Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 10)

[youremindmeofthebaubles]

Had a miscarriage and ready to try again? This is the place for you, support in the form of virtual wine, chocolate and a great big shoulder to cry on (tears not essential). The new year beckons us, lots of BFP's for everyone

UCL= Usual cycle Length
CD= cycle day

ooh velvet that's very impressive!!!! Will keep my fingers crossed!!

See I told you I was putting you on my bfp wish list...

Just dropping in quickly to say huge congrats to daddy's and getdown The BFPs just keep rolling in! Very encouraging! I had a dream two nights ago that every time I logged on here there was a new bfp!

velvet I had pink cm yesterday at 5dpo too! What's it all about? I was also ridiculously tired and had twinges on my left hand side (bit like ov pain)
Your temp hike looks v positive, fingers crossed they stay high Nothing like that here though - dd woke twice in the night teething so the most I managed was a 2 hour sleep in between fiddling around in the dark for calpol.

Sending super follicular vibes Dasch's way this weekend

On the subject of sperm snatching and shagging rows - DH decided that shag week would be a good time to take sleeping tablets last month. At around 8pm. Every night. And I wonder why I'm not getting updiffed?.

Waves to everyone else

Obviously I meant to type THEIR heads not there heads. Tssk?.

Just added self back onto list according to FF's estimates this month.

SATURDAY'S LIST

HidingInTheBackRow TTC1, cycle 2, UCL 26, CD28
Tunnocksteacake TTC #2, cycle 3, UCL30 CD27
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 5 UCL33 CD26
knitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 5 UCL 25-30 CD26
Getawiggleon TTC#2, UCL28-32 CD22
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 5 UCL 35, CD21
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 5 (post mc1), UCL 37, CD21
BackOnceAgain TTC#3,Cycle 1 UCL28-34 CD21
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 5 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD21
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 4 UCL 40, CD20
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 5, UCL 28-35 CD19
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 22 UCL24-9 CD19
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 2 UCL29 CD18
Hairytriangle TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL ?28 CD16
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 6 UCL 24-30 CD14
ochaye TTC#3 cycle WTF UCL 31 CD14
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL28 CD12
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27 CD 12
Emoo TTC#2, Cycle 1 (post MC1) UCL 26-30, CD12
ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 2 postMC#2 (but WTF cycle only 2 weeks long, so maybe it's only cycle 1 really?) UCL28, CD11
Kat2504 ttc#1 cycle 5 ucl28, CD9
MummyAbroad TTC #2, cycle 1 (Post AS Op)) UCL? CD5
Cep TTC#2 Cycle 1 UCL24-28 CD2

WTTC
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
Barrenbrook TTC#1, MC#4 Oct 2010
Batteryhen MC conf Oct 2010
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
Nurse47 TTC#2, UCL28, WTF cycle ERPC 9 Nov
Mamafoof TTC#2, MC#1 Nov 2010, WTF cycle
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, WTF cycle

MIA
Sillyness TTC#1 post MC1 WTF cycle RunForTheHills TTC#1, UCL28 Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 UCL28

RECENT BFP's
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 3 (post MC) UCL 31 BFP!!
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 5 (round 3) UCL27 CD27 BFP!!
Owlbooty TTC#1, cycle 5 BFP!!
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#1 4th Oct WTF cycle BFP!!!
Nickstermum TTC#2 cycle 2 post MC UCL 30-40 BFP!!!
PrettyQuichey TTC#1, (round 7) UCL 28-30 BFP!!!!
Lovebeingadaddysgirl TTC#? WTC cycle BFP!!
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2 BFP!!

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August
PenguinsMummy BFP 15th August
VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP 24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oct
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov
Inbetweener BFP 10 Nov
Lottiecrump BFP September 2010

Ooh, how exciting velvet that looks brilliant!

I am v jealous of all the cat related stuff pretty and nix. My dp is allergic, unfortunately, but I would love cats, my sister has the biggest beast ever called ernie, he's fantastic!

I have stopped temping for this month, I can't remember who was saying their mood was directly linked to am temps, maybe it was ladybee before, but I feel a bit like that So now I have ov'd I'm jacking it in for now.

