Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part 7)

[MamaPower]

A comfy little corner for those who need company in the post mc ttc journey!

To POAS or not to POAS? That is the question!

All welcome

hello peeps

sorry to moan about a pet on an mc thread, but i'm a bit miserable at the moment. just got results back from dog's tests. inconclusive.

vet still thinks it's probably cancer. lump is too big for any other explanation.

various options now - antibiotics to get inflammation down and hope that's all it is, operation to remove lump, or very strong steroids to prevent spread but doesn't actually make tumour smaller. can't have chemotherapy as he is on steroids for something else and the two don't mix

if he has surgery to remove the lump (which would otherwise be my preferred option as they could then test the lump properly) there is >75% chance that he'll become incontinent. this is not ideal. especially when ttc!

Hola!
Ooh, nickster how promising! fx for you.

I am home alone tonight. No swi for me as a drunken dp will probably roll back after midnight, and want to get frisky, but strangely being awoken from a heavy slumber and having beer fumes breathed all over isn't that enticing. Even on day 15..

I love the moniker Evil Blue Shag Dictator. it makes me laugh out loud. Bossy little gadget.

just had lasagne for tea, was lovely, but ds is going through a won't eat stage. It's driving me crazy. Mostly inwardly, but sometimes outwardly[hblush]

hairy thats brill! really good news, so glad to hear that.

owlshoes Boots are very expensive. I just purchased some last week. What you after? Heel? practical? Utterly Impractical?

Ah dachs, not good, not good hon, hope you are ok - ish and that it doesn't take you too long to make a decision about what to do. What does the vet recommend?

dachs x-post. Sorry to hear that. Sending best wishes.

Izz batty will tell myself it is Af that way the eternal pessimist is never disappointed [hgrin]

With hold myself

Let's face it just can't type!!

bats I join you on the home alone so < plunks cushions and rummages in DVD cabinet.... Chic or thriller?>

Spare room made up already fir dh !!!

thanks yrmotb

nicks the vet (sitting on the fence a bit) recommended taking the antibiotics and referring the dog to specialist for a second opinion as the vet isn't specialised enough to do the surgery anyway.

seemed like a reasonable idea to at least start the dog on antibiotics and see what happens while we're waiting for a referral or making up our minds about the other options on offer

on a more positive note i has a word with HR at work about whether they had a policy on time off for IVF. They didn't. They do now! I can have up to 5 days paid leave in total (for ever, not per cycle) so I don't need to take holiday. Boss not happy... ;)

Oh dachs I am so sorry you haven't been able to get any definite answers and are left with such a tough decision. I really don't know what would be best. Is it worth a try at the antibiotics first just in case that's all it is before you have to make any drastic decisions? Might be worth a shot...

Apart from that, I don't know. However I can say from experience that it is no fun having an incontinent dog, it is really really hard work. Ours was like this towards the end and it is so difficult. I'm not going to go on about it because that's not what you want to hear, but I was pg at the time and really frightened about the hygiene aspect around DCs and the new baby. I'm not sure how well we'd have coped had the baby made it. I'm not saying don't take the operation route - which as you say might be your best option - but I would be tempted to try antibiotics first to see if it can be avoided and have a good discussion with the vet and your dh/dp about how you could manage the outcome if he had the op and was incontinent (still a chance he wouldn't be though).

I really feel for you, it's awful when they're poorly and it's a really tough decision you've got. . Let us know if there's anything we can do or anything you want to ask, or if you just need a rant. ((((hugs)))) x

thanks izzy

if it weren't for the incontinence thing I'd go for the op, but i KNOW i couldn't cope with an incontinent dog and i'd be terrified if i did get pg

and that makes me feel really bad, because i love Eric dearly and i don't want him to suffer but then i know deep down that i couldn't handle it if that happened

FX the antibs work and then the decision won't need to be made!

Ah - xposts - I see your vet pretty much agrees with me. A second opinion sounds a good idea too

my gosh that went quickly! can i have another one please? ;)

dachs - don't be ashamed or guilty about saying you couldn't cope with it, I couldn't either and I loved ours (Simon) to bits. We had endless rows (dh felt we should just plod on) and I was in tears over it so many times. And I know he couldn't help it but the awful thing was that I almost started to resent it . As it happened, he deteriorated very rapidly and so we never had to really think about long-term management but i'm just not sure I could have done it [guilt emoticon]

However you are not there yet - the antibiotics may well work or if not the second opinion might give you some more information or options or (if it's a specialist) might at least give him better odds of not being incontinent. Fx for all of the above - will be thinking of you x

