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Angels and Rainbows - The beauty of a rainbow does not negate the ravages of the storm. But it can provide colour and hope.

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Whatevertheweather · 13/01/2012 21:28

“Rainbow Babies” is the understanding that the beauty of a rainbow does not negate the ravages of the storm. When a rainbow appears, it doesn’t mean the storm never happened or that the family is not still dealing with its aftermath. What it means is that something beautiful and full of light has appeared in the midst of the darkness and clouds. Storm clouds may still hover but the rainbow provides a counter balance of color, energy and hope.

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AngelGeorgie · 04/03/2012 23:36

Mia boo hiss for AF xxx
Ciwi great name. Glad you re all home & well. Enjoy your " babymoon*xx
Too I can remember all your feelings like it was yesterday .I was convinced the same would happen to Phebs as did with Georgie. You will be fine but you won t think that until you hear your baby cry or see them for the first time.
Whatever hi xxx
Mm... Interesting post about " other threads & August" as I too have just had a load of crap on my other thread , we think, from a troll. Long story but she/he/it got booted off after using an offensive term. Was a horrible person who accused me & 1 other of bullying , reported us but I know at least 4 people who reported it!!!
Fan funnily enough I m returning to Slimming world tomorrow!!! I ve done SWorld & W.Watchers in the past & I get on better with S world. I lost most of my weight after I had Phebs however I went in to that pregnancy a stone heavier than normal due to grieving then since Dec/Xmas I ve put another 2 stone on. I disgusted with myself my clothes are uncomfortable , I m buying bigger sizes... So I decided to regain some control back
I go!!! I m actually looking foreward to doing it again .Ant cooks so he does it with me & he does well also. I'd like to loose at least 2-3 stone . We ve got some mini beaks booked in June then Euro-Disney in August & hopefully Majorca in Sept so those are my inspirations . Good luck xxx( I also did it before I got pg with Georgie ad again it gave me a degree of control over my life & made me feel better about myself)
Love to everyone else xxxxx
Had a fab weekend at my folks but v knackered now . Phebs, quite rightly, fussed to death!!!!
Xxx

blizy · 05/03/2012 07:31

ciwi Cillian is a fab name! I'm glad you are both home, enjoy your little bundle. x

mia AF is rubbish! Hope you are ok?

I too really need to loose weight (about 3/4 stone), I just can't seem to to stop eating eating! I am comfort eating and I really need to break the cycle, grief really does take it's toll on your body.
AF has gone. My af has changed since having Zoe, I now spot for 2-5 days before cd1 and only have a proper bleed for 2 days, then one more day of spotting, then it's gone! I used to bleed really heavily for the full 5 days.
Tonight the SWI will commence..........

spilttheteaagain · 05/03/2012 07:34

ciwi Huuuge congratulations to you and yours! What lovely news to sign in and see and a fab name. I hope you are recovering from the forceps etc (ouch you poor thing!) and well done little Cillian on getting well enough to come home. Hope you are getting some lovely cuddles and maybe the odd bit of sleep!! xxxxx

vickyd0 · 05/03/2012 13:52

Hi every1 hope all is well ,, got my last consultant n scan nxt thurs 15th and the anthestist on da 16 seems pretty real i keep praying i b fine the nxt 2 weeks i need to c the finish line . My bro n his gf had a healthy lil boy at 12.45 this mrning weighing 6.10 and all my bro could say to my mum was i really want my sister to feel the way i do bless him xxx

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 05/03/2012 15:58

vicky what a great brother!

fanjodisfunction · 05/03/2012 19:53

angel ah thats good to know it will be like we are at the same meeting, but not. lol. Im determined to lose weight now, had my first day out on the tools today and well Im so out of shape and need to lose weight. So hoping that working hard at work and losing weight at slimming world will get me fit in the next few months.

vicky how lucky are you to have a brother like that. And also how lukcy for your babies to be born so close together.

blizy nearly snap on the af front, its surpriseing what pregnancy can do to it all. Im also on the quest to lose 3-4 stone, Ive put on 2 stone since july, and I also remember i lost 10lbs when i was ttcing ophelia, so hoping if I get my arse in gear it can only help

