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I thought it took a while?

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ImJustABloke · 16/11/2011 10:00

ImJustABloke but ... I thought getting pregnant took a while? We've only just started trying and she's pregnant after a week. This might sound ridiculous, because I should be glad that we're able to conceive, but I was really looking forward to being woken up at 4am because she was ovulating, or slipping home for a quicky in our lunch breaks. Not just because I wanted more sex (although, yeah to be fair, I did) but also because I don't feel like we've earnt it if that makes any sense?
Do I need help for feeling like this?

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ImJustABloke · 16/11/2011 14:45

right i'm not being funny, and most of you seem to be more interested in flaming, but someone help me out now because i am starting to get a little worried/confused.

the test said (as it says on the website):
Pregnant 1-2 weeks.
Which they say means
You are pregnant and you conceived 1-2 weeks ago

and the doctor will date her at 3-4 weeks

We had sex on the 3rd, 4th, 7th and 8th. and she took the test on the 11th, which said 1-2 weeks.

To me the dates add up, but am i being just a thick bloke here, or does it not and i should seriously be questioning this?

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ImJustABloke · 16/11/2011 14:46

she also took a test on the 7th or 8th, which i'm sure said not pregnant, and one yesterday which again said 1-2 weeks?

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Ariesgirl · 16/11/2011 14:47

No. Those dates do not add up.

Sex on those dates would not give you a positive result for longer than that. You are right to be confused.

LoveInAColdClimate · 16/11/2011 14:49

Well, if you conceived on the 3rd, it would be very, very early to get a positive test 8 days later. And, obviously, even earlier and less likely if you conceived on one of the other days. Most people don't. But there are exceptions, some people (but very few) do get a positive result that early.

LoveInAColdClimate · 16/11/2011 14:51

Oh, plus those tests which tell you how long ago you conceived are some of the least sensitive out there, as someone said above, I think. So the chances of a positive test that early are even slimmer.

farfallarocks · 16/11/2011 14:51

The very earliest you can get a test positive is really 8 or 9 days after ovulation

So even taking the 3rd as conception, a positive test on day 11 (and those clear blue 1/2 week jobs are less sensitive and only work at about 11/12 days after ovulation)

Did you have no sex before the 3rd? You may have conceived earlier than you think

ImJustABloke · 16/11/2011 14:53

oh this is going to sound ridiculous and the cogs are already turning in my head, because no i was away for the past 2 weeks. must have been the 3rd then. don't ask me when her period is meant to be, i dont think i know for sure, but i think it's generally around the middle of the month (?)

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LoveInAColdClimate · 16/11/2011 14:58

Could you have conceived before you went away and it's just that she's further along than you think (and that the test indicates)?

nickelbabe · 16/11/2011 15:10

yes, if were away 2 weeks before, then the test could just be saying 1-2 weeks, when really it's 2+ weeks - when did you do it before you went away?

ImJustABloke · 16/11/2011 15:18

we did it before we went away, but we weren't trying and used protection.
we decided while i was away to start trying.
I left on Fri 21st Oct, and I came back on Weds 2nd Nov.

In my mind if she had gotten pregnant before, say the 20th or something, that would make her almost 4 weeks.
If she got pregnant on the 3rd or 4th, she'd be up to 13 days pregnant, right?
If she got pregnant on the 7th or 8th she could be up to 9 days pregnant right?

Or am i completely missing something here?
The test thing says accurate within 4 days of your period?

Or are you just trying to confuse or provoke me like those 'masterful detectives' previously :-/ sighs

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nickelbabe · 16/11/2011 15:20

the 3rd or 4th might work for you.
13 days - especially if her cycle is fewer than 28 days (26 days would give her an ovulation of 13 days ago)

Ariesgirl · 16/11/2011 15:27

If I was out of order before, then I apologise.

iloveberries · 16/11/2011 15:28

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LoveInAColdClimate · 16/11/2011 15:38

But to get a positive test on the 11th after sex on the 3rd would be really early still. I got a positive 11 days after ovulation, using a super-sensitive 10ml test, but had had a negative at 9 and 10 days (yes, I know, sorry, Lissie, if you're reading this Blush).

I now feel really bad for the OP, having come on for a stealth boast and now worrying about paternity Sad.

nickelbabe · 16/11/2011 15:43

it would still be early, but a sensitive test might pick it up.

OP, did you see the test, or did your DW just tell you that's what it said?

iloveberries · 16/11/2011 15:43

oh god - sorry folks, i hadn't seen the 2nd page before i posted. not cheered up at all now....

hope you figure it out i'm just...

PopcornMouse · 16/11/2011 15:45

I would second (third?) that it's very, very unlikely you'd get a BFP after 8 days. Possible, but very unlikely.

I would think she got pregnant before you went away - sperm can survive for up to 5 days before fertilisation and no contraception is 100% - plus perhaps the sticks are showing the wrong date owing to dilute wee and/or it not being first morning flow. I wouldn't immediately leap to the conclusion that paternity was in question.

ImJustABloke · 16/11/2011 15:46

no i neever actually saw it
she text me the picture of the positive one.
what the hell is going on here ? :-/

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LoveInAColdClimate · 16/11/2011 15:49

What contraceptive were you using before you went away? Condoms are only something like 97% effective (and I think that's without taking user error into account) so it could have been before you went away.

Pozzled · 16/11/2011 15:51

Has your DP calculated her due date? I would guess that she got pregnant before you went away and the test is a bit misleading. Also, it could have happened while you were away, as someone says sperm can live inside the body for a few days.

nickelbabe · 16/11/2011 15:52

it's fine, i;m sure she just used a very sensitive test.

FatimaLovesBread · 16/11/2011 15:53

Confused Can you ask her when her last period was?

snuffaluffagus · 16/11/2011 15:54

Or she could be a month further on than you both think and the test was a bit out.. don't panic!

KatAndKit · 16/11/2011 15:54

Can't you just ask her when her last period was? Say you wanted to work out the due date using an online due date calculator so you need to know the last menstrual period to do that. She will know this date as the doctor will ask her.

I am an amateur expert on home pregnancy tests. The very very earliest you can really get a very faint positive is 9dpo, first response and perhaps superdrug may, if you are lucky, give you a faint line then. The clearblue with conception indicator do not really begin working until 11 dpo and even then, that is if you are lucky! Of course, if you get 1-2 you could be anywhere from 11dpo (days past ovulation) to 15dpo. Or even a couple of days more as the tests are not an exact science.

I think this conception would have resulted from having sex before the third of the month. Clearblue say you can use the test 4 days before your period is due, so that is 10-11 dpo. Assuming ovulation took place on the third, that would mean no positive result would be possible till approximately the 13th or the 14th of the month.

However, sperm can live for a few days in the fallopian tubes. Lets say she ovulated on the first of the month (quite possible with a first positive test on the 11th). You could have had sex five days before that and it still could result in a conception.

Another possibility is you had a shag on the 21st before you went away. The spermies lived for, lets say, 5 days. That means a conception could have taken place as late as the 26th or even the 27th October if you have some long lifers. Did you use contraception before you went away?

Add 2 weeks to that and you get the 10th November. The clearblue test does not show up early for everyone.

It is impossible to deduce paternity from a home pregnancy test. However, when you get a scan, take 14 days off the dating they give you, count back on a calendar and that will give you an approximate date of conception.

PopcornMouse · 16/11/2011 16:00

...I would also not be surprised if she found she was up the duff, freaked out that you'd freak out, and had the "lets try for a baby" convo with you and maybe showed you an old stick :o

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