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Charter's Anonymous: Volume 5, those BFPs are ours!!

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Iwish · 20/01/2011 18:28

Well here we are on volume 5!! Plenty of room for growing bumps and stashes of Thermometers and pee sticks!!

This thread WILL bring BFPs, everything crossed ladies apart from your legs!!

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TerrysNo2 · 25/01/2011 16:59

mouse I am so so sorry for you and DH Sad. I was just wondering about you the other day but assumed you were busy on PG threads. My thoughts are with you.

weimy · 25/01/2011 16:59

mouse So sorry xxxx

Iwish that chart looks promising!

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 25/01/2011 17:08

raven I'm so sorry x Sad

((( mouse ))) I'm so sorry to hear your news too. Sometimes life is just too cruel x Sad Sad

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Iwish · 25/01/2011 17:26

Mouse im so sorry honey (((Hugs))) to you and your DH. xx

Thanks Weimy I hope its as good as it looks. im feeling crampy like i normally do so dont feel any different. I'll see what my temps do tomorrow, fingers crossed it goes up :) Do you think you will hold out till friday if AF doesnt arrive?

Hi Everyone else. Hope you are ok?

xx

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digitalgirl · 25/01/2011 17:26

Oh mouse Sad

mousebacon · 25/01/2011 18:12

Thank you ladies, you are (and always have been) so, so kind. I'm not sure what to do about work - I think my boss expects me back on Monday. I took 3 weeks plus half term off in October. It's so stressful there at the moment but then I think of the disruption to my class. I don't know what to do. Any advice?

LadyGoneGaga · 25/01/2011 18:58

I'm so, so sorry, Mouse. This is really not fair. I think you need to put yourself first right now. Obligations or not you need some time to grieve for this baby. Work will get cover.

I was wondering how you were yesterday (I didn't know about the scan but just wondering how you were getting on) and starting to worry we hadn't heard from you.

Will you be able to get any tests to try and identify a cause?

Big hugs xxx

TerrysNo2 · 25/01/2011 19:05

mouse your priority should be you right now, so take a bit of time to decide whether you can and want to work next week. In the long term the kids won't suffer but you might if you rush yourself, emotionally and physically. Hope that helps!

Does anyone else get pant snot before AF is due? Confused

mousebacon · 25/01/2011 19:06

No. You have to have 3 in a row apparently and as I have had a healthy, full term pregnancy they take that as an indication that there's nothing wrong.

I'm so cross with myself for looking ahead - I did really well at distancing myself until we saw the heartbeat and I started to imagine the summer we'd have, the babygros on the line, being able to walk DS to reception with the pram...

Agghh and now that's all gone. Again. It's just so sad. I really didn't think we'd have to go through this again.

LadyGoneGaga · 25/01/2011 19:15

Don't beat yourself up, Mouse. It's impossible not to dream, and you should be able to enjoy being pregnant. I'm so sad for you xxx

IfAtFirstUDontSucceed · 25/01/2011 19:17

Mouse - I am so so sorry, what a truly awful time you have had :( My thoughts are with you xxx

spilttheteaagain · 25/01/2011 19:19

Oh mouse Sad that is terrible, I am so sorry you are having to go through this again. Another dream in tatters. As others say, work will sort itself out, it always does. You need to look after you and take some time to grieve for your little baby. Much love xx

TerrysNo2 · 25/01/2011 19:21

spilt did you have your scan today?

spilttheteaagain · 25/01/2011 19:28

I did. Just felt a bit weird posting it here alongside mouse's terrible news. 1 baby, measuring 42mm, heartbeat and dated at 11 weeks (but I am still considering I am 10+2 for now), so tremendously relieved. I'm still worrying though... I don't think I'll stop!

TerrysNo2 · 25/01/2011 19:30

spilt I am so Grin for you. You deserve this!

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 25/01/2011 19:34

spilt that's great news! Grin I'm so pleased for you!

mouse take as much time as you need, if there's ever a time to just concentrate on yourself, it's now. I had three weeks "sick" followed by one week ore-arranged holiday, and would have been b*gger all use to anyone if I'd tried to go back any sooner.

ravenlocks · 25/01/2011 19:36

Thanks everyone, sad but accepting of the situation and thinking "third time lucky", what else can I do, eh? I will give temping a break for a few more days and then will be back charting, posting and stalking away...

Mouse, I wanted to post and say I am so sorry for your loss. This whole business is heartbreaking and I know exactly how you feel having seen a heartbeat and allowed yourself to believe it was all going to happen. Take care of yourself and focus on you and your OH, don't worry about work.

mslk · 25/01/2011 19:36

So sorry for you loss mouse

spilttheteaagain · 25/01/2011 19:53

Thanks guys, you are lovely Smile

mouse if it makes you feel any better about work - I took six weeks off after losing Bobbie and then had a 6 week phased return. A couple of weeks is nothing, take all the time you need. They have processes in place for this sort of thing. Love to you and raven and anyone else going through crappy times, be they recent or not so xx

spilttheteaagain · 25/01/2011 19:57

(especially thanks to you terrys as I know we were only 1 day different on our pregnancies and I know how crappy it is to feel left behind. I had to hide from my March antenatal group for a couple of months as I got too upset reading about everyone's scans and kicking babies and knowing that's exactly where I should be. This may be a clumsy way of saying it, but just wanted to say I know how painful it can be to be pleased for someone else, so thank you and hope you are ok? xx)

ravenlocks · 25/01/2011 19:57

split - great news Grin - wishing you an uneventful and happy pg!

TerrysNo2 · 25/01/2011 20:05

spilt I honestly didn't think about my MC when I heard your news, I think Bobbie's death is so strong in my mind as I joined the thread about that time that I am just so so Grin for you because you have been through hell. You really do deserve this and whilst I wish I were in the same position, that doesn't take away my happiness for you. Smile

I am feeling a bit low today though, AF is on her way so the MC hit me really hard this morning. Looked like a right plonker blubbing on the tube Blush.

Holding onto hope that lots of you conceived after WTF cycles.

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 25/01/2011 20:10

(((hugs))) to terrys - you will get your bfp soon, hang on in there x

spilttheteaagain · 25/01/2011 20:13

Thank you

Lets share the virtual tissues and have a hug. It sounds like we all need it!

MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 25/01/2011 20:20

mouse oh how awful. I am so sorry and wish I could say something more comforting.
Just take it one day at a time and like others have said, put yourself before work.
If it helps, talk to a hcp/doctor to get an 'official' opinion - I expect they would say take some time off and help you feel less guilty.

Spilt glad your scan has gone weLl.

Terrys sorry af on her way. Be kind to yourself, it will happen again I'm sure.

I'm on 1 or 2 dpo I think. Just need big temp rise to confirm.