With angel babies in the sky, some of us expecting rainbow babies, others still ttc and definitely swi!!

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started new thread! we do talk a lot, don't we?

Good luck tomorrow, Green! I agree with Ciwi, it's probably just a back to work interview - just a formality so your boss can tick the box to say that he has done everything he has to do for you.

Ciwi, hope everything turns out ok with the consultant in 3 weeks time!

Ciwi fab news about the scan. Try ringing the consultants sectarty I ve always found that the best way to go. Outline the plan your consultant originally gave you and always threaten then with a complaint or to speak to PALS ( patient advisory liasion service) hope this helps xx
I too have been having 4 weekly scans and consultant reviews.
Diffed thanks, what day is your scan? X
Too I finish for mat leave on 7 th October, got 3 weeks at work, 1 week AL then 1 week at work. Seems to be going really fast. Will be bittersweet when I finish last year I had a nice " fuddle" on the day I finished and a baby shower the day after. However, I wont be doing that again it's unfair on Gils but can t tempt fate.
Diffed really am so pleased for you. X
Hi all ; this thread seems by and large to be going very well at the moment. Long may it continue xxxx

Hi all im fairly new to this thread.
Ciwi - good news that the scan went well, sometimes hospital staff can be so insensitive and really need totake time to find out your history first, better for the next time you go!
AngelGeorgie- its amazing how pregnancy seems to go fast for everyone but slow for you, hold onto every memories new ones with this baby, although youll never forget your angel watching over you both. xx
as for everyone else sorry have not read from the beginning - i dont know if a stats list would help id everyone?
im off for some zumba on wii now! check in later!

Thanks angel :) I've got a scan on Monday (when I'll be 6+0, paying privately) then I'm seeing my obstetrician next Thursday, and I'm hoping for another sneaky peek!

Time is going so so so slowly right now - I want it to be the weekend!

green Hope all goes well at work tomorrow.

xxxxx

I bet !!! Diffed I remember I had my first scan at 6 weeks this time and that wait from when I had my BFP at 3 weeks seemed like FOREVER!!! Then up to 12 weeks seemed a long time , even though I was being scanned every 2 weeks!!! Hope the weekend flys by for you. Xx
Mama thanks x. Yes, everyone else thinks this pg has flown by . However, it's not dragged as much as I envisaged.but I do feel like I ve been pg for 2 years now!!! Now , just need the next 6 weeks to fly by. Feeling worried now I ll go in to labour early so written a plan that must be adhered to and instructed my DH to be my advocate and demand they bleep my consultant and got to have IV antibiotics pre-op. Not willing to take ant chances. ( mind you, not that we did with Georgie).
Love to all xx

waves at everyone
Do you think women who've never suffered a loss even know half of the stress, worry etc of us guys? I used to think getting pregnant/staying pregnant was ridiculously easy, lets be honest, you see plenty of ppl doing it! Who knew!
I know one thing tho.....we will ALL be better, more attentive, more grateful mothers :)
Yeahh so i'm still at the stage of feeling jealous and wanting to shout WHY NOT ME everytime i see a pregnant women LOL :)

Oh. and saw consultant yesterday. Total stress waste of time, because I was supposed to have been booked in to see the haemotologist, and they'd booked me in for gynae! So now got to wait another 3-4 weeks to see the right man. sigh Time is hardly on my side!

Oh. and you ladies are clearly the people to ask...so lube kills sperm? Has anyone tried preseed?

oh my goodness, this thread is going fast today will have a proper catch up tomorrow!
still no AF here, although if I would have a 'normal' cycle it would only show round the weekend. Breasts are a bit itchy, having to go to toilet more often and very tired... but hey, could be all in my head... wish we were next week already

kite not sure about preseed, but after watching that 'great sperm race' programme the other day I would say anything like that could hinder sperm.

