CLOMID first timer....

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I can't seem to find any clomid threads that are active, so thought I would start this one.

Currently just finished taking my last tablet (50mg) on my first month of clomid, I'm very excited & nervous at the same time.

So many things going on in my head, no one to really talk to, symptoms are a bitch (but must mean something is working if I have symptoms yeah?!)

has anyone taken clomid without being monitored? My consultant isn't going to scan me to check on follicles, I just have to go back to see her in 3 weeks (not sure what for?)

Really hoping this works!

But if anyone wants to join me on a clomid ride, share info or success stories, feel free to......

Haha, no biggie, same first syllable :)

You are right - I do need to talk to her - I'm absolutely rubbish at confrontation though so I keep ignoring and hoping it'll go away, and also hoping that by the time her baby is born I might just be pregnant myself and then I can be properly happy for her instead of pretend happy

But, Summer, sweetheart, by taking just a little control of the situation - and asking her to do you what actually amounts to a very small favour by piping the fuck down - would make your friendship a whole lot more comfortable whilst you are trying to conceive. Don't simply hope that things will happen in your favour. Make it happen. You deserve to not have your friends (who should know better) shoving their babies in your face all the time. You could say, 'look, you know I'm thrilled to see your happiness and I'm chuffed to bits for you that you're a mum but I'm finding it really quite hard at the moment seeing so many babies around me (cite facebook). Could you please try to understand how I feel when I see so many reminders of your lovely baby? Can we talk about other things so I don't feel quite so on another planet?' Don't be afraid to tell her exactly how hard this is for you. If she cannot understand where you are coming from she's an insensitive dick. There's no shame in feeling resentment about these women who are dropping sprogs everywhere. I have only recently blocked certain women friends from my facebook newsfeed until their relentless showcasing of their baby scans runs out of steam. It's bloody annoying.

Summer, I've just realised she hasn't had the baby yet but my response would be exactly the same. When I was in rehab, one of the therapists gave this as an answer to someone who was fed up of the way his father spoke to him but didn't like confrontation and so ignored any opportunity to address the issues that were making him miserable. He simply said: 'If you carry on doing what you're doing, you'll carry on getting what you've got'. Isn't that simple? Nothing which makes us uncomfortable or irritates us or causes us pain will ever change as long as we carry on doing precisely nothing about it. I try to apply this to all areas of my life now.

Yes - you are right. Next time she sends something, I'm taking a stand. Golden never mind having a baby, you're already a mum to all of us on this thread!

Hey summer I agree golden is fab I luv her any news girls how are u all getting on I have my bloods fri.. day 20 an again day 27 to see if I have ovulated fingers crossed hey .. Well I been busying my lil self with painting hope use r all ok big hugs X

Hi ladies hope everyone is well. I'm sitting in a cold warehouse trying to stay away from a girl who today is making my blood boil I could actually smack her!!! I should be sat in a lovely warm accounts department lol I hope this is the clomid making me want to kill haha

Well it's cd16 for me today had another 2nd faint line last night I'm still only testing once a day as don't know how I would do it at work. I'm hoping in the next few days that I will get my dark line :).

Hello everyone! [waves at Summer, Meluv & Annalou] Nowt to report here except throbbing socket where tooth was extracted from last week (I had another good drilling from the dentist yesterday. Ouch!) Oh! I forgot..I had my day 21 bloods taken on Monday but don't know when I'll get those results. I'm 8DPO here and trying not to raise my hopes of a BFP. I'm going to test on Saturday morning (11DPO). Too early? What do you all think?

Annalou, head-butt the bitch

I've just had a thought. Apart from Mumalah occasionally popping in there are only three of us contributing to this thread! Where is everybody? Surely there are more women ttc on Clomid than us four? I wonder if there are ladies lurking who are too shy to speak?

"Come out! Come out! Wherever you are!"

Sorry, I meant four of us, plus Mumalah.

Hey everyone, nothing much to report here, last pills of cycle 3 tonight for me and then a scan on saturday.

Golden give your hospital a buzz, I normally get my blood results back the same day...they should definitely be done with yours' by now. Sorry to hear about your tooth, have you taken some painkillers or would you rather avoid while on 2ww? Testing - how long are your cycles normally? If you can bear it, it might be best to wait until the first day of your missed period, you can always try Saturday morning and if you get a BFN just wait a couple of days and test again...

meluv I really hope you get some good news on Friday/the weekend but remember we're not allowed to get downhearted if we don't :) (okay, just a little bit...)

annalou keep dtd while you're waiting for that dark line! Remember that PCOS can mess up OPKs, so as we always say just make sure there's some sperm there for whenever that little egg pops out. Oh and yes the craziness is almost certainly clomid related!

