Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your leathers, black nail polish, air guitar and jump in the mosh pit for some serious metalling. All welcome! (Part 18)

[Summerbird73]

New thread for some serious metalling. We are ramping up the amps and churning out some Metallica, Nirvana, ACDC, Stone Temple Pilots... with the occasional 90's rave music!!

If you have miscarried and are ready to TTC again, come and join us in the WTF cycles with the odd VIP ticket to the padded cell for some serious mentalling (now known as Metalling)

Welcome!

I've already pee'd on my stick Poppy but wanted to pop in and say how pleased I am to see how positive you are managing to be (I hope that doens't sound patronising, I certainly don't mean it to be!) I think your plan of action sounds a good one, and its fab that you feel ready to embark on it right away - personally, I always feel that doing something makes me feel better, as otherwise I just get more and more wrapped up and frustrated!

Not sure, twinkle. All I do know is that Vit A is yo be avoided in pregnancy.

No POAS here yet. I want to try on DH's b'day, which is 3 days before AF, so will be picking your collective brains on here soon on which early HPTs are good. It'd be obviously fab to present him with a BFP for his birthday [hopeful] but I also would like to have an idea because on the following day we have a very big friends get-together...where two of my friends are pregnant (and as pregnant as I should have been if it hadn't been for the MC ).

's a bit quiet on here.... is everyone working ???

Just checking in to see how everyone is doing...

Wellies when I got my BFP with DS it was at 10dpo with a First Response, they are the best ones in my opinion although the Superdrug "early" tests (pink packet) are much cheaper and actually more sensitive. The only problem I find with them is that there is a plastic window over the bit where you see a line (or not) and sometimes it causes a shadow which can look like a faint line (or the other way around, there is a faint line but you think it is a shadow....hence my taking tests apart antics!!!!)

Stay away from the clearblue (non-digital) though - they are blue-dye tests with a cross if you are pg - I had a proper false positive on two of those when we first started ttc no2, and I know it can' have been a chemical because AF didn't arrive until 4 weeks later and all other tests were negative.

baby you are so right about feeling like you are doing something - I am actually feeling quiet relaxed about this cycle now, knowing that even if it takes another few months at least there will be some investigations and some options soon, it doesn't seem like an impossible never-ending quest anymore

Hello to everyone else!!

af got me yesterday so that gave me a lp of 10 days according to ff. better than the previous cycle when my lp was 7 days. i think i ov'd slightly earlier than ff says so maybe my lp was a bit longer than 10 days in reality.

i am wondering whether to ask dh to start trying this cycle. af wil be due when i just arrive/on the way to oz. if i am pg being on holiday would make the first couple of weeks fly by and i would be ready for a scan at seven weeks to begin my herapin injections when i get back. i don't get any symptoms apart from tiredness so it wouldn't really affect my holiday with sickness etc. if it doesn't work first time we can just ttc as planned anyway.

not sure what he will think to this plan. he wants to wait until we are in oz so next cycle but i just want to get cracking! might get him drunk around ov time and see what happens lol!

obviously meant "quite relaxed" although "quiet relaxed" sounds good too...

Sorry Pebs crossed post - Hurray for longer LP!! That's fantastic

poppy Oooooh, 10dpo, eh?! That gives me just 5 days wait Or I could wait til DH's birthday, a few days later... Will I resist the temptation? Place your bets please, ladies

pebs You'll hate me but I think it would be nicer to ttc on holiday :) Wouldn't it be nice, if you're successful, to be able to tell your future dc that they are Made In Australia! But obviously, waiting an extra month is torture!

Wellies a word of warning - at 10dpo the line was faint, and it was a nervous few days of testing to see if it got darker so if you test that early be prepared to invest in a few day's worth of tests... My DH wasn't convinced until the line was darker than the control (which was about 18dpo I think). Also, the earlier you test the greater the chance of picking up a chemical - I know you already know this but it is so absolutely heartbreaking....so proceed with caution

Pebs I know what wellies is saying, but if it were me I would want to go for it asap now that your LP is longer

Hi all,
Been mostly sleeping and eating but have caught up now - poppy so pleased that you have a consultation coming up, your definitely right about private care. You get longer appointments, more in depth discussion and your never fibbed off because you are paying to be there!!! Hopefully this will put you on the road to getting baby number two!!!

pebs hurray for a longer lp - here's hoping that things just keep getting better for you!! As for forward planning both sound good really but I 'suppose' you should discuss it with him, I say suppose only because I just seduced mine rather than filling him in on 'the plan' - he he he!!!

wellies waiting to test is really hard but then so is testing early - there is almost no 'best' way to do it. Maybe the best plan is to just see how you feel when you get closer to the day.

