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So sorry to hear that Pinkie

And sorry that AF is on her way Cave

Raspberry it?s totally understandable to find mothers day hard given what you?re going through. I had a bit of a rant in asda the other day (quietly of course) about why fertile people should have their own day, just because they can reproduce they get celebrated, it?s actually really unfair. I hope you feel better soon, and as difficult as it is, resist facebook. I?ve boycotted it because a friend just had her baby and it?s covered in pictures, and my other pg friend keeps putting piccies on of all the baby stuff she?s bought

Evil I hope you can get some answers soon, but even if everything comes back normal they can still try medications and things to see if that helps. Don?t worry about whinging, it?s what we?re here for

fl0b0t I?m really sorry to hear you?re feeling so down. It?s extremely difficult when someone tells you they?re pg, and I?m sorry you?re having to feel those awful feelings, they?re really not nice. But although things will be difficult, you?ll fight through it, because you?re an incredibly strong woman. If you need to take time out, then do what you need to do and make sure you look after yourself. I?ve suffered with quite bad depression during my TTC journey so far so if you want to PM me, feel free, I?m more than willing to listen if you need to rant or offload. It gets a little easier, I promise ((hugs))

AFM, stimming is going well, better than I hoped. I?m not sure if it?s the meds or the sun, but I?m feeling a lot happier than I was when I was just down-regging, fingers crossed it makes a difference to my little eggies So it?s back to the hosp on Wednesday, I?m praying this new medication is working otherwise we?re a bit snookered, but anyway, if it does, egg collection is next week!! Eeeekkk!!!

I'm still waiting hff! 5 days late cd38! Just want her to arrive then can start again, or maybe I ovd late and could still get a bfp??! Wishful thinking! Brothers mrs is about to drop in a few weeks, am looking forward to it tho secretly jealous another pair who weren't even trying hope everyone is well x

Hello all.

How ate things Pinkie? Any sign yet?

AF showed up in full force this morning, having kept me waiting through 2 days of spotting. Been taking painkillers all day [ouch]

Josie, hope all goes well at the hospital tomorrow.

Any other Frolickers lurking out there?!

Sorry fl0 to hear about your SIL - my SIL has just told me they're trying for number 2, I haven't told them we're trying for number 1 yet and feel a bit like a failure for not managing it! I think you shouldn't worry about 'hiding' or not and just do what is right for you - nobody will think anything, or more importantly remember it for more than a few days.

pinkie any sign?
Cave sorry to hear you're having a painful time, hope it passes soon
Josie hope all goes well and lots of potential eggs, fingers crossed.

I'm feeling a bit bruised and almost like it's all over and I'm never going to get pregnant, which is ridiculous. Did you see the thread about not having a Christmas baby? I can understand the thinking, and it had crossed my mind (and if we're being very honest here, I was hoping that not wanting a christmas baby might make it sods law more likely to get pregnant this month ) but really, don't think I can be picky about the timing!

I am a bit surrounded by super fertile friends at the moment. average time to getting pregnant is about 2 minutes as far as I can see! We should be SWI'ing this week and next _ I guess aiming for 3/week rather than a crazy daily (or more) event...but still don't think I'm ovulating and am aiming for a May clomiphene start.... and then que sera sera...
off to find

Thanks for the kind words Josie and mellow- I think I'm just a bit stressed about a lot of things and the news about SIL just came as a bit of a shock and jump-started a lot of feelings and worries. I#m honestly a very laid back person usually so I am quite surprised at the intensity of my feelings about it all.

SWI sounds awesome, I had a hosp visit today about my broken shoulder and it appears to be more serious that I was originally told (but thank god no surgery or anything). Two bits of bone have fractured off the main bit (which they didn't tell me before- they only showed me a hairline fracture), and it might be 6 months before it's back up to strength!! I would like to be SWI but I just can't imagine being able to work around the shoulder and enjoy it! :-S

Still nothing ladies although boobs if hotly more tender this eve, frustrated isn't the word! Think I've just skipped a period due to stress! x

Hi everyone, I've just been for my rescan - the haemorrhagic cyst has decreased in size, which is nice, and the other ovary is fine. Only another five weeks or so until the next infertility appointment, and then we'll find out what it all means... DH is feeling rather upbeat, thinking that if only one ovary is working right that would explain why it's taking ages, but I'm more pessimistic - cysts are so common I wouldn't be surprised if it had no effect at all. In any case, I might not have had a cyst for very long, so it might not explain back any further than the last two or three cycles.

