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Hop aboard the March 2012 bus!

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Liliana1 · 30/05/2011 18:03

Well I fell off another bus and rather than wait around for the next one I thought I would get another going myself. So have stocked it up with cake, Wine - for the first 2 weeks and Brew - for the 2ww'ers :)

Hoping it will be a lucky bus for lots of us - and I might have a birthday baby :)

Liliana (31) ttc#1 ucl 28 af due 26th March

(I have left out the CD as it is never up to date and all we really want to know is when are people testing!)

OP posts:
180 · 05/07/2011 18:37

I'm exactly the same. Am feeling grumpy, eating everything in sight, which is classic pmt for me but was sure earlier was having symptoms. Not so sure now!

Poppyjen · 05/07/2011 19:00

Oh morning I am so sorry to hear that Sad Look after yourself.

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Liliana1 · 05/07/2011 20:50

So sorry to hear your news Morning take care xx

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MyCatLikesToHideInBoxes · 05/07/2011 20:58

I really feel for you morning, hope next month brings you a little bean that sticks around.

Oh crikey Byrnsie, I'm starting to feel a bit nervous about testing now - I think it's because last time I was pg I really "felt" pg and also had consistent low level nausea from conception onwards but I don't have any of that right now so I feel I'll probably just be seeing "not pregnant" on there.

I do, however, have sore boobs, mass spot outbreak and even cried about the invalid lady who waves out the window to Thomas when reading ds's bedtime story (saddo!) so you never know... hope springs eternal til the fat aunty sings and all that.

HorseyGirl1 · 05/07/2011 21:13

Sorry to hear this, Morningcoffee. Be kind to yourself and try again. Maybe next month will be the one xx

Byrnsie30 · 06/07/2011 09:51

Hope I haven't made you nervous cats.

I'm off the bus. Stupid, predictable AF is here again - I hate her!!! Angry Sad. I was close to tears last night, but managed to contain myself. Been through several hours of self doubt, what if it's me etc, etc. Now I just want to get through this week so I can get on with ttc again!

Rant over! Good luck to all those who are still waiting to test. I'm off to the April bus (if there is one!!) x

Byrnsie30 · 06/07/2011 10:00

Just started the Hop on board the April 2012 bus for those who have fell off, come join me for commiserations, wine and plans for the coming month!

ThisCharmingMum · 06/07/2011 10:37

Morning ladies,

Firstly, congratulations to all of you with BFPs. I so happy for you (and a little envious too but in the kindest possible way!)

Also, my heart goes out to those of you with chem pregs. Not sure there is anything I can say to make you feel better, but just want you to know that I am thinking of you. It's something we are all scared of :(

I have not been on MN for a while for a couple of reasons. One being that we moved this weekend. Everything went pretty smoothly and we are about 80% unpacked (I do like to put percentages on things!). Which is a lot further along than I thought we would be half a week after moving.

Reason no.2 being that I had a raging argument heated discussion with DH about ttc. Some of you will know that it is me who is driving the whole ttc thing as DH is content with a DS and a DD, whereas I feel as if my family is not complete. It took me 2 years to convince him to ttc. Last month we didn't really swi at the right times because there was a lot going on with house move prep and work etc. This month we swi once on around CD10 and then on CD12, we had the row.

DH said that he wasn't sure he wanted to continue ttc because he really wasn't sure if he wanted another DC.

To cut a long story short, we had tears and arguing and all the rest. I eventually told him I gave up and obviously couldn't force him into it. Was devastated.

He then sent me an e-mail from work saying that the past few months had been the best of our marriage for years and that if that is how things could continue then he would go ahead with ttc for my sake. I replied thanking him, but have asked him to think about it properly because I can't deal with getting hopes raised and dashed repeatedly.

We haven't talked about it since and no opportunity to dtd because of house move. Not sure how to raise it with him again, but it needs to be resolved.

So, unless by some miracle, I conceived on the one day we swi this month, I think I will be joining April bus. If DH turns around and says he can't commit to ttc, then that's me off buses forever. I will deal with it if I have to but it's going to haunt me for the rest of my life. I guess people go through worse things so trying not to be melodramatic about it.

All of you who are ttc, I want you to take a moment to be thankful that at least your DH/DPs are cooperating. That is todays reason to be cheerful :)

Sorry about long post.

ThisCharmingMum · 06/07/2011 10:44

P.S. To fill the void in my life left by lack of ttc, I bought myself an iphone.

Highly emotionally disfunctional but hey, it made me feel better!

ingo · 06/07/2011 11:36

congratulations to all the bfps.
af arrived yesterday :( cycle seems to be gettin shorter so hopefully will have more of a chance next month:)

Poppyjen · 06/07/2011 13:05

I'm off to the April bus - AF arrived yesterday Sad but Smile as UCL has now gone down to 38 days instead of 55 which is much more manageable!

Thischarmingmum sorry to hear about your argument with your DH - I had a similar "conversation" with DH after my mc last month which had us both in tears, hope that with a little time and perspective he sees your point of view and you can continue to ttc equally as happy and supportive of one another Smile....See you on the April bus!

180 · 06/07/2011 17:31

Morning, byrnsie, ingo and poppy. Sorry to hear your news. Lots of hugs and wine from me. May the force be with you on the next bus.

TCM I coulld have written your post. Also have dd and ds and dp who was happy with that. Also just moved. I had to tackle dps objections one by one.. Money, space, too many people on planet, just getting our life back,enough hands and laps and car space to deal with two etc etc.