AngelGeorgie · 05/03/2012 20:15

Fan I ve been to my meeting & omg now I remember how boring they are!!1.30 hours of clapping everyone who's lost weight , what they aim to loose next week, what ll they will do different etc... Now I remember why I never stay to the meetings!!! Anyhow , here we go ( again!!) ..what day is your meeting? Xx
Vicki sweet!!!
Love to all , hope you re all well? Xx

CheeseandGherkins · 05/03/2012 20:25

fan the online slimming clubs are good, dh has used slimming world and weight watchers when they've had offers on membership and both seemed really good and easy enough to fit in with "normal" meals. He's really self conscious about his weight and I hate to see him feeling so bad about himself, I don't care what his weight is. It's so hard as he can't excercise either due to his health and bad leg, so many things wrong with him and he's only young :(

too that's the last thing you need! Please don't worry about bean being prem, she will be fine even if she does need a bit of extra help at birth. Ella was 34 weeks when I was induced, well half induced, and although she needed a lot of things in the nicu she is doing amazingly well now. It was hard seeing her with so many tubes and wires in her but it was a million times better than the possible alternative. I truely believe it was for the best and also that the result wouldn't have been a happy one had I not been induced when I was. I need to think long and hard about the future too as my problems started a few weeks before and had they been worse I'd have been induced a few weeks beforehand.

You do use extra calories up when you bf but I always have to be careful afterwards as you're used to eating a bit more and then put weight on again. I lost a fair bit while I was pregnant due to being so careful with the diabetes. I weigh less now than I did before I got pregnant and still losing as I've now also gone dairy free to try and help Ella as she was being sick a lot and I thought it might be a milk intolerance. She's hardly been sick at all since I stopped with dairy so it might be helping. I'm a vegetarian anyway so going vegan wasn't a massive step, although I am missing cheese...

ciwi I love the name Cillian, it's beautiful. How are you feeling now? I'm sure you're so relieved! It's a big rollercoaster of emotion though isn't it. I also felt the same during labour, the thoughts going through my mind were only if the baby was ok, nothing else mattered at all. I cried when she was born both with happiness and relief.

whatever I really couldn't picture everything working out and I still worry constantly now. We bought (well my parents bought it for us) an apnea monitor for Ella's moses basket (will work on a cot/cotbed too) just for peace of mind. One of the scbu nurses said a lot of the parents of preemies buy them and that she'd be using one when she has a baby too as it's just extra precaution. Ella had one while she was in hospital but it was attached to her foot/wrist, she never set it off though.

miasmummy sorry af arrived :(

angel those breaks sound lovely, very envious. I don't think I could go away just yet with all the dcs with Ella so young. I hate flying too, so much so that I've refused for about 15 years! Such a wuss and I know I need to do something about it but I get such bad panic attacks I doubt I'd even get on the plane. It doesn't help that I'm also terrified of heights, sigh.

blizy dh is after losing a fair amount of weight and I know that the grief didn't help him either, that on top of being ill and on huge doses of steroids made him gain more weight. Good luck with the swi Wink

vicky great news about your brother

I've been doing good here, it's a bit disconcerting that I haven't felt depressed or had baby blues at all though, is that normal?? I'm worrying that something will come back to bite me at some point. It's an odd feeling now that I'm not pregnant and worrying all the time, I realise how much I had going on in my head. I was thinking all the time, always worrying about what would go wrong and thinking through every possibility. It's a huge weight off my mind but feels a bit empty now too. It's a lot easier now but the worries I had are replaced with new ones. As I said, it's not the same as before but there are still worries there.

Not sure if I said before (that's one thing now, I cannot remember anything! Conversations with dh are so hazy and I put down to broken/lack of sleep!) but Ella was born with a tooth! Yes a tooth, and it's huge! It's a bottom front tooth and she nips with it a little. She's worse when she's ending a feed as she pulls a bit as she spits my nipple out and it's a bit ouchie! Need to get some nipple cream tomorrow as it looks like I have a graze/little cut from her.

Phew, epic post! Hope you're all well :) By the way, if anyone has facebook that isn't already on there then please pm me and I'll add you. I would pm but don't want to send out lots and hassle people.