Had an amazing curry last night, hope your Chinese was as good pretty, I was still full this morning! Got inception to watch later, so all set for a nice relaxing weekend. Trying to ignore my 2ww...

Congratulations for getdown that's ace.

Have lovely weekends all.

Hey velvet ... looks promising ... fx!

Hi everyone.

AF has struck this morning, it is also exactly 1 year since I had my coil removed and started TTC so a really rather depressing day.

After spending quite a bit of time a sobbing tearful wreck today I have thrown out my thermometer and also removed myself from the list below.

I really am pleased for everyone on here who has had a BFP and wish you all the best as you deserve it after the crappy times you have had but at the moment I am finding the increasing number of pregnant people on here hard to deal with. I know it is ridiculous and selfish but while part of me is thrilled about all the positives another part of me is just reminded that it isn't me and a BFN seems even more horrid and stressful. So basically I am giving up the ttc for a month to give myself a break from the general heartache and sort myself out a bit.

Thanks for all the support, you are all wonderful and I will probably still lurk a bit to keep track of what's going on but might not be commenting for a while.

Tunnocksteacake TTC #2, cycle 3, UCL30 CD27
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 5 UCL33 CD26
knitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 5 UCL 25-30 CD26
Getawiggleon TTC#2, UCL28-32 CD22
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 5 UCL 35, CD21
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 5 (post mc1), UCL 37, CD21
BackOnceAgain TTC#3,Cycle 1 UCL28-34 CD21
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 5 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD21
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 4 UCL 40, CD20
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 5, UCL 28-35 CD19
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 22 UCL24-9 CD19
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 2 UCL29 CD18
Hairytriangle TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL ?28 CD16
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 6 UCL 24-30 CD14
ochaye TTC#3 cycle WTF UCL 31 CD14
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL28 CD12
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27 CD 12
Emoo TTC#2, Cycle 1 (post MC1) UCL 26-30, CD12
ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 2 postMC#2 (but WTF cycle only 2 weeks long, so maybe it's only cycle 1 really?) UCL28, CD11
Kat2504 ttc#1 cycle 5 ucl28, CD9
MummyAbroad TTC #2, cycle 1 (Post AS Op)) UCL? CD5
Cep TTC#2 Cycle 1 UCL24-28 CD2

WTTC
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
Barrenbrook TTC#1, MC#4 Oct 2010
Batteryhen MC conf Oct 2010
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
Nurse47 TTC#2, UCL28, WTF cycle ERPC 9 Nov
Mamafoof TTC#2, MC#1 Nov 2010, WTF cycle
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, WTF cycle

MIA
Sillyness TTC#1 post MC1 WTF cycle RunForTheHills TTC#1, UCL28 Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 UCL28

RECENT BFP's
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 3 (post MC) UCL 31 BFP!!
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 5 (round 3) UCL27 CD27 BFP!!
Owlbooty TTC#1, cycle 5 BFP!!
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#1 4th Oct WTF cycle BFP!!!
Nickstermum TTC#2 cycle 2 post MC UCL 30-40 BFP!!!
PrettyQuichey TTC#1, (round 7) UCL 28-30 BFP!!!!
Lovebeingadaddysgirl TTC#? WTC cycle BFP!!
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2 BFP!!

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August
PenguinsMummy BFP 15th August
VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP 24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oct
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov
Inbetweener BFP 10 Nov
Lottiecrump BFP September 2010

getdown and daddy'sg wayhoooo!!!
velvet Wowsers, fx for you
dachs sending follicle motivational vibes in your direction
"inner ho" pmsl!!!

Sorry I can't catch up properly today but just been reading through so I don't lose track of everyone's news. Thanks so so so much for all your input about dh's op. You have all made some interesting and valid points and I will mull it all over, lots of food for thought you are all brill!!

Please get the fish polished up for me, I am going to need a lot of it after a potential imp. bleed this morning. 5 days after swi....GAH!!

Happy weekending to you all

Sorry x posts with you hiding take care of yourself and so sorry you are feeling so down

Hiding sorry you are feeling this way Its not at all riduculous or selfish I feel exactly the same way. I wholeheartedly cheer everyone who gets a BFP on here, but there is always a link sinking in my heart and a voice that says, "shame its not me." You are not alone in feeling these things.