He kept asking me why three and my only response was that I had always wanted three, am one of three, obv like and am used to dynamic. Also felt it may damage our relationship if he said no and didn't want to resent him. Imho money and space etc are resolvable problems whereas I can't decide to have a child later as my chances are finite as I get older and I want to have them and then get on with my career etc. Fortunately he has come round but it's been quite a year and I was very unwilling to BD if not with intent so am glad he's come round. Good luck with it.

Byrnsie30 · 06/07/2011 17:47

Hey all,

Sorry to hear your troubles TCM it can't be easy if one person wants to ttc and the other isn't too sure.

Hope to see you guys on the April bus (I started it already, even though AF will be with me this week!!) x

180 · 06/07/2011 18:13

still to test properly so may yet be joining you there!

MyCatLikesToHideInBoxes · 06/07/2011 19:54

Bye Byrnsie, ingo & poppy - sorry to see you all going but I'm sure next month will bring you all loads of luck and I might see you soon on the April bus (bagsie the back seat!)

TCM - I really hope it all works out for you - it sounds like despite his reservations your dh loves you enough to give it a go. Maybe if he's been feeling that things have been really good with the two of you recently, he's just got a bit scared that once a new ds/dd arrives it will all change and he won't get that quality time any more?

In the meantime, hope you enjoy the iphone - I love mine, it has revolutionised my life (when I can wrestle it away from ds). Grin

180 · 06/07/2011 21:59

Who is still left to test on this bus? My AF potentially not due until the 12th (can't remember exact date from last month)

BitsyVonMuffling · 07/07/2011 07:08

Me! I'm not due to test til Saturday but sneaked an internet cheapy this morning which not surprisingly was neg. I am losing hope a bit I think. I was so sure this month was our month, I've needed to pee more and last night felt ever so queasy, but this morning I just feel my period's round the corner :( Will test again tomorrow as I can't help myself

MyCatLikesToHideInBoxes · 07/07/2011 07:33

Me too - tested this morning, bfn as predicted. Won't press the just bell yet though as I'm not 100% sure when I ov'd so will wait til af to board the April bus.

Jebel · 07/07/2011 08:29

Me too bfn, but only 11dpo. Don't feel remotely anything this cycle, not even pre af symptoms. I will test again until af arrives....

180 · 07/07/2011 08:53

Marvellous same here. Tested twice now with bfns. Could be anywhere from 12 to 9 dpo. Am now waiting until 12th before I test again. They were First responses though so am a bit Hmm aboit ot all. Am feeling preg, weeing more, nausea and broken sleep. Also had af systoms of bloating and grumpiness. Haven't had that feeling really fat bit yet.

ThisCharmingMum · 07/07/2011 11:27

Morning Ladies,

start wandering up and down the bus with a black bag picking up the wrappers and cake crumbs left by those of us who have left to join April bus or March 2012 antenatal thread

Just getting the bus cleaned up for the next batch of passengers.

Thank you for the words of comfort regarding DH. 180, I did feel a lot better having read what you wrote. Your experience mirrors mine in a lot of ways. We have talked until we are blue in the face. I have tackled all DH objections again and again. But I think what it really boils down to is that he doesn't really want another DC.

The ultimate question will be whether he would be prepared to have one to make me happy. I have already sold my soul to get him to agree. Have agreed to severel terms including me doing all nappy changing/night feeding etc. With the other 2 DCs, we did about 70% me and 30% him.

Have agreed that we would stop at 3 even if I wanted another.

I will hang around this bus for now until my AF due on 12th July just because we did swi once so I do have a sliver of hope to hang onto.

After that, I guess we will have another heart to heart and see where things lead.

You are a lovely bunch - I can't really talk to anyone else about it because my family and friends have too much invested emotionally in me and DH so are more likely to be upset on mine/his behalf. I really wanted an objective point of view. So thanks :)

mycat You are right, I know he does love me and he's a good man. Must remind myself that he is not having a dilemma just to annoy me!

I love iphone already he he.

Not many of us left to test is there? At least this issue with DH has taken away my POAS addiction from last month.

Oooh I am going to send out positive vibes again. They worked for a few people about a week ago!

I did the wrapper collecting so I think someone else should volunteer to hoover the aisle.

minipie · 07/07/2011 11:51

I'm still here Charming!

Testing on Saturday. (Did an internet cheapy yesterday, BFN, but it was way too early so I'm ignoring it).

Charming and 180 sorry to hear your DPs are not on board. Can I ask, before you started having DCs had you discussed how many you wanted?

ThisCharmingMum · 07/07/2011 12:09

Hi Minipie! When is AF due again?

fx for you!

At beginning of marriage, DH wanted a large family. I quote 'I can see myself living in a big house with lots of children running around'.

Still working on the big house he he.

I guess is impossible to know how many kids you want until you have had one or two.

I think 180 has talked her DP round. Which is hope for me!

re: hoovering:

stare at minipie with my best 'you have let me down and more importantly you have let yourself down' face

HorseyGirl1 · 07/07/2011 13:11

AF due 12th July but persuading myself I'm not so I'm not disappointed. I'm not even saying that I'm testing on that date as I feel I'd just be setting myself up for disappointment. But oh, I want to get one of those First Response tests and test this Sat. I can't though, it would be much better to buy one of those OPKs instead I think. If Af doesn't arrive on Tuesday I'll test but if it does then OPK instead. Maybe soon xx

BitsyVonMuffling · 07/07/2011 13:21

It's difficult isn't it? I am sat here with some mild cramps so am more than expecting AF to show up on time on saturday. ANd I bought a giant bar of dairy milk at the supermarket which again leads me to think I'm about to come on Hmm. But we'll see. Fingers firmly crossed for everyone :) Am so desperat to know one way or the other, am considering doing another test this evening even though I KNOW it will be neg