Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other...

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Hello!

Newly updiffed and freaking out about spotting, cramping, the wait until your first scan and each little twinge? Settle in for lots of hand holding and supprt until you're ready to move to grads

Tapping thing? What is that?

LadyBee thanks for the wise words will carry on cycling for the time being...

Awesome news HKBaby !!
Nix I'm sure flutterings come and go at such an early stage. Poor moggy, as long as he doesn't eat another bat
Hairy nausea+faint = pg symptoms! :) my counsellor had me looking for evidence before could worry about something
Choccie how awful, I hope you're resting now. I'm sure it's fine though, all that protection that your bean has for this early stage. Could you get a scan to reassure you?
Beaver awesome name :)
Silly poor thing, I agree with bloods and/or scan, only way to tell I do hope it's good news
Wombat so glad to heat Wombat Bean is ok and glad they reassured you about bleeding
Knitter !!!! so for you! I agree with the continuation of cycling

Hairy and Mamap my scan's on Friday too. Can we hold each others hand? Mine's at 10.20. Wish I was first thing, I hate that you have to go back and sit with everyone still waiting whether it's good or bad news :(

I made it through the journey, but had lots of gipping and constant eating to keep it at bay, so that and the belching I must have looked a right freak :)

Ive taken up knitting :)

Pink i go to bed alone every night.... DH listens to his audio books and hardly ever speaks to me... enjoy your peace and quiet... chill the feck out and stop poisoning your bean

Forgot to say hi to Pink :)

My God you ladies like to chat :)

Will try and keep up:

WooHoo Knitter!! I remember you from before (can't remember the thread but pretty sure we have mc'd together at some point :( )

Hairy I agree with the others that your symptoms are very encouraging!

HK Pleased your scan went well too!! :)

Fingers crossed for mamapower and Hairy on Friday!

Nothing to report here. Randomly did a test tonight even though a) I'm not pregnant and b) I am 10 DPO at MOST.

DH has said no to me seeing Dr. Shehata for NK cell testing because I have "only" have 2 mc's......

Waves to all I missed! Have been LOL at all the peeing on multiple sticks! The most I did was 11DPO-15DPO and kept all of them (including the ones I rescued from the inside of the CB digital ...from when I was pg with DD.

Hello all DH has agreed to help me do the house stuff. knitter I like the list idea, think we'll give that a try. Being high on hormones doesn't help me stay rational and calm when talking about this stuff!! Hahaha the thought of me ever being described as rational and calm would make anyone who knows me laugh hysterically .

I am so so so tired-is anyone working shorter hours or anything? I've been using holiday to have a day off a week which helps but it's only Tuesday and I feel like I need to sleep for a couple of days. I am putting this in the good thing evidence bag....

knitter I say carry on with the cycling, like the others say, cling onto any normality you can keep!!!!

lady it's called EFT and involves meridian tapping. If you google EFT there are a few sites and videos that show you what to do. You just need to come up with some positive affirmations, usually starting with "I choose to....." it looks barking mad but my MIL swears by it.

orange good luck surviving the journey, it sounds v grim!!!!

banana go for it. When I was talking to my gp about having testing done, he said the Nhs wouldn't wait for 3 mc in an ideal world but there's just not the money to test before then. I'm at the ARGC in London, they test for NK cells too.

Have a good day all xx

pink i'm sort of working shorter hours by leaving earlier in the evenings (between 6 and 7pm instead of 9pm plus) and then catching up by working a day from home at the weekends. Not ideal but it.s my own way of trying to do right by me and the bean while not telling work I'm pg (in case I mc again - I don't want to harm my position at work until I know I'm actually going to get a baby out of it if that doesn't sound insane!)

hello knitter

Glad to see it's not just me whose DH is driving them FRIGGING nuts....He has a bit of a cold (groan), and so has been doubly useless. I got really cross with him, as he doesn't ask me how I am, or offer to help with anything - he's also one of those that leaves a trail of stuff behind him. By no means am I some anally-retentive tidy freak, but I try to live in some semblance of tidyness.
Got to DD bedtime yesterday - I'd been feeling sick all day, and had hit that wall of horrible tiredness, and when I ask him to put her to bed, he's like "I'll just finish my lemsip first" (with a pathetic face). She needed to go to bed and he takes forever to drink hot drinks - so had a tantrum, and did bedtime myself. Just told him he's gonna have to buck his ideas up - I'm hormonal, steroids make you grumpy and I'm a bit mental through worrying.
He better get himself sorted - am currently eyeing up DD hobby horse and wondering how far I can shove it up his arse, if he annoys me anymore....

banana87 go for it! if it instinctively feels right for you to try Dr S, then do...you may come back fine, but at least you'll know and feel more reassured.