I also have had to take time off from the thread before, sometimes it can help you get a bit of perspective, please know that we would love to have you back whenever you feel ready. You are always welcome.

Also, if you have been TTC for over a year (make sure your dates are right or you might get fobbed off) you are eligible for basic fertility testing on the NHS. If you have any questions about this feel free to PM me. best of luck to you xxxx

Hiding sorry you feel down right now - I too feel the same, especially when the BFPs are on WTF or cycle 1. I have been ttc for a year in March. I have also had time off from this thread and it does help. As mummya says you are welcome back anytime, remember that you don't have to be cheerful on here - we know how you feel so rant and rave if you need to.

MummyA dont they count it as a yr from your mc though since you did techincally conceive then?

(((hiding))) - I find this a really positive place to be and get really excited for people with BFPs but I'm only on the WTF cycle at the moment and not TTC until I get one AF.

I just know that once I start TTC I will get the "why isn't it me?" feelings, even though I will still be excited for everyone. It's so hard, for all of us, and we just need to do whatever is best for us, and I honestly think that once I start TTC again I will take breaks from MN otherwise I will just get obsessed with babymaking!

Sorry you are feeling so bad today, lots of love x

Velvet/Hiding

Yes you are right, the stupid cruel policy of the NHS says that because you did get pregnant you dont have a problem! Sorry forgot about that

Afternoon all!

Thanks Owl, Nix, A&R for DH tips. Was desperately seeking inner ho last night, found black slinky short nightie, but appeared to fail miserably at sperm-snatching anyway, although we didn't actually have a row. There was no point pushing it as I don't really think a row would have helped either of us. No viagra in the house (but it's the brain in his head that's the problem, not the brain in his willy!). Will persevere this evening . MummyA - hope you are having more luck than me. Wiggle - sympathies at your DH's -like behaviour. Honestly, flippin' men.

Orange - hope you are still zenful!

Izzy - glad to hear about your sister - very good advice to always question everything. Hope you are managing to get plenty of row-less nookie this weekend.

Ladybee - I hope your "wombular area" is now less irritable

Francesca - tell your DP there never is a "right time"... some of us on here have spent our best reproductive years waiting for the "right time" and to be honest, it's still not here! You just have to find a "good enough" time.

Dachs - hope you are having a stressfree weekend with DH attending to your every need!

Velvet - lovely chart, looking promisingly Himalayan! fx

Hiding - sounds like you need a break - I hope you are able to start to feel more positive about things again soon. (hugs)

Hello to everyone else! I now have to go and prepare a delicious feast of oysters a la viagra for our tea. Or maybe pasta? I've walked miles with DD today... hopefully she'll pass out in bed early tonight and give us a bit of space.

coachAandRMum sorry for late reply: DH's reluctance is because of his fears about managing life with a second baby, sleepless nights, no sex life, going out less, and now there are extra fears about miscarriage, more hospital hell, everything going wrong etc. He is 30 and I am 35 so sometimes he feels old before his time and because of his age (and being a man ) he feels there is no urgency which makes me want to bat him one and there IS a big f*ing urgency now - I have been given a three month window within which to try and conceive, starting NOW) Basically we are both under a lot of pressure, which is never good.

I can understand all of his fears (much of them I share) but I am really upset because a) I dont want to make big life decisions based on what I am AFRAID OF (and neither should he) and b) ITS A BIT F*ING LATE TO BE BRINGING ALL THIS UP NOW!

As maybe you can tell I am a bit I thought we had talked about and discussed all this and I had his support. Last time we discussed it he said all the same things and then ended up doing a bit u-turn and saying he really did want another baby, he is already starting to retract his words and say the same thing this time but I am being stubborn about making up because I am so hurt, its hardly the kind of supportive behaviour I am looking for at the moment. Oh yeah, and like emoo if I ignore the brain and just talk to the willy there is no problem at all! Its not like he goes as far as to actually have no/safe sex! Just a lot of hot air, wish he would just make up his mind and be committed to it!

Anyway, thanks for the opportunity to moan open up xxx

PS I am CD5 now, no doubt stubbornness will wear off nearer ov time...

