2 DPO - 2WW, Who's with me?? :D

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.. Hi guys, So i'm 2DPO. Had Realllly awful cramping when i ov'd not sure if this is normal. Never been that bad before, lasted about 2 hours then i was fine. Anyway, worst part of ttc.. the dreaded 2ww!!

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Do I need to be more positive for you guys? xx

fine, I guess I am making that trip to Boots....be back in a bit.

What do u mean kicking??

Ohhh good luck red :o

I mean that I feel like I am being a bit too practical - whereas sometimes people like optimism instead of just blunt practicality.

So do you want practical or optimism?? :D

I feel like I am being too honest having only just gone through this and I don't want to be the downer for you :)

No kicking sometimes we need sensible + realistic thoughts :)

I do this every bloody month, i won't take it to badly, its all i expect these days, even when im symptom spotting. deep down i always think noo it won't happen! x

That's how I feel. But you already have a child, don't you?

I feel like it just won't happen for me. Like I don't deserve it really. But then I know I felt the same with a lot of things - traveling, getting married. The really good things are so good that we battle to process them. We battle to see how our lives can be so good because it comes down to us believing that those really great things can happen to us.

When you plan things, you have an idea in your head of how those things will play out. And it's very rare that they play out how we expect them to. And because they don't follow our scripts, we have no idea how to process those changes.

It's all bullshit :D

very wise kicking but i don't for 1 minute believe u don't deserve babies, theres only a small minority out their who don't, there usualy the 1s who get them aswell :/.

I do have a little boy, and im so lucky and ino that! it's hard to explain i love him so much, but i feel like im in a good place and i could provide for more than 1 now. and with all ready having 1 i just kind of expected it to happen within the 1st month or two!
maybe next month will be lucky for me like i said earlier in the thread if i conceive next month my due date would be the same as DS :) haha xx

Took the FRER and POAS for the first time ever.
Hubs was there to check the test for me.

It was a BFN . Showed up in 30seconds. At least now I can get back to work and do something useful than obsessing! I guess it was too much to expect to get lucky in the first month. They are mostly AF symptoms.

I would love boys. I would have a rugby team of them. I find them cuter than girls... :D

That and if I had a daughter, she would to learn to grow up with a software engineer for a father and a fairly randomly tom-boyish mum and she would only have lego and toys that taught her to think. Rather than kitchen sets and Barbies. It would be a thing in our house to teach our daughter that reality shows are rubbish, female role models are NOT "celebrities", she would only watch David Attenborough, The Smurfs and Gummy Bears and my DH has already said that they would be taught complex thought processes early on!

HA HA HA - see?? The process I have in place is going to be VERY different in reality :D
My mates said I was going to land up with a pink, fluffy, Barbie-loving Netball team of girls... :D

Aw red - hugs. I am sorry :(

It will happen for us. I've been going for 8 months, my brother and sister in law fell pregnant in 3 months, my mate in 4 months, my other mate in 9 months. It's BOUND to happen.

xxx

Aww kicking i love how u already vision how ure family will be :) Im very girly myself + if i had DD everything would be pink and princessy haha, I dont mind standing in a muddy field watching DS play football when that day comes though :)

It WILL happen for us all :) it will be so much more special after everything weve been through :)

Its not over till AF shows red x x

thanks kicking I hope it happens soon for you too.
I am a lot tom-boyish too and hoping not to have a barbie land but more of a lego land if I ever had a girl.

I am disappointed and sad but i think I am still holding out on a tiniest sliver of hope that I might have peed too soon. I am not due for another 9 days. So maybe theres a tiny bit of hope :( or thats just me being too optimistic.

no thats really not red thats realistic, its still sooo soon, how many DPO are you?

Where as im 13DPO so would be optimistic in me thinking i still had a chance! xx

I am 6dpo also had 2 cups of tea and not FMU so maybe why its negative. I am now trying to think of why it could be negative.

I am not going to test now till AF is late. At least then I'll know for sure. hahaha this is just torture still I feel no different than before - its like am I or aren't I?

everything I really hope you get a dark line and this one sticks... you all deserve this so much and more.

It's not over until AF shows, ladies.

red I think you peed too soon to be honest.