As for me - I'm getting bigger by the day so feeling good about that although the baby is now lying right behind my hernia and making it difficult to push back in when she decides to start wriggling. Oh well I'm just pleased she still seems to be doing well. Hope all of you are doing well and feeling good.

Love to all xxxx

Hello all...

Quick since we x-post!!

I too have been (gasp) working, though also have little to report - still WTFing along in my WTF cycle. Found myself getting a bit sad/jealous in the greengrocers' today: met a neighbour whose son is the same age as mine and she is now visibly pregnant - got a touch of the irrational BUT THAT SHOULD BE ME TOOs. Oh well. Onward and upward!

Thanks for the kind warning poppy :) Luckily my skinflint tendencies will probably ensure I leave it as long as poss to save on tests But am definitely trying on DH's bday which is 14DPO.

blue good luck with the deadline, shoot the assistant

leedy poor you. These little reminders of what could have been are horrid, aren't they. One of DS1's classmate's mum has the same due date I should have had, and I see her gradually blooming every day. Sigh.

leedy, I feel you on the "should be me" feelings. A friend of mine has a due date soon after mine. Seeing her scan photo on facebook put me in a bad mood for days after.

wellies, good luck for your test when you do it. What a lovely gift if you get a bfp on his birthday.

I'm in full pjs on the sofa mode feeling sorry for myself, I'm poorly and even sitting up for too long is draining. Testing on Friday fingers crossed for my bfp. Did one yesterday morning came back bfn, but I have no signs of coming on so I'm still hopeful for this time. Friday does seem a long way away though!

Morning all...soooo tired here not sure how I'm going to get all this work done, internal review meeting at 8:30am tomorrow (it's taking my every effort to be in for 9 at the moment so not sure how I'll get in for that, nevermind the work that needs doing to prep for it) and then main deadline 3:30pm tomorrow afternoon and then i can collapse in a heap and then I will go home early and pack to go and see my Brother SIL and nephew for the weekend...really hope 15mo nephew decides sleeping through is a good idea this weekend

leedy a friend at work has just left for mat leave...she's due the day I would've been before my MC! Was a bit when she was finishing on Friday TBH. It's not easy.

wellies and daydream hang in there with the 2ww and testing...the wait is horrible!!

Waves to everyone else...right...back to work...

Morning morning - anyone fancy a (sort of) mid-morning cup of tea and a brownie??

Wellies , 14dpo is the perfect time to test, not really early at all. Barring random late implantation etc pretty much any test would give you a positive result at that point I should think. I would try to hold out until then Easier said than done though, I know!

daydream Friday is tomorrow now, I bet that feels closer sending positive vibes your way!!

Blue you really do have my sympathies with the tiredness, with DS it was the main (and worst) symptom of early/mid pregnancy. I had a job that sounds a bit like yours and was constantly being told I had to be in for early morning bits and pieces (training, "breakfast seminars" etc etc) which was sooooooo hard and that coupled with deadlines looming and unreasonable colleagues was a recipe for me crashing at about 3pm each day and hiding in the disabled loo trying to have a sneaky 10 min nap (not my finest moment but I was desperate!)

It was only after this had passed that our health and safety officer told me that I was welcome to use the "sick room" which had a sort of camp-bed thing if I felt I needed to lie down. Sounds great but I am not sure I would have dared to announce to a bunch of stressed lawyers that I was "just off downstairs for a little lie down" I hope you start to feel more energised soon.

Not much to report here, AF has all but gone, CD6 and still popping the Agnus Castus and the VitB complex (100mg) so hoping this will continue the good work from last cycle. I got my info pack through from the clinic as well which has all sorts of comforting sounding bits of information...and a price list of course....but actually for what I suspect we will start with its not too bad. Its the consultation cost that's a bit of an eye-waterer (£175 for an hour) coupled with the cost of scans and blood tests but hopefully these will be one-offs and after the results are back we will be given a treatment plan to try. The drugs (eg Clomid) themselves are quite reasonable if that's what we're given. Its all starting to feel a bit real now :)

I hope the rest of you are feeling well today - its almost the weekend (ish) Hooray!!