AF is deffo here! booooooooooooo Im really confused though as now I must have a shorter cycle but I still have the long bleed time. (well we shall seee with this one) If I do have a changed AF cycle now then when I had cp last time I did wait the correct time but still got a bfp. so more booooooooing

Im up way to early getting ready for work, have AF cramps from hell, dont want to go in, just want to stay in bed, so once again Im going to go boooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

FX for you blue

Blue fx xxx
Green you may find you ll feel better when you re back at work having a laugh and banter with your colleagues. It's one of the factors that helped me to get back to some degree of normality after loosing Georgie.
mama what you rd experiencing is totally normal. I felt exactly like you i' d look at pg women and think " you haven t got a clue" look how easy it is for you!!! That was at my MC stage !!! When I lost Georgie I pretty much hated most people!!! But I came to the conclusion " bugger everyone else" through counselling and over time I learnt that my bitterness was only hindering me when ttc everyone else was carrying on with their lives , whiter I hated them or not!!! ( this does not make me and angel or with an holier than thou attitude!!!!) I still see chavs at work pg or with loads of kids and wonder where the fairness is??? Oh no , there Isn t any!!
If you read up on Pre- seed it's fine to use with ttc, in fact that's what it's recommended for, normal lubrication is acidic to sperm. We ordered pre- seed on line and used it intermittently it certainly helped us as we were doing the " egg meets sperm plan" and that involves lots of sex so sometimes needed a little help!!!
Nice and sunny here have a good day love to all xxx

Morning, not been able to catch up in a while. Hello to the newbies. I've been feeling so low and depressed that I'm barely functioning right now. Can't sleep much or eat much again. I'm really struggling. Forcing myself to leave the house for the first time in days today and see if the sunshine helps. Youngest dc is going to my mums and taking the older two out (it's the littlest one's treat time with them).

Sorry to moan and for not being up to date with everyone. I'll try and post later. Good luck to all and hope all pregnancies are going well xx

Morning all,
Gosh there has been lots of activity on this thread!!
green I am really sorry that AF is here. When I had CP's my next period was always slightly early which I always found strange as would of expected it to be later actually. My friend had her AF 21d after her cp, she did get a BFP the next month so fx (twice as hard) for you this month. Hope that you find that you quite enjoy being at work and like angel thinks it brings you some light relief
cheese I was actually starting to wonder where you had gone. Really sorry that you are feeling so low at the moment and hope that you have got lots of support from your other half, family and friends. Keep coming back to talk on the thread as everyone here knows how you feel. You are not moaning you are 'sharing' with those who understand.
blue this could still be your month.........

Nausea and (lots) of sickness has hit me good and proper now and I feel dreadful. Start a new job next week (I no I didnt time it well) and really hope I can conceal things. Thankfully I work a lot on my own so heres hoping.

cheese hope you are ok, I am here if you need to talk.

green BOO to AF. It will happen again for both of us soon enough.

razz sorry you are feeling so rubbish, but it will be all worth it in the end. x

cheese Im sorry your feeling down, please come on here and moan and stress about stuff, you are not alone and the chats and banter might help a little.

A big FX to everyone on this thread who are TTC or have a little bean in side, we all need some luck.

I went into work this morning, its a 25 minute walk and about half why there I had a panic attack, had to ring my DH to reassure me. Did end up getting there in the end but couldnt hack it all day so really just went into see everyone. There were all so nice and got lots of hugs and there were alot of tears. I was told that everyone had missed me and that when they had heard about Ophelia they had all cried and the office was seriously depressed for a while.
Ive been given different duties as the boss said he wants me to have time by myself or with others its up to me but he wants it to be flexible. Usually I work in a group of guys working to a schedule that has to be met, so Im pretty pleased with this also it gives me another two cycles of TTC without the hassle of working with heavy machinery and chemicals! Yay, so that is a load of my mind.

Razz thats good to know, it really knocked me for six it coming early but then again I did ov early. I tell you DH isnt going to know whats hit him this month! lol
Good luck with the concealing things, get the ginger biscuits or anything ginger to try and curb the sickness. Also lots of water, well this seamed to help me. Do things slowly too and hopefully your new work place will just think you sick all the time. lol How long are you going to try and conceal it for?

Green that's really good news about your work. I know that feeling of apprehension as I sat in the car for 5 mins before going in on my first day!
I've had a ridiculous day so far. It could be renamed national peeing on stick day! Decided to do pg test first thing and the ov test later as I have no clue where I am in my cycle just now. Both negative but I'm not sad about it as I was just being nosey.
Lots of hugs being sent to those who need it, I was like that last night. DH to the rescue for me last night!
I'm working at 5 today so about to head off to the shops

green boo for AF and glad your work is being good to you - its awful on that first day back.

kite i dont think people who have experienced loss do stress or think anything will go wrong, i know with my first 3 dc's after i got passed the 12 week scan i thought that was it a baby will be fine, i know that is not the case now.

i am now 14+5 getting closer to the time we lost grace and slightly panicing now. i go see the consultant next week and get another scan at 16-18 weeks. however other than being tired and getting headaches not having many symptoms at all.