DH and I talk about it all the time. I have a theory that the "Barbie" princess land stunts girls and it's why they battle to operate in Engineering / Accounting etc professions. We restrict their thought and mind development purely through the toys they are given. Boys create worlds. Girls make babies and clean the house. I am NOT a feminist but I believe that girls need to use how to think and solve complex issues from a young age.

Wow red

It takes a fair few days to implant and then 5 days after that for the hormone to appear in your urine!!

You should be testing about 13 - 19 dpo!!!

The average it takes to implant is 6 - 12 days - with the common being about 9 - 11 days.

yes - crazy what ttc does to you - all sense and voices of reason go out the window.

Right new resolution - I shall stick to testing on June 1st!!!

Yes I think so too, growing up I had more boys toys and probably just the 1 barbie in my entire childhood. Compared to my friend who lived next door - she had a barbie tent, with probably all versions of the doll! Strangely enough, shes married, housewife no ambition and I work in an industry where the ratio for men to women is 10:1.

I think my neighbour was an exception though, I know other girly girls who are extremely hard working career ladies but more so in professions where the ratios favor women.

red ive never heard of a BFP at 6DPO, earliest ive heard of is 8DPO and even thats rare, its farr too early :) your deffinatly not out! thanku very much as well, i don't feel AF'y so maybe this cycle will be nice and painless haha!

I sort of agree kicking like i said i wouldn't mind my lb having a baby doll, nothing to "girly" But if i was to have a DD and she had dolls i would get him 1 too, apparently the idea that us women should be washing dishes and minding the babies comes from bringing girls up with toy kitchens and dolls and the boys not having those things, therefore assuming its a womens job :) xx

Sorry about the bfns. Red that's way too early! You should be peeing in at least about 5 more days, so you are still in with a shot!

Blimey red - how long is your cycle?

I should OV around our 6 months of being married. We are going away for the weekend anyway - not for OV but just to destress and spend some time away from London.

What industry are you in red?

The ability to think can be traced right back to when a child is young. I bet while they had Barbies, they either had brothers or their mothers' were brainy. My dad was exceptionally intelligent but I hated Barbies and dolls. I was happier running around or climbing trees and playing with Lego and being with my brothers. It definitely helped me. Oh and I was born with a book. My mother said she didn't think someone actively taught me to read. It was just something I did - I bet she lies though :D

I think being a tom-boy or girly is just something that we either are or aren't. i only have brothers, and am very girly. i loved playing with my barbie + ken dolls when little haha, also loved playing with my brothers dionasours :)

a break away sounds lovely kicking maybe a change of cenery will bring you luck x

What was your mum like?

My mum is a jeans and t-shirt kind of girl. She doesn't wear a lot of make up (ever) and was herself a tom boy. She wanted to be the boy her father never had :)

I love these kind of conversations. Figuring out how the mind works :)

My mum wasn't girly at all, never wore make-up or dresses. just jeans + trainers kind of person. I don't no how i turned out like i did haha!
i was always good with hair from a young age used to braid peoples hair, dont no how i learnt that my mum couldn't braid, odd haha! maybe its was the lack of girly ness what made me experiment as i got older? :)

meto kicking studied psychology last year, so all very interesting to me x

You're the exception :D ;)
Was there a role model around that you followed? Or was your best mate like that?

I know it's the nature / nurture debate. My mother tried to put me in dresses, but I refused. That said, she never actually wore dresses. Also, I adored my brother. I used to sleep in his room if I couldn't sleep at night. He used to protect me and stuff growing up. I wanted to be just like him. I wouldn't even wear a full swimming costume - I wanted to wear the boys one.

I remember paying my mate down the road who was a proper girl and entered into all those "tinker bell competitions" to try teach me. I used to give her a pence or whatever and she would have to show me how to be a girl. She gave up I think :D

my cycle is 30 days. and yes way too early to POAS.
I think best to wait till next week now.

kicking we seem to have identical stories there - my mum never wore make up, more jeans and tshirts, trainers than dresses or heels. I think I am a half and half, I do like to do some girly things but at the same time I used climb up trees, play with the boys, always come home scruffy and getting dirty in the mud... never had long hair - even got mistaken for a boy once when i was little. which led to my mum getting my ears pierced :)

I work in IT - more specifically designing IT operating models. Geeky stuff but I love it.