I hate Mothering Sunday

[HaveALittleFaithBaby]

Anyone else in the not so great position of losing your Mum and struggling with ttc? DMum died 4 years ago. I still miss her like mad and this day is tough enough, but struggling with ttc for over two years, this being the third Mothering Sunday I've gone through ttc.
Gosh I'm whinging I know. Just wondered if anyone else feels the same and wants to hibernate here today. It's a pity party. You can join, but you must bring chocolate.

Hi have a little faith, sorry you're having a shitty day

I'm also long term and struggling TTC and find today hard enough, but if you're also missing your own lovely mum it must be extra crap. I really do feel for you.

My plan for today is to do my utmost to ignore it - not easy since it's everywhere. Was going to indulge in a bit of retail therapy but can't imagine anywhere that it will be more thrust in your face

Big hug, be kind to yourself today x

Thanks :) yes, I'm avoiding it. Usually go to church but I just can't face it! Hiding from Facebook too. I'll be hiding at home and then going to see my sister. No public places! Maybe I'll buy some flowers for my Mum.

Definitely buy some flowers - what a lovely idea. I'm sorry it's doubly crap for you today.

Yes I will buy some lillies, they were her favourite.
Thanks Northey

I hate it too. Although I still have my mum, we don't get on but that's another story, I hate it because I see all my friends talking about the things their children have done for them.

It's not my fault I'm not a mother.

No it's like anything that celebrates something effectively alienates those who don't have it!
Here pip, have a mini roll.

[sidles in with chocolate cake and gin in hand]

It definitely sucks!

Much un-MN hugs for you Faithy. My best friend lost her mum to cancer last August so this is her first Mother's Day without her. I've been texting her all morning to make sure she's ok.

Thanks for the Facebook warning, sparkle. I shall steer well clear now, so as to avoid vomitous status updates.

Does every advert have to have babies and silver haired mums? No escape.

Much love gin faithy

Sorry faithy. I am fortunate enough to have my Mum here still.

However, I fucking hate Mother's Day. It is just a reminder of my biggest failure. I decided against gong to church today as it is just too bloody painful. :(

I just couldn't face church either dor.
I feel a bit for the lady in my local Tesco who offered me a free sample of Lindt chocolate this week. Mmmmmmmm free chocolate I thought. Then she tells it's on offer and would make a nice Mothers day gift. I rather bitterly replied I haven't got a mother so she said....'it Easter?'. Poor cow. Must try to overcome the bitterness. Just not today.

dor just because you haven't won a baybee yet does not mean you have failed it may feel like it but you have done nothing wrong!

Logically I know that, but I do feel like an enormous failure.

See? X post with bugs saying the same thing :) so it must be true!

I know DHs will have been thinking of late Mum in church this morning.

I have mini eggs to pass round, hope they spread some cheer. TTC is grim on Mothers day.

I luff mini eggs :)

Yes, congratulations, you procreated. Your OH remembered to get a card from your child. What do you want, a prize?

I am bring spoiled by my kids today and I still have my mum but my first thoughts when I woke up this morning were about:

The baby I miscarried on Mothers Day in 2004 after 8 years of TTC

All the other parents in waiting going through all the pain my DH and I went through during the 10 years we were trying to have children

And finally the birth mothers of my two beautiful adopted children - hoping they are finding some way of getting through what must be a very painful day ( especially my DS's birth mother who lost her own mother a few months ago)

Oh dear - I'm all tearful now but I just wanted to let the OP and anyone else who is struggling with today know that it I'm very conscious of the pain that this annual greetings card and flowers fest brings.

for sharing Angels. It's lovely to hear a positive outcome from the challenges we face. Enjoy your day with your family :)

Thanks for the flowers. If I had the slightest clue how to send you some back I would ( technophobe)

Wishing you luck x

Ditto my first thought this morning was for everyone who is TTC and has to endure the pain of all the FB updates and pictures. It's a bloody shit day when all you want is to be a mummy isn't it.

havealittle hope you can get through today with DP and wine/chocs?

I am on a TTC break having just suffered an ectopic this week. Who knew getting and staying pregnant would be this hard when it's a piece of piss for everyone around me.

Thinking of all you fabulous ladies. You will get there. You have to believe (though i recognise this is easier said than done) xxxx

The reason I started this thread was really to remind me that I'm not alone in this.
Yes DH is very supportive. We've enjoyed a lazy morning with sausage sandwiches :)
berries I hope you recover quickly. Take care of yourself.