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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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How likely is it to get bfp in first ttc cycle?

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mytime777 · 14/11/2011 09:35

I have spoken to a few people about this. whilst most got pregnant without officially planning some friends / family that were planning were successful in first 1-3 cycles!
I know that lots if people on here have sadly been ttc for years , so I just wanted to get an idea if these that I spoke to were just really really lucky and that it does generally take much longer! I Want to get a bit more info from peoples experiences as the internet gives u an idea but not sure how realistic this is and want to avoid disappointment if I can as I'm my first 2ww..

(I'm late 20's,partner early 30's)

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molly3478 · 14/11/2011 09:37

I have been pregnant 4 times all within one month of trying but 2 ended up being miscarriages

sprinkles77 · 14/11/2011 09:39

2 pregnancies. First one in first cycle. 2nd after 7 cycles ttc.

SparklyGothKat · 14/11/2011 09:39

Ds1 one cycle
Dd1 two cycles
Dd2 one night
Ds2 one cycles
This one one cycle.

I'm very fertile tho.

Bit gutted as I don't get the fun of 'trying' loads

Iggly · 14/11/2011 09:39

First cycle here - but it was the first cycle after stopping the pill. Many I know it has taken longer (the GP won't be interested unless it has been 12 months +?)

Guitargirl · 14/11/2011 09:41

I have 2 DCs, both conceived first month of trying. I have 3 sets of friends in real life who have struggled or are still struggling to conceive and after reading some of the stories on here I realise how lucky we are. If we decided to try for a third then we would both be quite a bit older and I don't imagine it would be as easy next time (if there is a next time!).

Good luck ttc!

dottyaboutstripes · 14/11/2011 09:45

I've been pregnant 10 times (6 children, 4 losses)

The first 6 times it happened in the first cycle, then I lost a tube and it got trickier, but the longest it took was 7 cycles (until now, it's been 20 cycles but I am fairly ancient...)

SecretSparkle · 14/11/2011 10:07

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KatAndKit · 14/11/2011 10:36

If you have sex regularly at the right time then you have about 20% chance each month.

eurochick · 14/11/2011 10:48

Someone did a thread on the Pregnancy board a while ago asking people how long it had taken them. The answers were very varied.

I have friends who have managed it first month and others who have tried for years and then had success with IVF. I am at the end of my 12th cycle of properly trying and additional numerous months of not being careful without seeing a BFP.

MillontheFloss · 14/11/2011 11:26

I got pregnant in the first month of trying but sadly that ended in miscarriage at ten weeks. Now on cycle two post mc and hoping i'll be preg again soon! Lst cycle was all over the place so kinda seeing this as the first proper cycle really. I'm in my early 30's btw.

beangrower · 14/11/2011 12:49

Hi all - it's a bit of a lottery, innit. 1:4 chance if you are 20s/early 30s with each cycle (and plumbing and the spermies are ok of course). This drops to about 1:10 by 40.

My mum knew a family who assumed they wouldn't have children (before IVF etc) then fell pregnant and had a beautiful daughter after 19years of marriage.

One thing I would say is - expect it to take about a year so that there is NO PRESSURE. But spend 3 months optimising your health and taking folic acid...

Easier said than done. I'm old duffer - first DC - conceived 6 weeks of living with OH and born when I was 38. Now struggling to conceive... So there you have it.

Late 20s is a good time, I'd say.

StitchingMoss · 14/11/2011 17:11

Sparkly, trust me, the fun of 'trying' wears off bloody fast .

kickingking · 14/11/2011 17:22

Got pregnant first month both times we've tried. I was 28 the first time and 33 the second, DH is the same age as me.

eurochick · 14/11/2011 17:22

I second that Moss. The first couple of months there is a sense of adventure and it's all a bit special. That wears off very fast!

