Good things come to those who wait...and wait...and wait!!! All aboard, we're IIT!

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Make yourselves at home everyone. Jake & George are just loading everyone's 'baggage'!

However I once witnessed a friend of mine screaming and panicking like that (slightly less extreme) because she thought she'd cut her foot open. It turned out she had a red leaf stuck to her foot.

Lmao! Really? That is hilarious! Did she not wonder why it didn't hurt?!

It did hurt - right up to the moment we realised it was just a leaf. It was all psychological.

Come to think of it that same friend has since given birth at home unassisted and with no pain relief. I'll ask how that compared with the leaf incident.

That has really brightened my morning! lol Very funny! Was she suitable embarrassed when she realised it was just a leaf?

Hardly slept last night, horrible nightmares! So feel like death this morning whilst DD is full of beans!

Hahaha! hilarious AC!!
Bebe - sorry to hear that you had some horrible nightmares and didn't sleep very well last night.

I feel utterly shattered and have got some odd abdominal pains today. Probably nothing other than too much exercise and not enough sleep but will be pleased when AF arrives and puts my mind at rest! (Much as I'd love to have got accidentally upduffed, DH would hit the roof!!!)

I've been reading "The Snowman" and almost finished it last night. It's pretty gruesome and I was sure that reading it before going to sleep in the house alone was going to give me horrific nightmares but luckily I escaped.

My dreams mainly consisted of running away from a dark shape & trying to rescue a small faceless child who was wearing DDs clothes. No prizes for guessing what that means!!

JS - By 'the snowman' I guess you aren't talking about the Raymond Briggs one? [clueless emoticon]

Possibly your anxiety about being accidentally upduffed is exagerating 'symptoms'?!

Now I am imagining a nightmare where I'm flying through the air with a snowman who is melting mid-air!! :)

AC love the leaf story too.

Didn't watch OBEM as I'm too scared to know what I've let myself in for I'd rather be blissfully ignorant for now.

:) It's this one Super scary!!!

Squirrel - I managed to stay blissfully ignorant until I had to go to the 'parentcraft' classes at about 7months & then it all started to actually sink in! Wasn't a bad plan....

Funny. When it was first on last year I didn't watch it as thought it would scare me. I then ended up watching it on 4OD and really enjoying it and didn't find it scary at all.

The one last night was quite funny actually. One woman was literally screaming the ward down. Think she was being a little bit overly dramatic as she was still screaching and groaning after the epidural when by her own admission she couldn't feel anything!!!

Makes good TV though!

morning all

AC-how funy cant believe it was just a leaf

bebe- your mind is probably processing everythin i can never sleep well when im goin thru something serious

squirral- i tortured myself by watching loads of birth programs when pg with DD, DP wont watch any he sed it feels intrusive watching someone else give birth, so i recored OBEM still makes me cringe even tho i have been thru it

JS- i cant read scary books or watch scary films im such a wimp

well DP sprung on me last nite that he mite be losing his travel allowance that amounts to over 300 pound a month, i am really struggling for money since my contract ended in last job and still paying for DD's nursery i am spending way more than im earning each month and needed him to take more of the bills from me cue lots of crying from me, DP didnt seem bothered or concerned in the slightest

also he upset me as i wanted to try and find a cheapest holiday for us to go away as a family togther b4 new addition arrives i told him money wise i was prob being unrealistic and we cudnt afford it to which he sed fine, then suggested going to malta where cud get deal thru family for 300 pound for 5 star hotel for a week plus flights for all of us but wud need money for food, i sed it wud also be nice to see my dad and family whilst i am pg and b4 next baby arrives as dont know how long it will be till we go over agen, my dad is in prison over there so cant come to see me which really upsets me when major things are happening in my life, DP sed malta doesnt feel like a holiday and he doesnt want to go i can go on my own if i want :( he just doesnt seem to have any sympathy or empathy at the moment to which i told him and his reply was neither do u i told him hes not the one whos upset y do i need to sympathetic towards him if hes not upset, not a very happy bunny but doubt anything will change in a hurry

sorry for long post

Oh JBells :( Train must be going through a bit of a dark tunnel right now!

These men just don't seem to realise how their actions affect us do they? Would you be able to maybe afford a holiday closer to home? Or what about a last minute deal or just a weekend away? It is perfectly understandable that you would want to see your family before you have the baby. But just because you would be going there doesn't mean that you can't do things on your own without involving your family. Really hope you can find a compromise & that he can understand where you are coming from.

My DH is set on having a holiday this year. Just not really convinced he has thought it through!

Good to hear you sounding a bit better Bebe but sorry to hear about the nightmares. I had terrible nightmares when on hol and thought it might have something to do with the altitude as I seem ok now I'm back.

JS- I have just read 'The Snowman' and have started one of his other ones 'The Redeemer'. I'll let you know if it's any good! I saw that Jo Nesbo was being compared to Stieg Larsson and I absolutely loved his books.

I'm another one who taped OBEM and watched Glee! I love it even though it is soooooo cheesy. Looking forward to watching the dramatics on OBEM though- I remember one from last year where the midwives were rolling their eyes at each other outside the door when one young girl was going over the top!

