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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Hoping to concieve a particular sex?

107 replies

prizeelliott · 12/02/2012 21:49

Hi, i'm just wondering if anyone has any experience or advice about natural sex selection? Have 3 wonderful DD's, a little DS would be the cherry on top! (Before anyone jumps in... I realise I am so lucky to have 3 healthy children, and I do realise that the sex of the baby is irrelevant).

Would be great to hear from anyone in same or similar boat xxx

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MummyNickleby · 13/02/2012 22:26

I've skipped many of the replies as I'm not interested in nasty / unpleasant comments.

I do however, have some input with regards to the question:

I believe the research regarding swim speed.

When I manage to conceive I used an ovulation stick. Did the deed on the day the line showed up and had a baby boy 9 months on. I was chuffed to bits as I was on my last month of trying before going for a 3rd set of surgery for endometriosis Grin

My friend at work has polysystic ovaries and used ovulation sticks for 2 pregnancies. She did the deed they day of the blue line and had 2 boys Grin

Soooo.... I'd suggest using ovulation sticks, work out when you're due a blue line and have rumpy pumpy 2/3 days before and not again for at least a week.
That's what I'm planning to do as I'd love one of each but, my DS is so wonderful I'd be just as happy to have 2 sons. I just hope I get pregnant again Smile

Good luck to you, hope you have a great time getting pregnant and a great time with your new bundle when he/she arrives Smile

Original poster
prizeelliott · 13/02/2012 22:50

Thank you MummyNickleby Smilexxxxxx

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Kangarobber · 13/02/2012 22:55

The Toni Weschler Book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" has some info. You need to identify when you ovulate exactly and then time sex to that day and the day before, abstaining in the week leading up. I can't remember exactly, but think she claims it's 90% accurate or something for a boy, slightly less so for a girl (where you do the reverse). You can identify when you ov by observing temp, musous and cervical position (all described in the book), and/or by using ovulation kits.

LilacWaltz · 13/02/2012 23:15

Conception topic isn't only for those struggling to conceive!! It's for everyone. Nobody has ownership of it! How bitter are some people!

4madboys · 13/02/2012 23:22

i 'think' that if you have sex before you ovulate you are more likely to get a girl? as girl sperm live longer but swim slower? and if you have sex when you ovulate you are more likely to get a boy as they swim faster but dont live as long? but ultimately its pretty 50/50

4 boys here and then a girl, didnt do anything different tho and didnt believe it till she was born, plus i have a friend who was told girl at her 20wk scan recenlty, then had a 4d scan privately and baby is MOST def a boy!

but ultimately just be grateful that you even have this to worry about

ChippingInNeedsCoffee · 13/02/2012 23:23

Having read your other thread about being attacked I thought I would come and read this thread - you have not been attacked. FGS you are making a fuss about nothing.

Chunkychicken · 13/02/2012 23:28

Where should she enquire this type of thing then highlove?!!! On the 'I've got a genuine question about conception but don't want to piss off any over-sensitive women who might find life has dealt them a bit of a shitty hand' thread??!!! Oh, my mistake, there isn't one!!!

All those "BFP is it isn't" type threads - are they crass & insensitive too?? Are they to be relegated to another board because other people have never had a BFP/all their BFPs end in mc and might find the fact that someone somewhere is getting pregnant is 'insensitive'?

Yes, its rubbish that some people have problems & others don't. Yes, it seems unfair. And yes, perhaps it does seem a little frivolous to want to 'select' on sex when conceiving, for some people, is enough of a prize. But tough, that's life. This is a free country with free speech.

Don't read the thread if you don't like what's being discussed. Simple.

DamnBamboo · 13/02/2012 23:29

Well it's a little abrupt maybe OP, but not really an attack.

Northey · 13/02/2012 23:32

The OP doesn't like that some people are expressing their dislike of her post. But tough, that's life. Free country, free speech. She needn't read the thread either, of course.

AlwaysTimeForWine · 13/02/2012 23:33

You don't think it's an attack being called "crass and insensitive"!?!

Don't read the post if you think it might offend you. The post title is very clear on what it is about.