Whoever asked about tapping, just remember that before you start the tapping, sit there and picture the emotion that you are feeling. Rate it 1-10. Then when you do start tapping, try to keep hold of the emotion. After you've done 1 round of tapping, you'll find it will have dropped - do as many rounds to get it down to a 1 or 2. My therapist says that this is the important part of it. Good luck - it is a brilliant tool - you'll feel super-relaxed after using it.

Right, sending sanity and relaxation vibes to all you loons xxx

My boobs don't hurt any anymore owl does your diary say anything about this???

womby that makes lots of sense, I'm completely with you on wanting to keep powder dry at work for as long as possible......

((( love ))) I would have lost my rag too. I would love it if DH/DPs had to experience pregnancy one day a week, would be hilarious!!!!

pink nor do mine! I have no symptoms and am dreading Saturday as I now feel like all I'm going to see is an empty sac again :(

I'm finding it really really hard to stay positive (especially after my train arrived this morning with half the usual number of carriages so it was standing room only and v sardine like)

Yup, it basically goes "whoop! they're sore!" then the next day "shit! they're not!" and continues for about, ooh, 3 weeks like that

IT MEANS NOTHING. I promise you.

I have only told 3 people at work and none of them are actually my boss. That can wait. If I hear a heartbeat at my MW appt next Thurs then I think I will tell them. If I don't I shall be too busy screeching in a blind panic and rushing to the nearest private scan/doppler selling merchant. Even though I know that 16 weeks is too damn early to find a heartbeat on a doppler for many people.

Dachs and Pink come over here and I will tap your meridians. With this large monkfish.

Knitter there's an updiffed lady at my work who is still cycling in and she must be approaching 30 weeks by now. I am v.jealous of her ability to balance as I am crap at riding bikes and usually fall off. Needless to say, I will not be riding to work!!

Fuck - just deleted my post!!!! AAAAAAARRRRGGGHHJHHHHHHHH!!!!

pink and Dachs hoping you are both fine. Some people don't have loads of symptoms, and I am furiously totting mine up, but it means very little, as none of my symptoms disappeared when I had all 4 of my mc's.

Just try and stay positive (says mental, loony woman here), and remember that after what you've been through, you are both amazing, strong women. Think we should all be wearing Superwoman outfits .

Can't believe how many people I am rooting for here....

Right, gonna go and spend some of DH money as punishment for being an arse. Must try not to cry in public today - feels like it's gonna be one of those days!!

Thanks Owl pink and Dachs my boobs have stopped hurting too and I had some spotting when I wiped this morning, and continuous achey period gripes since yesterday afternoon. Which has cued a day off, frantic call to my fertility clinic and muchos tears. Am resting now and waiting for a call back to see if I can have an early scan - at 5 weeks 4 days it's probably too early?

Congrats Knitter! Here's hoping the next 9 months are very boring and non eventful.

pink you nutter have you read your post from last night? Sorry, I know it was probably the most awful thing at the time but I did chuckle a bit that you threw a tantrum because you didn't know when your DH was going to bed. I used to throw tantrums like that, but that was during TTC when it was important that we were in bed at the same time , don't give a flying what time he comes to bed nowadays.

knitter congratulations! and yes, I'd keep cycling if it's something you're fit enough to do.

Line was MUCH MUCH darker this morning and came up instantly, so feeling good so far (4+3).

Was hoping to compose big long post with lots of namechecks, but have just been given some urgent work to do.

Right there with you orange. I have the first appointment of the afternoon clinic but last time loads of emergency's were squeezed in before me so was waiting around for ages, the wait is so frustrating

Pink and anyone else with a difficult dh... I recommend you buy the following 2 books and give them to your DH's as a gift. I did, telling my DH I wanted him to be as involved as much as possible, he read them fron to back, laughed a lot and now totally gets that I need extra help, and that I am a hormonal mess some days etc etc... Written by a bloke for a bloke:
Bloke's 100 Top Tips For Surviving Pregnancy & The Bloke's Guide To Pregnancy both by Jon Smith

My nausea reached a new high this morning but I am still fending off throwing my guts up, I am being very 'mind over matter' about it to try and stave off a relationship with the loo, don't think it'll last too long though if this carries on!

Waves to all

The local clinic near me won't scan until 6 weeks - which makes me suspect they won't see much right now. They might be able to see something though - my guess is that they might ask you to wait it out for a few days and see what happens, hopefully they'll be able to give you some reassurance though.

Day off sounds like a good plan - hope they ring you back soon.