Hello all! about evil shag dictator! Reckon i am going to stick with every other day except maybe every day at weekend otherwise ill break dh a week too soon like last month!!

dachs sorry about dilemma, that's a v tough decision to make. Maybe try the anti biotics for a week just in case that's all it is then choose between the other two later?

owl gutted about boots. They are v expensive and also frustratingly difficult to get nice ones that fit, especially if knee high.

nicks everything crossed for you for implantation, as you say, you did get ov symptoms 5 times this month so you could have sneaked out a cheeky egg without realising. Good thing about being a girl is going shopping and for lunch with other girls :)

izz the fc I'm going to next month is the Argc in London, I referred myself and got an appt. I found out about it through a colleague at work who's wife had 3 mc and went round several shite clinics first. Big up respect for your once per day swi!!

hairy fab news!!

apple sorry no idea about hiring camper, I just assumed we could but frankly if we can't I think I might have struck upon my genius work from home business idea!! I agree dowe egberts is nice decaf. Apparently taylors is decaffeinated using a less evil chemical than anything else but haven't tried it. I had a peppermint tea today, it was actually nice!!

mamap are you off on hols now? Have an amazing time!!

inbetweener have fun shopping tomorrow!

mummya which episode did you watch? I recommend the caravan club one, and the one where they go to visit simon's girlfriend's sister at Warwick uni hahaha

I have been such a pig bin today-I ate my own body weight in strawberry an orange cream quality streets, then washed it down with a high lump of chocolate cake mmmmmmmmmm

forgot to say, I love the name Eric. There's always something slightly fab about dogs with human names!

izzy thanks (for the wine and liking the dog's name)! although not our choice - he was called that when we got him and already responding to it so we kept it. it suits him :) when we got another one three years later we called her Ellie as we thought it matched well with Eric :)

Just popping by quickly in between my usual going away ritual of packing, unpacking and re-packimg my suitcase...it's never all gonna fit in!!! Arrrggh! I'm off tom so won't get another chance to post, see you in 3 week lovely ladies [hsmile]. Keep my cycle days going on the stats list and I'll sort out when I get back... although would love love love to discover I am upduffed next Sat - 30th Oct, 1st day I can test and weirdly the date in the year me and dh got together (not married, just our first date anniv.)!

Thanks for holiday wishes, love you lot, big hugs for those who need 'em and to the rest: Don't do anything I wouldn't do [hgrin]

Dachs sounds like a plan flower x Eric and Ellie cool, we have Logan and Loola ( cats tho) short for tallulah belle lol posh name for little madam, but suits her! Logi bear is a huge 2 stone monster and so snuggly ~ :)

Mamap - don't forget your spare suitcase for all your designer purchases have a wonderful time lovely [henvy]

Happy hols mamap ! Take care x

nicks we have two cats too - both little black madams Juno and Minerva (but always known as Minnie)

mamap have a fab time!

Best thing about being a woman - men would never be able to have a group of fab woman to talk to like this!
Dachs Juno after the movie? Love that movie!

Sorry for the mememe post but i need a hug It's silly really, just got my scan date through the post and it's not till the end of November, when I'll be about 10/11 weeks - same time I found out about my mmc last time even though the baby died at 5/6 weeks - the stage I'm at right now. Just been sobbing on the phone to my mum...I know an early scan wouldn't be any guarentee, but it would at least limit the time I would have to think I was still pregnant when I wasn't if it all went wrong, does that make sense?

I called the midwife and left a message, so hopefully she'll call back on monday, although she still hasn't called back from last friday. If I don't hear from her I guess I'll call the GP. Just feel really scared and emotional today.

sorry for the moan, promise to namecheck later in a happier and more rational mood!

Apple the early weeks are horrendous and you need all the support you can get from the NHS. I've been lucky that my GP arranged early scans for me. This time round the EPU at the hospital arranged it directly - can you maybe call yours? You're right, early scans give no guarantees but its not fair to expect you to wait so long not knowing if all is well. It puts too much strain on you.

Hope you get something sorted x

Thanks moo...my GP said I could have an early scan, and wrote in the referral letter to the hospital to request that I had one at 8 week...so had mentally prepared that I just had to get to 8 weeks, and then just get to 12 weeks, and now it's this big open stretch where I just don't trust anything my body's doing....

Apples. Push your gp, and your epu, there is no reason that you shouldn't be allowed an earlier scan having mc before! Sorry you are feeling down hon, try not to get stressed! Forget about that scan date it's too far away! Am sure they will get you in before then ;)

I on the other hand cd35 gearing up for nasty Af and grumpy with it :( but lovin ds for giving me a lie in til quarter to nine;)