OP is not responsible for the fertility issues of other women, and cannot be responsible for their over-reaction if they decide to read a post clearly labelled and which they know will upset them. It's like sticking your finger in a socket when you know it will hurt, and then blaming the socket.

Grow up.

Northey · 13/02/2012 23:34

Ah, damnbamboo's post got in the way of my reply to chunkychicken. Bugger. Now it looks like I just write like that.

LilacWaltz · 13/02/2012 23:39

northey what's the problem?

Northey · 13/02/2012 23:40

With what, lilac?

LilacWaltz · 13/02/2012 23:43

With the op posting a conception thread in the conception topic?

Northey · 13/02/2012 23:44

I never said there was. In fact, if I can just refer you to my first post, you will see that I say just the opposite.

nappymaestro · 13/02/2012 23:54

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ThePoorMansBeckySharp · 14/02/2012 00:25

I think the OP has asked a perfectly valid question.

People need to leave their own baggage at the door sometimes.

ilovebabytv · 14/02/2012 00:43

Don't leave mn. We're not all grumps. I thought it was a reasonable question posted in the appropriate topic. I just dropped in because Im in the same position. Well nearly. 2 boys and desperate for a girl. And I know if I have another boy I'll probably want to try again for a girl. And since this is mn, I need to make it clear that I love my ds's and the fact they were boys didn't alter my love for them at all.

RhinosDontEatPancakes · 14/02/2012 00:51

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NoMoreMarbles · 14/02/2012 00:56

i purposefully avoided this thread as i felt i may feel offended by it...i have been TTC for 4.5 years and have had 7MCs during that time so i have had my share of bad luck...i decided to have a nosey after looking on the other thread and on reading the OPs erm...OP...i have to say that whilst the title seems a tad insensitively worded, the tone of the first post is light hearted and quite sensitively written. i was not in the least bit offended...i can see why some may have waded in on the offensive but really, there was no need in this case (IMO) this is the conception topic after all so a thread specifically about CONCEPTION?

highlove · 14/02/2012 07:16

Ooookkkkkk....

Not sure where the attack references came in - I don't think I mentioned it.. Anyway, OP if you felt I was attacking then I'm genuinely sorry - it was blunt but it certainly wasn't meant to be an attack.

My point remains that very many people on this board are struggling TTC or trying again after m/c or whatever so this kind of stuff is pretty insensitive, regardless of the board name. Of course I'm not suggesting you must never raise such a question or generally spend your whole life falling over to avoid upsetting people who are struggling (though if everyone could just hold off getting pg till I finally manage it that would be great :) )...just maybe a Bit more thought.

If I was blunt I do think one or two of the above responses was bloody spiteful and just unnecessary. I've got no problem with being upfront about what you think - see my first post! - but it doesn't need to get so mean, IMO.

Anyway, OP, I hope you didn't feel attacked and good luck whatever happens..

cherrybird1978 · 14/02/2012 08:37

I am really sorry to read the entirety of this thread. Is there no way in which anyone can ask a lighthearted question without being branded incencitive? The question quite clearly said that she didn't mind either way and the fun of trying would be enjoyable, and the supportive information provided about methods i.e shuttle method was provided, but there was no need for anyone to behave like a vulture and pick it all apart. I understand that some people have trouble TTC, I am one, but I would never begrudge anyone asking anything like that. As I said in my earlier post that I would have loved to have had a DS due to a medical condition, but it doesn't affect my love for my DD. The OP's also said she loves her DD's but a DS would be the icing on the cake, it doesn't mean that she would love the new baby any less if it wasn't a DS. Not everyone on conception is having difficulties, and to penalise those who aren't atthe risk of offending someone who is really sums up this country today. If the first post offends then exit the thread, if you have something constructive to post the go ahead, but if you can post in a nice way then don't bother because you turn into the incencitive one!!!

It all leads me to ask whether this is actually a supportive forum or not?

Scheherezade · 14/02/2012 08:43

Isn't there an infertility board? Couldn't the people who don't want to see anything about people who can conceive just go on there?

Scheherezade · 14/02/2012 08:43

I don't think op was insensitive at all, asked a genuine question.

nappymaestro · 14/02/2012 08:45

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