Hi, Summer. Never thought of giving the hospital a ring for the results. The lady who scanned me on CD14 just said she would ring me. I guess I could put a rocket under her arse.

You're right..I refuse take anything stronger than paracetomol during the 2ww.

I've drawn up a list of reasons why I may just be blessed with a BFP this month: 1) I am on Clomid!!! 2) I released two eggs!! 3) I had brilliantly timed sex and scored 'high' on the 'intercourse frequency monitor' on fertility friend 4) My body is now rid of the months-old infection from my decrepit tooth.

Here's my list of reason why a pregnancy this month is unlikely: 1) It's been nine months since I was pregnant so why the fuck should I get lucky this month? 2) I was x-rayed to within an inch of my life during my fertile window 3) I was on antibiotics for five days up to and including the day I ovulated 4) I have been pregnant twice in my life and both times I conceived around Christmas: 24th Dec (later aborted) and 16th January (mmc). I probably have an inability to conceive from February to November. I am going crazy. I am a terrible mother to you all [hsad]

Hi everyone,

I saw this thread and hope you don't all mind me joining? It sounds like there's lots of knowledge and stories to share and most importantly support which would be a great place for me to start my clomid journey.

Bit of background to me ... I am 32 and my DH is 33. We have been TTC for 16 months now. From the day we started trying my cycle went to 73 days and has been all over the place ever since. I was referred to the fertility clinic at our local hospital but my BMI was 30.7 and needed to be 30 so I was rejected. Had a number of tests and DH sperm was fine (we thought as much as he has 2 lovely little girls from a previous relationship... We have them 50% and I love them very much. However it does make this journey that little bit harder and slightly more lonely). Anyway my bloods came back on a number of cycles as low progesterone and possible corpus luteum deficiency. Because of my cycles being all over the place the 21 day bloods wasn't right for me but we did a few at28 as well after positive OPKs and it was still too low. I had a private session back in June at the hospital where I was advised a number of things. 1) forget about everything my GP says 2) I need to try Clomid & 3) if we have to go onto IVF in the future we can't on NHS because DH already has children, which is horrendous and for a while made us feel pretty stressed. Anyway I lost the weight, waited for Bout 6 weeks of phoning every day, referrals being misplaced etc to reaching my appointment at the hospital today (with the same Dr I saw privately). None of that matters as I feel like we are moving forward and I hope mine and DH relationship is getting stronger through all of this. Either that or he has amazing tolerance to my moods! I have been prescribed 100mg of clomid and have the pills sitting next to me ready to take next cycle. I am on day 20 at the mo and who knows when I will come on but average is about 37 so poss 2 weeks. I might have lots of questions and emotions along the way so saw all your posts and I hope you don't all mind but would love to be part of this little community...

Looking forward to being part of it and continuing to read your stories and hearing that you have BFPs very soon.

Xxxx

Hi ladies. Another faint blue line can anyone tell me when they think I may get a dark one if at all?????

golden you're not going crazy and you're a wonderful thread mama!
It's probably good that you have a why and a why not list rather than just a why list (though the 'why' list is largely much more rational ) because otherwise in the very worst case that AF does rock up this month you'd probably feel a lot more disappointed.

On your question about more clomid ladies - well, welcome CES - I was also going to say that there are a few on the infertility board, I think a lot of clomid ladies don't come on the conception board (I didn't for a long time - way too depressing)

CES Of course we don't mind you joining, I'm a newbie myself but everyone here is amazingly welcoming and supportive. The positive things I hear in your story: (a) it sounds like you're now with a very good doctor and (b) they are putting you right on 100mg and (c) you have lost weight which will really help you in your TTC journey.
We will be here as you wait to start clomid, start, go for scans, go for bloods (one of my veins has now collapsed it's been prodded so many times!) & all the other ups and downs.

I don't think anyone else on this thread is a stepmum (??) but if you do want to speak to another stepmum who is having difficulty TTC seek out flixy102 - she's an absolute gem and she's on the infertility board.

Sorry everyone ! I've had nothing to say lately, worth saying !
golden I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you ! Give them a ring, I was told to wait a week, but I phoned after 3 days making out I couldn't remember when to phone, and they had my results.
Meluv Good luck for Friday !
Summer I think you just need to keep testing, everyday- some ladies test twice a day. I'm still new to using them, so not much help really.
Ces Hi , I'm a mum, step mum , and step Grandma. Good luck , for when you start.
I'm on day 28, waiting impatiently for af to come so I can start my next dose (double this time), hoping this time, I will be more familiar with what to expect - side-effects, scans, and all the waiting in between these milestones during the cycle. I'm looking forward to a weekend away, this weekend. We've had quite an emotional couple of weeks. My mother-in law passed away last week and its been the first anniversary of my youngest son's death. So I'm hoping the break will do us good.