Thanks owly I smell lovely after bing tapped with the monkfish -scan went fine, so relieved i stood and cried outside the clinic like a weirdo. Told dr my boobs don't hurt, he says it doesn't matter. dacha apparently faintness and dizziness is completely normal and is one of the first signs people used to get to tell they were pregnant before pee sticks.

barbie I had aches and cramps and backache too, dr said it's normal and it's things expanding and bloody hell it's true, my uterus is like a cave now!!! Fingers crossed for good news for you.

knitter I don't think I've said congratulations yet-fabulous news!!! Starting the thread really does work afterall!!

Thanks ladies - it's SO lovely to be here

Just organised DH so that we're going to have the early scan on the 22nd - bean should be 6 weeks old then so nice and visible (DH didn't see the one we miscarried as when we had a scan that time it was only 5 weeks so just a sac really)

nix what are you knitting... as you may guess from my name I'm a big knitting fan :) Currently knitting a zip up waistcoat thing for DS (home knitting) and some socks (work knitting)!!

Hahaha digi Erm I have to confess that I did wake up this morning and apologise to him this morning as I realised i was being ridiculous and I actually could have just gone to bed..... luckily he realises that I'm being a hormonal weirdo and is very easy going thanks for the book recommendation mamap will defo get them.

Fab news on the convincing line digi, it's so reassuring when that happens.

Also fab news on pukiness mamap!!!

Hello everyone, broadband disaster over the weekend, and v busy at work - hopefully will have a chance to catch up properly later.

Have my scan booked in for the 22nd - will be 8+3 so fingers crossed they'll be able to see something. The dog's food made me throw up this morning so taking that as a good sign!

x

Morning!

Well, I've been to the GP (who was lovely) and my scan has been booked for the 17th, when I would be 6+6. Except that I was so pleased to get a scan I just said yes, and am now wondering how on earth I'm going to get chickie to school and whether DH will be able to come, so I may need to phone to jiggle the date a little.

Silver - ooh goodness me, another scan on the 22nd, along with Dachs and Barbie and Knitter! Nothing wrong with cycling, Knitter - the Dutch and Danes do it until they're too top-heavy!

Barbie - poor you, hope you're coping with the strain.((hugs)) At 5+4 you might see a yolk sac, but would be lucky to see an embryo and probably is too early for a heartbeat.

Silly - I hope it's a new BFP, but agree with the others that you need a scan or multiple hcg measurements to get some certainty.

Digi - well done on the line! Is it starting to feel real yet?

Owl - at your diary! Very reassuring! Or at least, I hope it will be when I actually get any symptoms that can fluctuate!

Pink - I am already part time, so don't need to cut back on hours. But if it makes you feel any better, I am also permanently knackered (partly to do with fighting off last week's yucky cold).

Wombie - Congrats on your lovely scan news. Phew! And what's this about stick insects? monkeys? Can I have some of what you've been having please??

Orange - well done for making it through your journey!

Choccie and Tigger - at your falls, which sound very spectacular. I agree - all should be well cushioned at this stage.

Love - hope you spend lots of DH's money on something lovely! Your hobby horse comment made me

MamaP - thanks for the book recommendations, as I too have a difficult DH (sometimes). Hoorayyy for your feeling (that's nausea not envy, by the way!)

Waves to ladybee, nix, izz, yrmotb, coconuts and anyone else who's around/lurking today!

Emoo - good luck for the 18th, theres' a whole host of scans coming up then. Keeping fx for everybody.

I have a question for you ladies - I have been feeling light headed on and off but today, seriously light headed - move my head to fast and the room starts spinning. Anything to worry about / should I see my GP or just low blood pressure and perfectly normal?

What do others think of having a list on here? I'm struggling to keep up with how far on everyone is... and when critical scan dates are going to be...? Would need to be something that wouldn't need daily updating, ideally.

Example
Emoo - TTC#2, 1MC@9w. T2 on 1 April. Next scan 17 Feb at 6+6

TTC = trying to cook! ?TTK trying to keep? brew? gestate?
T2 = trimester 2, putting date that I would be 13 weeks, as that's my mental target. Or if people feel superstitious about that, we could put estimated conception/ovulation/2 week date in. Anything so we can pop people in some sort of order.

Silver - sorry X-posts - I've had something similar before but it was after I fell off my bike and clonked my head. But I think it can just happen. This is the information I was directed to. I think the key thing was that it was transient spinning lasting only 10-20 seconds after certain head movements. Does that sound like you? I think the faintness of pregnancy/blood pressure is normally light-headedness and feeling like you're about to pass out, but I don't think you normally get the spinning sensation from low blood pressure.