Scan didn't go well. I'm not responding to the stims at all. They've done a blood test to see if it's maybe just working very slowly, or if it's not working at all. Get the results at 4pm but it could very well be the end of the road for us. We're both extremely I wasn't expecting it to be this bad, I was quite optimistic, I thought maybe, just maybe this was our chance. But it turns out it's not. I think our only options now are donor eggs, which doesn't have any higher a chance of working than IVF, or adoption. Neither of which I really want to consider right now

Hi all,

Sorry you're feeling blue fl0, my SIL knows I'm trying to conceive & jokedly mentioned the other day that her period was late & that maybe she was pregnant as she took her pill late one day! I felt so mad!! Luckily her period has arrived phew!

I know what you mean mellow all my friends seem to take 2 months to concieve, I'm now worried that because I'm passed that mark that there's something wrong!

I do believe stress can make you miss a period pinkie, hope it arrives soon!

I'm struggling at work at the moment (don't know if we're allowed to say what we do for a job in here???) but I know that if it takes a while to concieve I'll struggle to carry on! A member of staff had to leave because she couldn't fall Pregnant. I know this sounds premature but it's already starting to affect me :(! Xx

Oh Josie :( I am keeping everything crossed for the blood test for you.

So sorry to hear Josie hugs x

Oh, Josie I'm so sorry to hear that, we were all hoping to hear good news from your scan. Fingers crossed for the blood test results at 4pm.

And if it isn't good news, just take it a bit at a time as you consider your options. I wish there was something we could do to take some of your stress at the moment.

Fingers crossed for 4pm josie sending lots of hugs xx

Josie, I'm so sorry to hear that. Keeping every thing crossed for your results this afternoon.

Just a quick update - nurse said the blood results showed that not a lot is happening. They're going to discuss it tomorrow and ring me in the afternoon so I'll let you know what's going on then. And I'll name check properly tomorrow but thanks everyone

The nurse says I have to go in for a scan on Saturday and see from there. Hopefully that means there's enough going on that there's still some hope! So that's better news than there being nothing more they can do. I'm praying I'm not getting my hopes up for nothing!

I'm keeping everything crossed for you Josie (((hugs)))

Fingers crossed for your scan tomorow josie.
My lovely SIL had a beautiful baby 2 weeks ago and have seen them quite a bit. He's such a good little boy and im a very proud aunt :) good luck for all those waiting :)

Any news from the scan Josie ?

how is everyone else?

Any news Josie?

All quiet here, CD 6 so getting geared up for lots of sex over the next 10 days or so!

Hi, sorry it's taken me a while to update you all, I wasn't feeling strong enough. The scan wasn't good. I've grown 2 follicles of less than 1cm each but their criteria for EC is three of at least 2 cms. They were going to cancel the cycle there and then but we persuaded them to wait until tomorrow. So it's another scan tomorrow but I'm preparing myself for bad news. I'll have an appt with the doctor to talk about next options i.e. egg donors. My worst case scenario has come true, and now I have to come to terms with the fact that I'll never be a biological mother. I'm incredibly incredibly and at the situation, and tbh I'm feeling quite bitter towards DH, although he'd never know it because I know it's misplaced and I won't take it out on him. I just feel extremely jealous that he might get to know what his children will look like, but I never will. Anyway, I just have some issues to work through before I can decide if egg donation is the way I want to go

Oh Josie I am so sorry
I am keeping everything crossed for you that tomorrow's scan has better news.

It is perfectly normal for you to feel sad and angry. Please do talk to yuor DH about how you feel, not towards him but in general. It is not good for you to bottle feelings up, and he may want to talk things through with you too.

Huge (((((hugs))))) for you my dear.

Thanks Cave. I'm actually looking into changing clinics, as I don't think it's fair that I'm not offered any different medications/protocols etc to try and change my response. There's a few NHS clinics near me that I'm going to contact and see if they can offer us any other treatments before I decide on the donor egg route. Obviously if the other clinics use exactly the same protocol it's not worth changing. but it's worth looking into surely?

Josie I'm so sorry, sending you strength and support and I know there's nothing we can say or do that can help or change things, but we're all here for you. I agree with cave , talk to DH and it is perfectly normal to feel sad/angry/frustrated/let down etc. I wonder if there are support groups (I know, I know but maybe?) of people who've been in your shoes who might help? Definitely look at other clinics, explore all options, I think essential for your sanity that you make sure you've looked at every avenue - and I think don't worry about being honest with the clinic that that's what you're doing too, I'm sure they'll understand, this must be the worst part of their job too. And frankly - bollocks to stupid ovaries!! Life, sometimes, just isn't fair. But, you'll get through this. You will be alright.

Yes definitely look at other clinics and see what they are offering. Things definitely seem to vary a lot from place to place and you may find that you are better suited to another approach.

Be kind to yourself in the meantime though