Sssshhh, faint hope appearing....

[babybythesea]

I have been TTC for over a year - we are on our 14th cycle.
I was thinking about how the last year has been lived in 2 week fragments (period, 2 weeks to approx ovulation date, followed by 2ww to see if AF returned or not, followed by another 2 weeks to next ovulation etc etc) and finding it quite depressing.
I have got to know myself pretty well - for example I know I get very sore boobs about 5 days before AF is due, and then that goes and I feel fine 2 days before. I also am very regular and if anything is going to vary from the routine, I will be early rather than late.
So today AF should have been here. But but but but but - nothing! Not only that but I have had sore boobs for nearly a week - they were agony when I got up this morning and this really should have gone by now if things were normal.
I know this is scarily little to go on - but I can't help hoping. I bought a test to do but not sure if I want to do it! Is it better to be clueless and hopeful than know it's my body doing weird things?!
Can't tell anyone apart from DH as can't face the thought of having to untell anyone - but I have a little excited ball of butterflies winging round my stomach.

I am going to suggest, very very quietly, that you should test :)

Fx'd.

TEST!!! (But if its negative its not the end of the road till AF comes!!)

I hope you are POAS right now and will come back to tell us...

Good Luck!

Oh please do the test! And let us know. Good luck x

Right - have decided to test tomorrow morning. My thinking is that as AF is due today, I'm not really late yet. But if no show by tomorrow then I will wee on that stick. Question is, can I wait until tomorrow morning?!

This is worse than waiting for the right day to open birthday presents!

Omg, what self control! I remember buying a test and doing it in the loo at work, I just couldn't wait.

baby I know how you feel. AF was due for me yesterday but I couldn't bear to POAS this morning as I don't want to see another BFN.

If you have any cheapy tests no harm taking one today; if not I'd hold out :)

POAS!!!

And you mooley !

I might POAS when I get in from work but I'm cramping mildly and think AF is lurking and has just been a bit delayed. Probably a signalling problem

I'm like mooley - really don't want to see another BFN. This way, I can keep hoping. In the early days of ttc, I didn't wait but as soon as I even began to think it might be positive, I rushed off to do a test and have since spent a lot of money on unnecessary tests (when waiting an extra day would have told me what I needed to know). Swore I'd not do that again, and wait until I had more reason to test (ie actually being late instead of going 'hmmm, I think I feel pregnant - time to get the sticks out!').
Tell us what happens mooley. I'll keep things crossed for you too.

GL testing tomorrow FXed for you.

Fingers crossed for you....

Haven't managed to test.......chickened out

Might get an FRER tomorrow and test with FMU if still no AF.

baby have you tested yet?

Yes - negative.
On the plus side, still no sign of AF and it's now officially late which never happens, and I've still got tender boobs, so there is definitely still hope.

Have you tried First Response? I was neg fora few days with normal tests and then got a pos on a FR.

Good luck!

Billy how soon after missing AF did you get a pos with an FR?? I am thinking of getting one today to use in the morning. I am 2 days late according to fertility friend.

Quick questions -after no AF and a BFN, how long would you wait before doing another test?
Ran out of self control today and did two (one first thing, one this afternoon) because clearly the intervening six hours will have made all the difference! .
So now will need to go and buy more. I should have taken out shares in these things. Still feeling hopeful but I don't want to feel hopeful any more - I want to know, and know NOW....

I'd wait a day and then test again the next morning, so there's a clear day between testing.
I hate seeing negative's too. My af was due on Monday/Tuesday and still nothing, apart from feeling tired and having a stupidly sensitive sense of smell. I'm trying to hold out til Saturday.

I'd get some cheap tests from ebay or amazon. It'll be a couple of days until they arrive, & if AF hasn't made an appearance by then, test again.

Do a first response test, they show positive for me when cheap tests show negative, also there is less uncertainty with result I found (is there a line...) Good luck, I did mine in the loos at work too! BFP two weeks ago :)

Mooley I have no idea as had been on the pill so not sure what my natural cycle was. However, there was nothing showing on a normal test and the FR came up straight away. I think they generally show a positive a couple of days before other tests.

I believe that superdrug early tests are v sensitive & allow you to test 4 days 'early' at 11dpo. I had a faint line at that point on my BFP recently, but unfortunately it didn't stick. I think FR may be more sensitive. The superdrug one is 10u/L but normal ones are 20-25u/L.

The cheapy ones, from £ store etc, are much less sensitive, so good for not knowing too early.

Personally, I would wait for as long as possible before testing after my experience BUT understand the need to know now...

Good luck, whenever you test!!!

Well, have got to the end of the day and no sign of AF -and no signs that it's imminent either. So far, so wonderful. And a DH who says 'Why are you so obsessed by it? Forget about it and test next week.' Next Week?? Is the man mad? I'm only hanging on until tomorrow because I've not got a test in the house tonight! Obsession? No, I've had several ten minute periods when I've not thought about it AT ALL. So I'm not obsessed, am I?! (It's all very well for him, he's not the one reminded every time he goes to the loo and has to have a quick check of underwear, just in case AF has made a stealthy appearance, or folding his arms, feeling the sore boobs and getting a quick reminder, is he?)

Baby men just don't get it. They just have to basically turn up. It's not there bodies that are going through a roller coaster of symptoms and signs. You obsess away and ignore what he thinks you should do.

Well all over for me. No AF but FF removed my crosshairs this morning at 18 dpo. Ack well, another epic anovultory cycle for me. Roll on the HSG (never thought i'd say that!).

Mooley - sorry to hear that. It's so hard, isn't it? You spend so long being told that if a boy so much as looks at you without being careful you will end up with octuplets, that when it doesn't happen and it should it's hard to accept and manage your feelings. Hopefully next cycle will be better.