Whatevertheweather · 05/03/2012 20:42

Good luck with sw Angel and Fan I used to find the meetings boring too but forced myself to stay so I got something for my £4.50 Smile Will keep an eye out for you Fan while you're out on the tools. I always think how nicely maintained the council flower beds and gardens are round here.

Cheese ouch to little teeth! I saw the pic on fb of her tooth Smile I thought Katie was early getting one at 8 weeks old! Lovely update so pleased to hear you sounding happy and relaxed xx

Mias sorry about AF Sad Boo!

Blizy was going to say 'thinking of you' as you start your swi but that sounds just wrong Grin So good luck!!!

August (((hugs))) hope you're okay xx

Wobbly day today, Katie's school friends mum had her baby yesterday, she had a baby girl. When the dad came to pick Katie's friend up from school he had her scooter with 'it's a girl' and 'I'm a big sister' balloons tied to it. I welled up in the playground, not for myself but for K and what she is missing. Her little friend has (quite rightly) been so excited all day. K didn't want to walk home with them (they live in our road) and just said sadly 'now friend has got a brother and a sister and I've still got none' Sad I wanted to scoop her up and tell her about the new baby so she had something to be excited about but I resisted. Dp really doesn't want her to know before 20 week scan which I can understand.

Love to all, hope everyone is well xx

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fanjodisfunction · 05/03/2012 20:52

wtw just think of how excited K will be when you show her that scan pic at 20 weeks she will be so excited, thats something to look forward to.
Im working in the areas around the library, the museum and generally around town. Yeah the beds are looking pretty good, and the council is going manic as we have a royal visitor this month.

Whatevertheweather · 05/03/2012 21:01

Ah I know love, she will be thrilled. 7 weeks to go (scan is a 21 weeks!) bless her she started when she was about 2 about wanting a sibling.

Oooh who's coming to town??

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fanjodisfunction · 05/03/2012 21:15

wtw princess anne. There's going to be a march thru town of hms collingwood aswell.
Apparently I was the same as K, and when my little bro turned up, I used to mother him, climb into the cot with him, and translate what he was trying to say.

Whatevertheweather · 05/03/2012 21:19

Ooh when is that? K's school is near Collingwood I wonder if they'll be allowed to watch the march. Although I suspect if they were told a princess was coming they be expecting a Disney-esque one not Anne Grin

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CheeseandGherkins · 05/03/2012 22:00

whatever we were going to wait until 20 weeks to tell the dcs but as we had a car crash on the way to school just before my 12 week scan we had to tell them as I had to tell the ambulence when they came. I had a scan the same day to make sure all was ok. Our hand was forced but it was good to tell them.

AngelGeorgie · 05/03/2012 22:39

Cheese^ glad alls well with Ella & you all. I have to have holidays & breaks to enjoy otherwise I see it I m just working to pay the mortgage & childcare ( in 5 weeks time). Know what you mean about feeling like a huge weight has been lifted. You change your potential worries.my friends said after Phoebe was born I looked 10 years younger , my face had "lifted" !! Ouch... To Ella's tooth!!! Xxx
^Whatever
xxx hugs xxx

TooImmatureTurtleDoves · 06/03/2012 07:50

Grin at Princess Anne being anything like a Disney princess!

Wtw, Sad for K. Not long until you can tell her now, though, and she'll be so excited, bless her.

Cheese, ouch at Ella's tooth! How special to be born with a tooth, though - clever little girl! I don't think you should worry about not getting baby blues - the whole last 15 months or so have been really miserable for you, so I think you've had more than your fair share of depression and sadness up front. Not to mention the stress of Ella being in special care for the first couple of weeks. You'll just be so relieved to finally have her home safe that baby blues are a world away. Don't knock it, sweetheart! Anyway, as you say, now you are just worrying about other things instead, like sleep apnea.

Angel, Fan and Blizy, hope the SW meetings etc are helping and aren't too boring! I'm going to weigh myself for the first time since my booking in appt on Thursday night and see what the damage is . Then at least I can tell myself I lost a stone in a day, or whatever it is, post-section. Cheating, I know! I found a document (weight loss diary thing) the other day I'd started last May when I was just starting to try to lose weight after Thea, and I was shocked at how self-loathing it was. I'm going to try really hard not to get back into that mental state again.