Hello all,
green I am so pleased that your morning at work went well and that they intend to really look after you. It must feel so nice to realise that you are so well thought of
I no that it is hard shakey but try to relax (you will have to remind me to do that soon im sure)

I feel really evil for typing the following but do any of you ever get slightly annoyed at the trying for a girl/boy threads??? I often feel like answering with a "does it really bloody matter, just pray for a healthy baby that lives" and have recentley said those very words to my cousin. Maybe im just super hormonal.
Hope everyone has had a good day.

I was just reading one of those trying for a girl threads and wondering whether to post on it! Particularly the one where the poster said you have to either feel the deep longing for a girl or else have empathy to be able to understand. FFS! Actually, may give into temptation and go be really rude.

Thanks everyone, I'm feeling a bit better now. Got out for a walk with the kids and dog and went to visit Scarlett too which left me feeling more peaceful. I'm just thankful I don't feel like I did this morning as that was just too much.

razz I do have support, I find it really helpful on here though actually with people that actually understand, noone really does in real life. Hope the sickness doesn't last too long for you! I always feel like answering those threads like that but seem to stop myself.

jane thank you x Fingers crossed for you

green thanks, the chat does help a lot, you're such a lovely bunch of women! x Really glad about work and that they were so understanding. Panic attack sounds horrible, I've suffered from them and they leave me so drained afterwards.

Mel Fingers crossed for you, hope it happens this month for you

shakey (hugs) I hope you can get lots of support in the coming weeks

Too I've just seen that thread and I think what you said was totally right, I always want to say the same. I would love to have a live baby regardless of gender.

cheese Im so glad that you feel a little better, you will get there. I always find a calmness when I visit Thomas's resting place also. We all have to do whatever it takes.
too well done you for getting your point across on the other thread, you said it perfectly. You have also made me feel less evil.

Those threads are stupid for silly ignorant people who have no experience in life. I don t even waste my time reading them. However, my neighbour , whos now 20 weeks pg told me last week that " she'd be really disappointed if she didn t have a boy " . I couldn t believe she' d have the nerve to say that to me!! I thought it was me being hormonal but all my friends agreed with me it was out of order,I was so proud of myself that I didn t respond " just be grateful that you ll have a baby that's alive!!"

Stupid,stupid people.

Razz, I just got madder and madder the more I thought about it, so I had to go on and vent. I notice that the thread has vanished now, so I suppose someone must have reported it. Just as well. There are a couple of others as well but none are quite so smug and offensive as that one was. Angel, I think your neighbour was out of order too - if you care that much, then find out the sex at your 20 week scan and get over it before the baby arrives!

Cheese, I'm so glad you came back - I was worrying that something had happened. I find myself sinking much more easily at the moment, and I think it might be pregnancy-related. We drive past Thea every morning and evening and I always say hello to her, but on the way home tonight I had a flashback to the morning after she died, when I woke up at 5am in the hospital and cried. DH woke up too and rang the bell to get the MW to bring Thea to us and I held her and cried all over her. I don't know whether part of it is that DH is finally ready to help choose a headstone, so I know we'll be doing that soon. I'm glad the sunshine helped today and that you were able to go and visit Scarlett.

Green, hurray for work being so nice! That's so good, because you were so worried about it, and being off the heavy work with chemicals as well - excellent for ttc! Boo for AF, but that means today is Day 1 of your pg - and you can enjoy some delicious soft cheese and pate, if you feel so inclined.

I'm so tired. I'm going to have a bath and go to bed, I think.

Too MNHQ moved the thread to other subjects and removed your comment. Pity really! I totally agree with you!

Why did I read That thread? Curiosity got the better of me and I'm totally raging! Naivety must be a wonderful thing to have when dealing with being pg! Night all x

too with regards to my neighbour she 'll probably have a boy as shes one of those lucky people who always gets everything their way!! But I m trying to maintain the attitude of I m still better off than her as I ve already had my Georgie and also to not give a shit what other ( insignificant people to me) do or think!!!
Thank god it's Friday!!!! So tired. Off out with some friends tonight for a meal so that will be lovely. Yeh saturday tomorrow a lovely lie in
Hi all xxx