Hiding sorry you reached that milestone, it's a really horrible to get to.
And please don't feel bad about the sinking feeling - I think we all feel it, we're happy for the person getting the BFP because we know how happy it will make them, but we also know how happy it would make us and there's always an edge 'when do I get to be happy?' in there.

mummyabroad I think a lot of men do a bit a freak out when they suddenly get faced with the prospect of something that has been theoretical actually being a realistic probability. It sounds like DH has been supportive in the past, and particularly while you had the AS dealt with, but now he knows you're fertile and Could Actually Get Pregnant it's put up a big scary wall. Good that he's starting to retract though, sounds like maybe with a bit of space he might come round without much pushing from you.

I can't remember whether I congratulated LovesBeingADaddysGirl Lovely news

AandRmum I have real love/hate relationship with Venice. It's beautiful, but it it had a personality I'd say it was batting its eyelashes and flirting outrageously all the time while reaching into your pocket and fleecing you. I guess it's had quite a lot of practice though, been up to that trick for 100s of years.
5dpo is the day of symptoms isn't it , I've had all sorts marked on my charts for that day, and this last cycle it was the day of total fatigue, when I went back to bed and napped twice.

Is anyone planning to see that film The King's Speech? I think I might see whether any of my old NCT crew want to go - it's been a while since I saw them.

I think I've just had a miscarriage, I passed a clot about 2 inches wide :( I feel numb

F&k. Orange* - really? Are you cramping? continuing to bleed? or was it a sort of one-off thing?
I'm so sorry this is happening on the weekend, it just makes it harder to think about getting any kind of scan done.

(((( orange )))) . Shit. Are you in any pain? Has the bleeding stopped? You must be going crazy, chick, I hope you have someone there to give you a RL hug. Fx you are wrong, I will be hoping and praying for you xxx

I've just read back - sorry - you have a scan booked for Monday already don't you. At least you don't need to stress about that (small consolation I know). Oh sweetheart, how desperately sad and scary this week has been. I know everyone on here will be sending all the good thoughts they can that it's just horrible, odd, bleeding/clotting and that you get through this.

Oh organge god you must be scared out of your wits! what time is your scan on Monday? I wish I could say something more comforting, sending you huge hugs, and strength to get through this xxx

hiding I'm sorry AF got you and I'm sorry you're feeling so low . I love seeing the bfps come up on here, but of course I wish it were me, so I understand why you're wanting a bit of space. I find things harder to bear when af arrives and in the early part of my cycle; once I've got that out the way and have a bit of hope myself things seem easier iykwim? So hopefully you'll feel more positive soon. I hope taking a break gives you a bit of peace and don't forget that we'll always be here if or when you want to drop back in x

Note to the bfps on here: it's difficult and sensitive but in no way do I not want to hear about your bfps or want you to go so please don't!! We're here to support each other through all the scary times. I just hope one day I, and everyone else on here, gets to join you

mummya sorry your dh is dithering a bit, I hope you manage to sort it out soon. I think it's so true that there's psychologically a huge difference between a hypothetical baby that's not likely to happen and the reality of a highly likely to happen baby!!! Sometimes I think that just freaks them out, so hopefully when he's got his head around it he'll be ok again. I know it makes it difficult for you though because you've had a hideous year and could do with him supporting you rather than the other way round - so big ((((hugs)))) and a large glass of sauv blank coming your way x

pink - where are you? Hope you're ok and out enjoying zen yoga and bellringing x

sauv blanc not sauv blank of course - damn the auto-correct on my iPhone!!

What's it about ladybee? I haven't seen it advertised, but do like a trip to the cinema every once in a while!

mummy sorry dh is blowing hot and cold. Its a lot for them to deal with isn't it? It's good he has been supportive up to now, I think that sometimes faced with the imminent realities they can Panic a bit.

hiding echoing what others have sAid it it horrible feeling so jaded with it all, and every BFP comes with a tinge of envy. Do what you need to, but we are definitely here for you.

ladybee you just know all us 5 DPO-ers are analysing how tired we have been today I could have napped, but unfortunately I think I can blame that on my trip to the gym...

Just put ds to bed so relaxing for the evening. Reading a new book too, so film and then book in bed.

Orange I dont know what to say I was grateful I'd got through today but you never know do you? I guess once you've been through it it is somuchmore a real possibilty again.