I hate Mothering Sunday

[HaveALittleFaithBaby]

Anyone else in the not so great position of losing your Mum and struggling with ttc? DMum died 4 years ago. I still miss her like mad and this day is tough enough, but struggling with ttc for over two years, this being the third Mothering Sunday I've gone through ttc.
Gosh I'm whinging I know. Just wondered if anyone else feels the same and wants to hibernate here today. It's a pity party. You can join, but you must bring chocolate.

Arrrrrggghhhhh!

Sorry but I need to vent about the fecking thread in Chat where someone is actually complaining about what she got for Mother's Day!!!!

I've been very restrained in my reply but I really, really want to tell her to "cock right off"!

Sorry I couldn't resist. Not restrained at all!

Stupid cow. Even though I haven't actually read it, I just know that i would be entirely justified in thinking that about her.

havefaith - i'm so sorry you are having such a horrible day and today of all days must be such a poignant reminder about your mum and then coupled with struggling to conceive is a double blow. Life can be so cruel. I'm glad your husband is looking after you though. We are 2 years in and struggling to conceive our first too - but when it happens for all us long term ttcers, we can look back and be incredibly proud of what we went through. look after yourself.

I'm happily installed eating Haribo. I bought my Mum her favourite flowers - her ashes were scattered in the Lakes so I can't get there right now! But the sun is shining and I have lots of happy memories of Mum so it could be worse.
My sympathies joycep. when we have our baby, we really will cherish it :)

What a gorgeous place to go to remember her (whenever you can actually get there). And the flowers sound beautiful.

She's a pain really, we have to climb a huge hill to get there

you're right we will cherish our babies when they arrive...

I also saw the whingy thread about mothers day gifts. Couldn't read it though as i knew it would just piss me off immensely. Stupid ungrateful woman.

You are not alone havealittlefaith - i recognise your name from round these places and it reminds me i need to do just that.

Thankfully there are plenty of MNers on that thread who agree that the OP is an ungrateful twit.

Of course there are a few idiots on there, as always, but most people are rounding on them.

I've just cooked lunch for MIL, BIL and us and am nicely stewed after half a bottle of

I hate mothers day too, so would like to join your pity party! After 5 years TTC mothers day becomes the day to avoid Facebook (and the main mumsnet boards too) I can't imagine having to deal with the loss of your own mum too

My best friend who is also having huge problems TTC rang me first thing this morning to wish me happy non-mothers day and I've bought a bunch of flowers from the cats to myself!

Uppermost in my mind today are our friends who waited a long to time for their baby. Since the baby was born late last year she has been ill and in hospital. This is just about as far from the 'right' Mothering Sunday for them as it could be.

Ladies - some of us with dcs do know how bloody lucky we are and I hope all your dreams come true

At our church we give out pots of primulas to all the ladies today. All the children do it together and I hope it feels like a family thing.

Your church sounds nice, northernlurker. And I hope things get better soon for your friend.

Hey havealittlefaith you're not alone, I too lost my Mum 3 yrs ago, her ashes are scattered in the lakes and we're struggling to TTC... and my DH brought me sausage sandwich in bed this morning (absolutely no innuendo intended )... you are living my life.. very bizarre!
It is miserable and I could do without my friends emailing me to say what their DC gave them, particularly when they're both pregnant with no 2 (within 2 months of trying, they actually verbalised concern because they didn't get pregnant in month number one!!!)
bah humbug (or bah daffodil??)

oh mrsmellow that sucks.

your 'friends' are a bit insensitive aren't they. do they know you're TTC?

hope you are enjoying a big glass of something nice!

How bizarre Mrsmellow! Weird life sync today! Most of my friends who know are pretty sensitive. You just can't escape it, can you?!
Howdy if, we met on the charters thread, yes?
if and Mrs I hope you get your bfps soon.
Thanks for sharing northern. I think sometimes people seem smug when they're happy, it's nice to hear you say you're grateful for what you do have.
Well I'm glad today is almost over. I'm tucked up in bed at any rate!

Faithy I'm with you - I usually adore mothers' day, but since I lost my properly amazing Mum to cancer last May it's simply lost its sparkle. Add to that a miscarriage on Christmas day just gone and it's a tough 'un alright. I was hoping to be duffed by now too, but it looks like that'll have to wait for a few months given some ill timed being away from each other until May, gah. Not forgetting of course that I'm in my mid 30s and have shrivelled ovaries.

However - proud muvver alert, please look away now - I was absolutely delighted that my 2 year old honeybunch of a son faithfully said 'happy mummy day' (before feeding my toast in bed treat to the dog). Totally not taking that for granted, I'm delighted and know Mum would be over the top proud too. DH could have checked to see that the milk in my in bed cuppa wasn't off, but that's a whole different kettle of fish.

Much love to all of you missing your mums, whatever the reason .