2 MISCARRIAGES AT 42yrs!!!!!!!!!!

[jeddah]

I don't know if people remember me but I am JEDDAH and after TTC for nearly 2 years now I have just had 2 miscarriages, 1 in July at 6wks and 1 yesterday at 5.5wks.

I am in total shock that it happened twice .....I was almost relieved to have the 1st one as I know it is so common and I had got it out of the way!...but to have a seond miscarriage 3 months later....

Has anyone ever had this and then successfully got pregnant, I just need to hear something positive to spur me on.

morning Jeddah
here you go
had DS at 38. had blighted ovum at 8 wks when he was 1 (I was 39). conceived 7 months later but that was a miised mc and had ERPC again at 8 wks (2 wks beofre my 40th). have been hvaing reflexology teh first 6months of this year.loved it bit obviuosly not very effective as had teh second mc in teh middle of it. have lately been trying acupuncture at one of thse chinses places that seem to be springing up in ervy town centre. ffel tht they saw me coming and ahve taken me for a ride as wehn i've read up alittel about it teh needles semed to be going in completely random places. teh consultant we saw after mc number 2 said my FSh levels were raied adn that could cotribute to difficulty conceiving plus risk of mc. have you had your checked? since tehn i am trying to be more careful about my diet - no caffeine, alcohol, restricted dairy. lots of freshfruit adn veg. only thing I can;t & won't give up is chocolate!!!!!! I was in a bad way after mc2 as I really didn't expect lighning to strike twice. I would say its takenme at least 6 months to not cryabout it whenver I think about it. I KNOW how lucky I am to ahve one child but in my mind I had named teh other 2 & I stilfond it devastint that my body is letting me down so badly.
So I know a littel of how you feel. please let me know if there's anything I can do to help & in teh meantime hnag on in thereand be kind to yourslef.

oaktree xxx
sorry crap at spelling at this hour.

jeddah. I am in my mid-30s. In 2003 I miscarried at 4.5/5 weeks in March and then again in May. My m/cs were early and happened naturally. I then conceived dd in July, who was born the following April.

I felt like you after my first m/c (you know, it happens, you just try and get on with things), but it was a real shock to have another one. In fact I felt quite angry - it was the subject of my first ever post on mumsnet.

If you want to know anything else just ask (on here or via 'contact another talker').

Meantime, as oaktree says, be kind to yourself (you too, oaktree).

Thanks oaktree and hewlettsdaughter for sharing all that!

I have had all my hormone levels checked I have had an ultra sound scan of my ovaries and uterus and I have had a HSG to check my tubes all of which are normal!

my DH had a low count and since then we have taken on a healthier life style and on suppliments and his count is now up 5 fold!......

then after all this going our way.... 2 miscarriages.....I really am trying to stay positive... things look like they are happening and I am praying that the third time will be ok!

Thanks again for sharing your stories
will keep posting

Your dh's count going up fivefold is great - and as you say, things look like they are happening! The thought that at least we were able to conceive did help me. HD x

Was almost wondering whether anyone was writing about me!!!"Only" 41 but will be 42 in few weeks time. Had first mc 9 y ago, but didn't mind as wasn't planned. Had second mc in March (due date would have been today...). No luck sofar...but good to hear some pos stories here.

Madness so sorry to hear about your 2nd mc....your due date should have been today!.... gosh this world is a cruel one!

I am 42 in a couple of weeks aswell!
How long have you been ttc?
Hope you don't mind me asking but... how many weeks were you when you mc in March, did it hit you very hard?? daft question really isn't it?.... mc always hits hard!

How are you? are you positive at the mo? I guess it make all the difference, the hardest is getting there though!

Hi Jeddah,

another day gone, "live goes on". I was about 11 weeks in March. To be honest the whole 11 weeks didn't feel right, had blding at 6 weeks as well. Only started trying last Dec, but because it happened so quickely at that time, makes it so disappointing it is lasting so long to get pregnant this time. Anyway, I try not to lurch too much on these threads because it just makes me more obsessed about the whole thing...
Good luck to you!

Hi Jeddah,

I have had 3 m/c, the first 2 were 15 years ago and they also happened just months apart. I only found out when i went for my scan that the baby had died a few weeks previously. I was devastated. I had to have the baby removed which made things even more difficult as they made me wait over the weekend until they adnitted me to hospital. Then 2 months later the same thing happened again. I went on to have a successful pregnancy and have a beautiful 14 year old daughter,if i had'nt miscarried i would'nt have her.

Four years ago i decided that i'd like another baby ad i became pg very quickly, this resulted in a miscarriage again. I could'nt beleive it was happening to me again but as i was a good bit older i did think that had something to do with it. I was 36 at the time, anyway a few months later i was pg again. I now have a 2 year old little girl. I am also currently TTC and i'm very worried about the same thing happening again. This is my third month TTC and i'm starting to get a little bit downhearted that nothing has happened yet.

I'm so sorry for your loss but the pain does ease with time. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone and there is every chance that you will have a healthy pg.

Good luck

Tracey

Madness I know what you mean about the site making things more stressfull. I was a regular on this site about 9 months ago and i had to stop because it was stressing me out and really upsetting me. You take your time honey go at your own pace.

Can I say one thing though.... 2 of the members I stayed in contact with personally (contacted them by their personal email) and this was a great help, made it more personal and I was able to contact them regularly and it eased my pain and anxiety. I helped me so much and I owe them the earth!

If you want to chat contact me at my eamil through the 'contact another member'... if you like

TRACEY.... same goes for you honey.. if you are ver neededing some positive vibes, I dont usually do this but just to let you know that I am a midwife and Health Visitor (just incase you thought I wasa bit of a screw ball!)

GOOD LUCK TO YOU BOTH ANYWAY!