How likely is it to get bfp in first ttc cycle?

[mytime777]

I have spoken to a few people about this. whilst most got pregnant without officially planning some friends / family that were planning were successful in first 1-3 cycles!
I know that lots if people on here have sadly been ttc for years , so I just wanted to get an idea if these that I spoke to were just really really lucky and that it does generally take much longer! I Want to get a bit more info from peoples experiences as the internet gives u an idea but not sure how realistic this is and want to avoid disappointment if I can as I'm my first 2ww..

(I'm late 20's,partner early 30's)

farfalla i totally share your pain.

We have been ttc for 21 months. We have been pregnant twice but miscarried both times.

First time took 11 months (soul destroyng)
Second time took 0 months (fell pregnant 2 weeks after mc)
Thought we had cracked it! BUT 7 cycles on and still no BFP.

I am incredibly jealous of you ladies who get healthy babies in a couple of months of trying. Seem to know a lot of these in real life too (grrrr).

Maybe when it does happen we will even more appreciative?

Good luck OP with the ttc and i hope it doesn'r take long (i would not wish this lengthy ttc misery to anyone).

It completely depends - we (naively) thought it would happen v quickly for us but 2yrs+ and one round of IVF we're still not there! Don't let it take over your sex lives - ttc quickly becomes incredibly trying if it's all you're focusing on. Just enjoy it!

Farfallarocks and whereismywine, I completely hear you!!!

With ds1 we only had sex once the first month of ttc and I got pregnant at 34. This time I'm 38 and we've completed two cycles of ttc and zilch so far and we've had a fair amount of sex. You just can never tell!

DS1 I got pregnant in the 6th cycle - and it was already no fun and I was upset and stressed. That was 6 cycles of really TTC, we'd been pretty laissez faire for several months beforehand, so it felt more like 9 months+ to us. We officially put it on hold for a while as I was so disappointed, and it happened that month. I'd only just turned 24 when we first started properly, I never thought it would take me that long at that age.

This time I got one period post DS1, we had sex once (we were both travelling a lot that month) long after I thought I'd have ovulated, and we got very, very lucky. That month I'd written off completely, we were going to start TTC the month after. I was expecting it to take at least 6 months again.

I second that farfall enforced shagging when you've done a 15 hour day and have to be up again at 5, which you know probably won't work anyway, isn't fun. Neither is having your whole life consumed by it and becoming, as others say, a shell of the fun person you used to be. Or enduring dildo cam on a weekly basis.

I'm jealous of the very fertile people here.

Very best of luck OP; hope it happens v soon for you.

I totally agree that trying longer is not "having more fun trying" and I think you are spot on that after the third attempt it gets progressively more miserable and you get progressively more obsessed with it and it consumes your thoughts and your life and is not in the slightest bit fun at all.

There seems like a common theme emerging: you simply never can tell your luck. PLUS - and no one else seems to have mentioned this - the luck of your sperm donor DH/DP/OH (or whatever circumstances you are in).

I imagine some women are doing everything under the sun to make themselves healthy and fertile but if the white stuff isn't any good, what can you do? That's just bad luck too.

As my luck was in first time round (conceived cycle 2, aged 37, v healthy pregnancy and home birth) and Lady Luck seems to have deserted me (roughly 1 year of trying for DC2, aged 39) I'm in an odd position. What I would say is my heart goes out to everyone who's having a hard, protracted time TTC and really feel the pain for lots of posters. And also - it is stressful and if there's any way to avoid that (ie - expect it to take a year and be pleasantly surprised if it doesn't) then try to stick with that approach.

Good luck and big hugs to all of those here who are feeling

DD1 - 8 months FTC
DC2 - 1st month (miscarriage)
DS1 - 1st month
DC3 - 1st month (miscarriage)
Ds2 - accident

farfallarocks - sending huge hugs to you. I (kind of) know how you feel.
DS came along very easily (2nd month) and we have been trying for another for a while now and everyone i know is pg with their 2nd and i am happy for them but it breaks my heart a little bit. There's no 'fairness' in it all is there xxxx

Thanks for all your kind messages, and sorry for derailing this thread
op. I was feeling extremely sorry for myself on tues!!

jemima so sorry about the MCs as well, same thing has happened to us, twice in 7 months, just about to start the journey again!!

highlove indeed, I wish I could give up work and just TTC but I think that might actually tip me over the edge

wine i am going to take a look at your thread!!

Here's to loads of lovely babies for us all in 2012

Hi all, bit of a newbie so excuse me if language not quite right etc! I have one DD who was v happy accident after a mc.
have been "messing about" for quite a while, ie. not exactly trying but not always being careful. Started actually trying end of Sept. this year I know that is hardly any time but it feels like forver, my cycle is v irregular and I have had 2 periods since this time, going by last month I am now 5 days late but going by previous month am only 1 day overdue. Took test today and neg-gutted! Just wanted to share as I am in mid 20s and although really I know it can take years, suppose i thought would just happen easily again.
good luck to all ttc!