Vicky, congrats to your brother, and what a sweet thing to say!

Miasmum, boo for AF! FX for a BFP soon.

August, hope you're feeling okay. I saw your other thread too and your head must be spinning. I don't have any specific advice for you, but we're always here to hold your hand if you need it.

justmatureenough2bdad · 06/03/2012 10:24

too has been very naughty.....

TooImmatureTurtleDoves · 06/03/2012 10:31

Hey! What are you doing on here? Out! Stop telling people bad things about me!

NotDarkYet · 06/03/2012 10:38

Why? What's she done?

Btw, thx too - I'm ok, DH and i are working on things, not just on his terms either - have put my foot down! Going for dinner this w/e for some time alone to talk about the future. How are you???? Just a few more days! So exciting. Smile

TooImmatureTurtleDoves · 06/03/2012 10:48

Causing trouble with a work colleague - DH and I work for the same organisation but not in the same office. I emailed him yesterday slagging off the woman who sits next to him and she read it over his shoulder. Blush I am an idiot!

NYD, glad to hear you and DH are working on things and hope you have a lovely dinner together. Is this your new name?

Am fine when not lying awake in the dark counting kicks. Only 3 days to go! It's very strange. I am simultaneously excited and petrified. Confused

Whatevertheweather · 06/03/2012 11:26

Oh Too you are funny but Blush for dh! How did he wriggle out of that? Sounds like the sort of thing I would do Grin 3 days, oh goodness! So exciting. Remind me are you elcs or induction? Is everything ready now?

NYD glad to hear you and dh will get some alone time to talk. Just stay strong, I hope he can understand the reasons behind your decision to stay home for now. I'm only back at work because financially we have no choice, although it is proving to be a good distraction. Can you tell how hard I'm working at the moment Grin

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AugustMoon · 06/03/2012 12:25

Oops, no not my new name. Forgot to change back before posting that on my phone! Doesnt really matter now. I've got severe baby-brain at the moment!

Too! Yikes, has your colleague said anything? What were you saying about her?!

TooImmatureTurtleDoves · 06/03/2012 14:17

Something very horrible Blush. Part of it was that she was thick as mince. However, she seems to have forgiven DH magnanimously in the interests of getting to hear all about Bean on Friday and I don't really care if she doesn't forgive me because I'm not going back to work for 10 months and I don't have to work with her even when I'm there. DH didn't write anything about her, luckily - possibly because he has more sense than to put something inflammatory down in an email, even if it was supposed to be a private communication between husband and wife.

It's an ELCS, Wtw. I still haven't packed my bag...I'm going in for my first steroid injection tomorrow, pre-op checks and steroid no 2 on Thurs and then the big day on Fri!

Whatevertheweather · 06/03/2012 16:33

I'm having elcs this time too so will be interested to hear what it's like. It seems to be a very calm and in control process (unlike the emcs!) it's definitely the best option for us this time. Good luck with the steroid injections xx I love the expression 'thick as mince' Smile She sounds very forgiving!!

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razzdazz · 06/03/2012 17:43

Hello ladies
too you naughty girl but how funny, bet dh was mortified!! Counting down your days with you, it is so exciting. I am also having a section, just got back from pre-op which was all fine.
angel I am very jealous of all of the trips you have planned, they sound fab.
cheese so glad things are going so well for you, it is much deserved. My sugars are more low than high at the moment, makes me feel quite unwell.
mias Im sorry the witch arrived again.
Good luck to both blizy and fan for swi this month, enjoy it.........hope rat babies are ok fan. Also, well done to all of you on the road to slimming.
ciwi, lovely name and you must be so happy to be safely home with your little man.
august really hope the time together benefits you and dh and that some of your worries are lessened.
Hi wtw, I didnt tell my children until around 17 weeks (after a scan) and it was so hard as I knew how excited they would be. Just kept tellling myself I was protecting them if that makes sense.

Im back for ctg in the morning and have a scan and mw appointment on friday which all helps with the anxiety levels. Take care all x