StitchingMoss · 14/11/2011 18:22

Absolutely eurochick - given it took us over 60 months, that's more 'fun' trying than anyone can endure I think!

whereismywine · 14/11/2011 19:19

I thought the first month of trying was fun. After my period came, it stopped feeling like fun and now twelve months on - I am still no closer to being pregnant. I'm 34, was 33 when began and am about to be 35. Friends my age have been more lucky and conceived within 3-6 cycles. You just never know - its one of the few things we have no control over. I hope you don't have to wait too long x

stuffthenonsense · 14/11/2011 19:35

DH and I are very aware of how lucky we are, but both our beautiful DD and this pregnancy were conceived first cycle. We were very relaxed about it both times as both times we thought it would take ages if it happened at all due to our ages, with DD i was 36 at conception, he was 49, with this baby i am 38 he is 51.

I find it quite difficult to talk about as i have friends who have been/are struggling and it feels a bit like rubbing it in.

I used the ovulation tests straight away with this baby as i am still breastfeeding and wasnt sure of ovulation...i just bought the cheap ones and they clearly worked a treat.

BikeRunSki · 14/11/2011 19:43

Both DC planned. Both in late thirties/early forties. Both conceived in one cycle. DH bit miffed that the ttc bit was all over so quick! (No offence meant to people who have been ttc for a long time)

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mytime777 · 14/11/2011 19:45

Thanks ladies . Gives some relief that it happens soon to some. Guess Everyones different and age/ medical history / all play their part!
Hope u all get positive results soon!
I have A week to wait!

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naturalbaby · 14/11/2011 19:48

ds1 - 3 months, ds2&3 one hit wonders i had ovulation pain after ds1 was born so knew what day was a good day to go for it.

mrsden · 14/11/2011 19:53

I've read that the average time it takes is 6 months and most people I know seem to manage it within 4 months, so there is a good chance that you won't have to wait too long to get your BFP, OP. But, it does take some of us much longer and usually there is no way of knowing if this is a case until you start trying.

I understand that trying might seem like fun and I did find it exciting for the first few months but honestly there is no fun in it when you are looking at your 18th cycle of SWI 3 times a week with no results. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Good luck to everyone trying.

Karbea · 14/11/2011 21:02

Hello,

Been to see my acupuncturist tonight and we were talking about how more and more people IVF, I think as time goes on (future generations) it's going to get harder and harder, lots of factors such as plastics, the pill etc... very sad...

I'm 12 months on after trying, I wouldn't say it's not fun anymore, I just don't particularly feel like we are trying now, and I know AF is always on her way...

eurochick · 15/11/2011 11:23

A friend of mine who now has IVF children is looking through old diaries at the moment and sent me this excerpt:
"How can it still be soul destroying? 22nd disappointment shouldn't hurt this much in every possible way."
She got pregnant with an FET the next month. I recall that she looked like an empty shell of her former bubbly self at the time. Those of you that manage it quickly don't think you are missing out on anything good from having to try for longer.

farfallarocks · 15/11/2011 11:34

Can I 2nd/3rd/4th the fact that trying much beyond the 3rd month is not at all fun?

I too feel like a shadow of my former self, I used be a fun and relaxed person. 11 months in and I am weeping mess, consumed by TTC, its the first and last thing I think about in bed, it KILLS me that everyone I know gets pregnant first time or without even trying. I feels like its all some big joke that I don't get. My friends are mostly pregnant or have small baby and so our lives are just very different and I feel a bit left out.

whereismywine · 15/11/2011 17:50

farfalla I could have written that post, I feel exactly the same way and I'm in the same position with friends. I think, there are plenty of us about, we are just a bit invisible in real life. To most people who I haven't confided in, me and dh look like a couple that may or may not be planning on a family. I've been shocked recently to find out that a friend has got pregnant after 2 years and on 2nd ivf attempt. I had no idea. I thought that as a couple they weren't into kids at all ( and that she had become very down and distant of late). So, you aren't by any means alone. And it is rubbish. Do join us on the 10+ months thread if you want to chat to people in the same boat, we are very friendly

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