Secondary infertility....a gloomy thing

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Dear Ladies,

We are awaiting results for sperm test and I have a normal set of results for my blood tests, day 3 and day 21. So I feel a bit mixed between having something called explained fertility or unexplained fertility. Either diagnosis does not seem preferable to me.

I am 34 years old due to be 35 in december and DH is 40. We are wondering what people thought to jumping straight into ivf treatments privately or whether to keep going naturally? we have been trying since january. Which sounds like nothing its just so unusual not to be pregnant after conceiving our first so easily.

My husband seems to think we will conceive naturally, but I am less convinced. And I am keen to get started on treatments. But he would like to wait and see. But even starting on treatments takes a few months to get anywhere close to getting pregannt. I feel so impatient.

And embarassingly I have found it hard to talk to mums pregnant with their second. and will often go away and cry. Sorry to be so so gloomy.
It just feels like such an embarassing condition where other people get frustrated by your lack of offspring too.

Sorry to rant on.... I would dearly love to hear from other mums suffering the same thing.

Just wanted to say I know how you feel. I also have a DS who is nearly 4 (minor miracle in hindsight), been TTC DC2 for 2 years, and finally got test results back....DH's swimmers are...basically...not swimming! So we have been referred for IVF (we have to pay, somehow, as we don't qualify for NHS funding - of course) and start our first cycle in the next week or so. I hope you ladies get the answers and BFP's you need xxx

Hi Dannygirl, we have our second appt at the clinic on Friday so would be interested to know how they went about getting you from the NHS to the private clinic? What sort of tests did you have to do etc? Also, once you're at a private clinic, do things move a bit quicker? Please tell me I don't have to wait so long for appointments!!

Good luck with your cycle - keep us posted xx

Hi Lisa we were really lucky as have health insurance through work, so we managed to have the tests done privately. Obviously now we are moving to IVF they don't want to know, so it's down to us to pay. We had our tests at Hammersmith in London so have just been referred directly to their own IVF unit. I was really happy that I got the coordination appointment (basically where they tell you about all the drugs you have to take) within a week which is obviously amazing and I feel really lucky about that :) The consultant we saw did several tests - bloods on both of us, DH got his swimmers tested - twice - as the first result was so bad they thought it might be a mistake :( and I had a scan, hsg xray and had to have a polyp/adhesions removed before they recommended next steps. Hope this helps, good luck with your appointment x