Jbells I hope you get your hols sorted. I wonder why OH does not fancy Malta? Do you tend to spend a lot of time with your family when you are there? (quite understandably!) Would he be more keen if you put some time aside to spend together just the three of you as well? Or what about visiting a different part of Malta which will be a bit different but you can still see your family? Sorry if these suggestions are off the mark- hope you get things worked out x

Hope the pregnant ladies are feeling ok- I have visions of you being waited on by Jake, George (and now Damon?) and being hand fed those ginger oatcakes recommended by bebe :)

Ps AC- that leaf story makes a good point about hypno-birthing etc- I think fear and your own imagination can really cause perceived pain levels to be higher than they would otherwise be :)

I remember hearing on QI at the weekend that pain is mainly caused by the fear of our idea of pain. So if we don;t fear it then we don;t feel it....... Hence they used to give people who were allergic to anaesthetic Vallium for operations. Not sure I'd want to try that though!

bebe- he doesnt seem to take my feeling into consideration either that or have any understanding of how im feeling, where is your DP thinking of going?

strawberry- the first time and 2nd time we went we stayed with my nan, but apart from the days we visited my dad in prison we were out all day with DD and then had a built in babysitter at nite while we went out to eat on our own, the last time we stayed in a flat on our own with DD and hardly saw my family except for my dad at prison DP came twice with me and i went once on my own as i know its not idea having to go to a prison to c your gf's dad but unfortunatly i have no choice :( i suggested making it more of a hol this time and staying in a part of malta we hadnt seen in a 5 star hotel and sed we wud only c my dad twice but he sed he doesnt want to go to malta agen and that it doesnt even feel like a hol when we go there now, and that he cant really take the time of work anyway that he was happy to take it off if we were going to go to egypt or mexico tho

think ill just leave the subject and bring it up agen in a few weeks

Sorry I didn;t comment earlier jbells. I somehow managed to skip your post completely!!

It's really tough for you that your DP doesn't want to do the same holiday as you. I can see it from both points of view.

You want to see your family and take advantage of the low cost options available to you in Malta.

He may well want to use his annual leave to explore somewhere new and so is suggesting you go to Malta alone.

Is there a way that you could take your DD to Malta to see your family and then go to Mexico or Egypt with your DP? That way you both get to do what you want.

JBells - My DH is only thinking of going to Cornwall, but he always says he is going to take time off/have a holiday & it never happens. He never thinks of my feelings on things either, or at least that's how it feels. I'm sure he thinks I sit on my arse all day twiddling my thumbs & that DD looks after herself, the house cleans itself, the fairies take care of the washing & dinner magically appears on the table! That makes it sound like I'm so hard done by...I'm not, just don't always feel appreciated!

lol bebe i cud have written your post, i have often asked DP if he thinks the fairies do all the washing and cleaning

JS- i really did want to go somewhere new wud love to see mexico or somewhere but i am so broke at the moment DD's nursery fees r 320 pound a month alone without all the otha household bills and car etc im spending atleast 500 pund more a month than im getting at the mo

DP seems oblivious to the fact that my money is not the same as when i was working for the last company i was with i am only doin about 10 hours a week now :( i know this sounds awful but i will be better off when im on SMP and can take DD out of nursery, just feel guilty because she really enjoys the couple of aftanoons she spends there

they say money doesnt bring happiness but it definately helps :)

on a plus side got pg yoga tonite so hopefully that will make me feel serene and calm hehe

JBells - remind me how old your DD is again? Could you maybe cut her hours at nursery? DD starts preschool in May (really anxious already about that) only 1 afternoon a week then in Sept (when she is 3) it'll be free! (Well 15 hours is free!)

jbells sorry you're feeling down :( About the holiday, I can also see both sides. I completely understand that you'd want to see your family, especially as your dad can't travel here, but I can also see that he might want to go somewhere different. Is there any way you could do a short trip there by yourself, and have a family holiday closer to home? As for the money, I am shocked that you are paying nursery fees and bills when you're only working 10h a week Your DP should definitely be chipping in or you should rethink your finances together - spending £500 a month more than you earn can't be good for your sanity.

bebe didn't your DH cancel your holiday last year? Or am I misremembering? It sounds like he (and you) really need a break.

js I watched that QI episode last night - was wondering if I can stop labour pains just by being relaxed? Probably not!!

Told the admin people at work today and gave them a letter with official notice... they were very excited for me :) So that's all the important work people told, and it's nice to have it all official! Am off out to Nandos with DH tonight too - hungry already but he's not home yet. Have a good evening everyone!

squirral- i know he seems to think my money grows on trees, i am going to cut her nursery hours down by half tomoro when i take her she does 10-4 weds and thurs at mo but im paying for full days which is 8-5.30pm
i think bcos i had a claim thru for the fck up thats the hosp did when i was having DD he thinks is lasting forever and it will soon go the amount im spending

bebe- shes just turned 21 months so wont be entitled to any free nusery for prob a year and a half, im sure your DD will love nursery when she goes as she seems like a very lively outgoing character

squirral- have a lovely nite at nandos, im going to gusto tomoro with my best friends (got a (50% off voucher) so taking advantage cant wait

well just got back from yoga now cooking dinner then time to chill on the sofa b4 bed

hello all
bebe sorry to hear about your wierd dreams
jbells sorry to hear you are having DH issues too

squirrel pleased that you have told all the importnat people

I am SOOOO tired now... i had my bath at 7.45 and am now in bed.
Have Ocado booked for 10 - 11pm (seemed like a good idea 2 weeks ago, i like that slot as its free!) and OH is out at a meeting, so i really hope for the 1st time EVER Ocado are not early, cause then OH can deal with it.

The probably will call at 9.30 / 9.45 'just around the corner though' so then ill have to get up and let them in. (ok i could say wait until 10pm but then they might drive off to the next house)

Enjoyed OBEM. One of my friends gave birth their while they were filming and they asked to film her etc... she declined the oppertunity to be on national TV giving birth

makes me as determined as ever not to have a baby in a hospital

No other news here... havent really felt sick since friday, just so so tired. Am 5 weeks pg today