Oh mumalah you poor thing. I am so sorry - my heart really goes out to you. I hope you and your DH get some really good, quality, quiet time together this weekend to reflect on all happy memories of his mum and your son and to move through the grief together.

Hope also that AF turns up before too long so you can get cracking on cycle two, and that this is the one that 'works' for you!

Annalou my OPK have been like that dark line with one lighter one but I take it as a negative Hun It is frustrating but keep on trying I am ... Golden I wud stick more to the list as y u will get bfp be positive lovely like u always are xxx summer I will keep my spirits up no matter what news I get luv ... Mumala am so sorry big hugs to u xx ...CES welcome to this lil group Hun we are all on the same journey but all at different stages an all with different bodies what matters most is that we are all hear to help an support each other in anyway we can always hear for a chat if u need us golden is fab for her knowledge and is always there giving great tips an info all the girls on hear are amazing big hugs x

Aaaaaaaargh!! Just lost a gargantuan post thanks to mumsnet going offline! I wish they'd get their bloody act together

Welcome, CES32 . I hope your stay here is short, for all the right reasons! Those long cycles are just outrageous! A girl on another thread I'm on was suffering from 41 and 46 day cycles and she has been prescribed Provera (to bring on AF) and Clomid.

Mumalah, I am so dreadfully sorry to hear you lost your son. I hope you and DH find your time away peaceful and relaxing.

Annalou, as Summer keeps telling you, the PCOS may well cause you to never see a positive surge. Are you the lady who is not getting any scans or blood tests? Do not fear...the Clomid may well be working a treat and you just don't know about it x

Meluv, you're such a sweetheart and I wish you much luck tomorrow (what cycle day will that be?)

I'm 9DPO and have decided not to take my pregnancy testing strips to my mum's when I go to stay at the weekend. Because I am charting my temperatures on fertility friend, I already have an idea by 11DPO whether AF is on its way. Period is due on Tuesday. I am already mentally preparing for it

Hi everyone,
I hope you don't mind me joining this thread but my sister recommended I come on here as she felt it would be a good support network for me (she used mumsnet when she had her baby last year and said everyone was so helpful).

A little bit about me I suppose-I'm 31 and have been TTC (I hope that's right, I still haven't got my head round what all the acronyms mean!) for 2 and a half years now. I got married last year and decided I needed to do something about it. Anyway, to cut a long story short, I have very irregular periods (and always have since I started my periods at the ege of 12) where I can have a cycle of 35 days or 75 days or anything in between! I got put on Clomid in August this year and have now taken 3 rounds of it with no success. The fertility doctor at the hospital said not to do ovulation tests and to just try and go with the flow and have sex 3 times a week, but the nurse who did my scan to see if the 50mg was working said to do ovulation tests every day! Needless to say I have done them and every single one has been negative so I am hoping that the Clomid is working and just to ignore the ovulation tests!!
Because of my age, many of my friends have babies (some are on their second) and my little sister had her first baby last year. Obviously I am always really happy and pleased for them all when they tell me they are pregnant but a little bit if me feels sad inside for me but then I feel like an awful person for feeling that way.
It's so nice to read some of your comments on here as I found myself agreeing with many of you and feeling like I'm not the only person to feel this way (as I have felt like that for a very long time).
It will be good to chat to you all as you go through your journeys and hopefully all of us will have a positive outcome (whatever that may be) at the end.
Look forward to talking to you all.
xxx

JoMarie, hello and a big welcome Have you heard of Provera for bringing on periods? If you read my last post you'll see I have a friend on another thread who has just been prescribed Provera and Clomid. Will you be scanned and/or have your blood tested by the doctor who has prescribed Clomid for you? These OPKs certainly seem to be a fruitless exercise for some women. I tend to agree that they can give false hope. It is a fact that a positive LH surge does not automatically guarantee you will ovulate. The OPKs are really only useful as an indicator of when to cram in all your SWI (sex with intention). Ask your practitioner about Provera together with Clomid. It sounds a good plan from what I've read. I feel strongly that fertility 'experts' should not just chuck Clomid at women before making a concerted effort to bring her cycle length under control.

