal and not dickish in any way at all (I had three and hoped at each one it was all wrong and the baby was hiding). ALSO DO tell anyone who you think would give you support in this terrible time. ANYONE. FWIW I have said am not trying for a while now if anyone asks, and if I do get pg i won't tell them till am 12 weeks. having poeple know has really, really helped me though.

take care x

first of all wishful this is a self indulgent thread, we are all here for eachother and i am so terribly sorry you are going through this.

it is up to you whether you tell your family or not but i think by the sounds of things it would be a good idea, i think having your wedding to focus on is a good thing (please have oodles of champers for us on the day) i think you need their support. 'The boys' ie your DF will be hurting inside but some of them dont show it as much. He will be struggling with his own emotions and mixed with excitement about the wedding. You have a lot going on at the moment so big hugs from me.

Oo and thanks for the bear hugs guys - you are all lovely x

Hi wishfull. Welcome to the thread, do sorry that you had to join us.

I think everything you are feeling is perfectly valid. My parents knew about my mc (at 10 weeks on 30 April) and in the end a lot more people then I ever expected to tell knew. It has really helped me to deal with the grief by being able to say out loud that I'd mc'd. Everyone is different and I'm sure you'll find your own way through these early and difficult days. It does get better, but some days are easier than others. As to other people expectations, I've just been telling people that we've been advised to wait whereas in reality, we've been at it like rabbits trying again.

Sit yourself down and enjoy a large glass of . The ladies are lovely here.

Welcome wishful - like confused I told quite a lot of people first time round and I found it easier that way. Second time I told almost no-one, as that felt right. I guess what I trying to say is there is no right answer - you can only deal with it the way that feels right for you.
Fingers crossed for a quick bfp for you xx

Welcome wishful we were on the May thread together. So sorry to see you here, and hope your scan today goes ok (you know what I mean). I told parents and immediate family and a couple of friends about my MC and found it v helpful. If only because it explained why I was being such a social recluse!

Thanks manda for welcoming all us newbies to your little community - you're v inspirational ladies who give all of us lots of hope for a BFP or for a sticky little beanie

Just wondering does anyone have experience with back pain in early pregnancy (like 6 weeks)? Ended up sleeping on the floor lst night, think its muscle spasm but its bloody unpleasant. Not too keen to go poking around with acupuncture needles unless there are no other options, seeing a physio hopefully later today....

Welcome wishful so sorry your joining us Xx

martha all I can say is cancer is well and truly a cunt! I do hope your dear friend is as comfortable as she can be. Xxx

Well put state. . Bear hugs to Manda. And welcome Wishful obviously sorry you needed to find us but you will be well looked after.

I lost the thread again so really must message more. Bad midget.

Well I am in maternity triage listening to some poor girl in agony saying please help me over and over. Gulp.

Had some major cramping in the night after being told I may have an infection on Friday. So sat here waiting and metalling of course. I wonder how much is metal related as its my 20 week scan tomorrow which I have so much riding on but the cramps last night almost seemed like pre term labour so not taking any chances. Probably constipation and I will leave like this .

Oh Midget, I really hope you leave like this .

I hope they resolve whatever is going on my love. Hope it is digestive, or growing pains. Big hugs, please keep us posted. Xxx

Oh poor you midget how awful for you (and the other girl who is there of course)
Fx that it is all nothing at all to worry about and all is well x

midget you poor thing - hope everything is ok.

Rumpus - I'm day 25 (9 days post ov) and am determined to NOT POAS until after AF is due, as when I was pregnant the sticks didn't pick it up and the longer I go convincing myself this is the month the longer it is until potential disappointment?!

Midget - sounds horrid hope you're ok.

Wishful - welcome and sorry you're in this horrible stage but like the others I told close family/friends as lots had guessed as with twins/12wks I was showing. They've mostly been of amazing support and you also realise how many people have been affected by mmc/mc.

Good woman Polka stay away from the sticks not that I ever take this advice myself and I tested most day until I was about 12 weeks

Well I didn't come away . Got antibiotics for some kind of infection and now laying on the sofa all cosy whilst my royalist family do queen loving activity in town. Baby still fine. Big day tomorrow. Double gulp. Thanks for your kind messages. Metalling reducing. Helped greatly by stopping on the way home and shovelling down a green Curry. Curry is good for metalling. Please hurry up 20 week scan so I can not be freaky for at least a couple of weeks.

Enjoy the last day of the holidays my full metallers x

Hope you are ok midget.

hope your back pain sorts itself soon squeaky.

well done with your determination polka!

hope you ok today wishful. come and vent whenever; am sure yoyu have been there but the miscarriage board was also a source of strength, kindness and information when I had my mc.

Am not so mardy today! DH let me sleep until 10.30 this morning; think sleeping is really helping with my depressive feelings as i never sleep as much as i have since my diagnosis as i was too wired trying to be 'normal'. I haven't had any depressing thoughts today that I can't cope with and had a big chat with DH last night - over gin - about the mc and the future and he is adamant that he will get me pregnant as and when he wants :) hehe and yay :)

take care ladies

x post midget - so glad bubs is ok though shit you have an infection. hope you are being looked after ok - your alone chill-time sounds lovely! Good luck for tomorrow :)

Hope your ok midge

My symptoms have settled down so I'm worrying, luckily only 9 days until my next scan.

state i think i love you that was everso succinctly put, it made me laugh out loud!

midget glad you are ok and not all the best for your scan tomorrow

rumpus i am sorry i havent caught up with the thread but what is your diagnosis? your DH sounds a bit like mine btw - insistent that his 'sperm is strong' and he would get me preggy (said with a scary John Wayne look about him!)

It was something my Grandma said, its stuck with me as its (all be it rather crude) true she was brutally matter of fact about being sick. Its an evil disease and makes me very angry when such wonderful people suffer. I'm sending you lots of ((hugs)) My Grandma should have been 67 this thursday so its all very fresh in my mind and I really do understand. Cancer is a cunt.

Let's all say it loud. Cancer is a cunt and I love it that you got that from your Grandma. I actually love her.