I'm 42 & my dh is 37. Last month when I thought I was too, it was worse than this mth, in that I had symptoms that I've never had before, like headaches from the day I ov'd. I was convinced I was pg & did lots of tests, even went to the dr's for a blood test. Hrs later AF arrived & it was a relief tbh. It was totally consuming me not knowing. I would have loved it if I was but fine if I wasn't as not really planned. As soon as I'd had the blood test it was like a huge weight had been lifted from my mind, amazing.
Then my dh had told me he was actually coming round to the idea which completely surprised me. But we'd always said after our 3rd, that was definitely it, & because of my age that was fine.
But it's hard. A friend, who's only 35 though, is pg with her 4th & I feel quite envious. But I still know if my AF comes then I'm making a dr's appt next week to talk about more long term contraception.
I don't know how my dh will be really. I've shared everything with him but we know how hard we find the 3 dcs at times & I know he would worry about coping, although it would be down to me Mon-Fri for most of the day.
But for me the worry would be what other mums would think. A lot of mums in my eldests yr, mighy have one younger child. I have 2 but it could be 3! Also I would worry about the stats for downs etc. I wouldn't have any invasive tests thou which could result in miscarriage.