JoMarie, I've just re-read your post more slowly (stupid me) and I can see that you've been on Clomid since August and you have been scanned. What did the scan(s) show? Did they test your progesterone levels (or is that impossible for someone with your erratic cycles)? What have been your cycle lengths whilst on Clomid? Are they going to increase your dose? I would be tempted to demand that someone makes it their business to regulate your cycle length.

Well thank u so much golden u do make me smile I will be CD 20 tomorrow I still have had no joys with the OPK bit like annalou a darker line an a fainter line but am still on with the bed rocking babes lol to be honest I don't hold much hope for this month after what consultant said but hey ho I've still tried gorge hope an pray it all goes good for u this cycle please let us no the news from ya test luv good luck an massive hugs from me to u my period shud be due the 14thhope it never comes an I end up with a big belly ha ha ....joemarie welcome lovely and your sister is right u will get a lot of tips help an support from us girlies on hear we r all in it together and all hear for each other no matter big hugs lovely xxx

Hello JoMarie and welcome to this crazy clomid club :) You will definitely get the support you're looking for here.

I echo all of golden's questions on your care - I don't have erratic cycles, I have NO cycles (at least until this most recent round of clomid - first period in over a year) but the nurses basically told me to start clomid on day 29 even if no bleed.
Have you had internal ultrasounds to see whether follicles are developing? If not you must push for this...anyway, let us know what care you've been receiving and we'll let you know what care you should be receiving :)

And the bit about feeling a bit sad when others get pregnant - totally, totally natural and doesn't in any way make you an awful person. It is damn hard.

Love to everyone on this chilly november evening! Let's hope this is our month ladies...

Hi everyone on here and thank you for the welcome.

Mumalah- I hope you do get the time you need and truly enjoy this weekend. I am really sorry that you had to go through something so heartbreaking a year ago I can only begin to imagine what you're going through sending you a massive hug. Here's to hoping AF arrives soon xx

Golden - thanks for the tip about provera I too have read about it somewhere. I have no idea how easy or accessible my consultant is yet as I haven't had much chance to interact but will be sure o bring it up. Can a GP prescribe it? as i have made a decision that i dont care if i am a nuisance when my cycle gets to 34 days each month I make an appointment to bother my GP. Last time he offered anti-depressants! I am hoping this cycle I will be less. I have avoided OPKs for a while so I didn't get obsessed in the wait for my referral (even though I am obsessed about every other symptom). However I do tend to get ovulation ish pains on my right side and had these plus EWCM from about day 14 so am hopin this could be a shorter cycle. My GP also suggested that at these longer cycles started from the exact month we started TTC that these could be chemical pregnancies where the egg may well be being fertilized but not implanting due to low progesterone and poor quality egg/corpus luteum and therefore not showing as BFP because implantation hadn't occured and jo HCG hormone is released. It does seem strange my cycles only started gettin longer and me and DH even really naively and being stupid joked in the first month that perhaps I was allergic to his sperm or something as we had been using condoms before.

JoMarie - I totally understand how you feels bout others around you it's so hard, you don't what to be the one you avoid and can't talk to and make exceptions for but at the same time it makes you feel sad and being honest completely envious. I have just told my friends that know that have recently had babies (which feels like about 95% but isn't really) that when I come to them in their environment or invite them and baby somewhere I totally expect them to talk eat sleep and breathe their little bundles as it's an amazing time for them (I have to say every time I still go home and cry on DHs shoulder) but when they don't hear from me for a bit not to be offended I just need some time out. Also sometimes I might invite them out or be going along to
adult things and may then avoid the conversation. My best friend recently had a baby and knows my situation. 2 weeks after she wa born I had a girls gathering at my house and invited her. I would totally have understood if she had said to me either, it's a bit early and I am not sure I an leave my little one yet so I won't come OR would you mind if I brought her along. Instead she replied on Facebook saying I will be there with little one not really giving me the option to say no when all my tier friends were xommentig saying can't wait to meet her. After the long waffle I have just written lol my point is that for those I feel I can I am just up front and others I just discreetly take time out from until I can handle it.

Anyway it's now 3.20 am and I am wide awake but am going to sign out as I too am off for along weekend away in Venice with DH as his ex has the kids. I am thinking it will help take my mind off the impatience of wanting AF to arrive so I can get on with my frst round. Apparently it's flooding in Venice and I need to take wellie boots... Not great with only hand luggage... Sending you all lots of positive thoughts for BFPs and a big thank you for being on this thread and haring your stories what strong women you all sound. X

Ps sorry about atrocious spellings it's hard on an I phone in the middle of the night x