Thanks for the brownies poppy Sounds like a good pack of info you've got through from the consultant, and glad that AF has nearly gone too!

Right...back to it...

Morning all,
Blue your memory skills are impressive; my scan is indeed on the 5th of December. I am feeling a lot more positive about things at the moment, even though I have had a tiny bit of clots passing (apparently blood can 'pool' as it leaves the placenta so is to be expected) as I am both tired and, on and off, nauseous. Also, we have already got names for either a boy or a girl which I am excited about. As DH was stuck on Alfie I was worried that I would not be able to find a good alternative that he liked as much, but didn't want something so currently popular (4th most popular) but have managed, in a fit of inspiration, come up with a name - hurrah! And DH loves it, double Hurrah! If you don't mind, I am not going to post it though, am a bit weird like that, either the boys or the girls name. It makes it all seem a lot more real, even though we are not in the clear (or at least the 12 week marker) we are close and I do feel different to last time. I thought I had symptoms till the MMC was diagnosed last time but in retrospect I think I had the tail end of symptoms.

POppy it all sounds fab from your end of things. Good to have things move forward as such isn't it? At least with that kind of fee you can also contact them whenever you like with any queries and, I imagine, get seen or a call back asap. Also, for the rapid pace of things moving the fee seems quite small in comparison. I think the NHS is wonderful in some ways, but in others it is a very slow moving and frustrating beast!

MyDaydream Friday is less than 24 hours away, what are you on about?! I have everything crossed!

Wellies when is your DH's birthday? Sorry if you have already said, I am too lazy to read back and check. I think, even though it requires willpower, holding off as long as possible is a good thing. After all, if its a negative you won't fully believe it and you'll only end up waiting for another after all.

daydream Friday is so close now!!

babysaurus his birthday is a week tomorrow and it'll actually be 15dpo, not 14dpo like I thought yesterday. I was strong yesterday and walked straight past a Superdrug, resisting the temptation to get the hpt recommended by poppy!

Mmmmm brownies...

Well done Wellies! However, nearer the time (of course) do remember that Superdrug have BOGOF on First Response

Hellooooooooo

This thread came up on my active convos so i thought 'what the hell' lets jump back in - And i missed you all desperately!

Anyway, me and DH had a couple of months off and are back in the mosh pit this month so far i am CD13 and no idea of my DPO as i have stopped getting the pains (but must be OVing as am still getting AF )

Soooo we SWI on CD9, 10, 12(last night) and might have a go tonight . I am out tomorrow night and then we are at the iL's on Saturday night so will make a last ditch attempt on Sunday!

So how are you all? No time to catch up on the 'fred now as am at work but will try and do so tonight.

Hi to all the newbies, will try and catch up with you all too

Martha/Summer xx

Marthas Hooray! Lovely to see you back, we missed you

Hope you are feeling nicely refreshed after your break!

yep all refreshed and ready to rock again

hows you pops?

Ok ok, by all accounts I had a bit of a week of it last week. I had a couple of faint BFPs and some nice temp rises on Fertility Friend only for bleeding to start on Saturday (at 17dpo) and then AF so I felt really down for a bit . I had a similar situation back in August too.

You'll see from earlier posts I am booked in to see a consultant at a private fertility clinic on Monday afternoon so that's making me feel more positive, like I am finally doing something proactive after months of not really knowing what's going on

(apologies to all who have seen all of this already!!)

Anyhoo - feeling good today, its almost the weekend and AF has finally departed so I am figuring this may be our last un-medicated cycle ttc so the swi will commence in earnest tonight and DH and I are prepared to throw everything we have at it this time!

How have you been anyway?

Poppy, sounds like a good info pack you got. Hope the consultation goes well for you, if it gives you some extra reassurance then it'll all be worth it for you.

babysaurus, congratulations on winning over Alfie, I have a popular name, and hated growing up hearing my name shouted everywhere and having an initial put after my name to separate me from all the other girls with the same name!

I'm always so bad at waiting for things, but it's just one more sleep now! Just got some serious eye rolling from DP who thinks I should wait until I'm actually late until I test rather than testing tomorrow. I'll be handing the test over wee end first if it's positive to get him back for that one.