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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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The July Bus

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KnitterNotTwitter · 24/09/2010 11:17

Welcome to the July Bus - a place for anyone TTC a July 2011 baby...

Ding Ding... the bus is ready to depart :)

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Brasso4 · 27/10/2010 11:25

Oh GetDown, I am so sorry. I had a MC the first time I was PG and it really upset me. I felt awful for ages afterwards and felt like I had failed. The important thing is that you realise that although it is heart breaking, it is not your fault, there is NOTHING that you could have done to prevent it.
Sending you lots of hugs xxxxxxxxx

GetDownYouWillFall · 27/10/2010 11:30

thank you Brasso4. So sorry you have been through it too. It totally sucks Sad

I naively thought that it couldn't happen to me because I never had one when trying with DD. How stupid to think that.

LadyGoneGaga · 27/10/2010 11:35

I know Getdown I was the same. Lulls you into false sense of security. But in hindsight it never felt quite right for me - I never felt quite as pg as I did with DS.

Scottygirl10 · 27/10/2010 12:48

Hi getdown, so sorry to see you're going through this. This is the exact thing that happened to me last month with my first pregnancy so I know exactly what you're going through. I made an app with my gp and was sent for an internal scan the next day to make sure it had all come away naturally, which thankfully it had. I was beyond gutted, being first pregnancy and all. Luckily tho elemt need to wait to ttc this month which made me feel better. Hope this helps x

GetDownYouWillFall · 27/10/2010 13:20

thanks scottygirl10. Now I am home from work my "front" has crumbled and I'm crying buckets Sad

Am on the call back list for the GP as no appointments.

Do you think I will need a scan if I am bleeding heavily?

The thought of a scan without a baby in there sounds like a horrible ordeal. Sad

LadyGoneGaga · 27/10/2010 13:37

Getdown I would try and find an EPU, here. That's where the GP will refer you to anyway. They'll ask you some questions and decide how to proceed. They will need to make sure everything has gone so there are no problems further down the line.

GetDownYouWillFall · 27/10/2010 13:40

ok thanks Lady I think there is one near me.

I had kind of assumed it was too early to need one of those, but I don't know, I have no experience.

LadyGoneGaga · 27/10/2010 15:44

How are you doing Getdown - have you spoken to anyone yet? Thinking of you x

GetDownYouWillFall · 27/10/2010 16:16

Hi Lady thanks for asking after me.

The GP just called me back. He said there is no need to go and see anyone unless the pain or bleeding gets a lot worse. He said to just let things take their course. Sad

LadyGoneGaga · 27/10/2010 16:21

That's not really very sensitive or supportive of him Getdown, is that all the advice he gave you? There is a mc section here on talk which is helpful and also, when you feel up to trying again, a Trying after mc thread here - lots of lovely ladies there. I also found this site really helpful here

GetDownYouWillFall · 27/10/2010 16:24

thanks, yes that was pretty much it. Although he did say the dreaded "retained products of conception" thing, and that I should go to A&E if things start getting a lot worse.

KLou111 · 27/10/2010 17:01

I am so sorry getdown. I can't believe what you are having to go through. The Doctor sounds like he's brushed you off a bit which is most helpful of him!!!

Makes me realise that although we are all spurring each other on to get pregnant, the harsh reality is what could happen. I feel like I've been brought back to reality (in a good way). But it was NOT you fault in any way. Don't you dare think it is.

I am TTC my 1st and on cycle 2 so have not experienced any of this yet so cannot offer advice, but my thoughts for you are there.

It must be totally awful for you. Sending you (((((((((HUGE HUGS)))))))))

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ravenlocks · 27/10/2010 17:30

Getdown wanted to give you some virtuals hugs from me too. Take care of yourself. Xxx

GetDownYouWillFall · 27/10/2010 18:03

thank you all for the hugs. Feeling a bit crappy TBH.

Going to treat myself to a glass of wine tonight.

Does anyone know how long it takes to get your cycle back on track? Or is it one of those "different for everyone" kind of things? Also does the bleeding last longer or shorter than a normal AF? The GP was pretty useless on these questions and couldn't really say.

littlemisslozza · 27/10/2010 18:25

So sorry to hear what you are going through Getdown. I had an early mc at roughly 5 weeks, it was my first pregnancy and I've had two children since and TTC#3.

With regards to your cycle I found that it took about 6 weeks to get a period after the mc and once I'd had that we TTC again and were successful - DS1 is sitting on my lap watching Postman Pat Smile

The bleeding was longer and heavier I'm afraid even though I was only just pregnant. I had already been to the GP to tell them I was pg (first time excitement!) so I rang up and said I thought I was mc so they did send me to EPAU. Nothing to see on the scan though.

It certainly put a dampner on the first few weeks of my subsequent pregnancies as it's so hard not to expect it to happen again - in fact I started bleeding at 6 weeks with DS2 and thought I was mc again, all was well and saw a little heartbeat on the scan so just goes to show how each pg is different.

Take care

GetDownYouWillFall · 27/10/2010 18:32

thanks so much littlemisslozza it's great you went on to have two normal pregnancies Smile

I see what you mean about it putting a dampner on future pregnancies though - expecting it to happen again. I told my best friend, naively thinking everything would be fine. Feel a bit foolish now TBH. Won't be telling anyone straight away in RL if I do manage to get pregnant again....

thanks re. the info about the bleeding and your cycle. I feel a bit downcast about having to wait 6 weeks for next period Sad

I know it sounds really trivial but was soooo looking forward to having a summer baby - literally all my family's birthdays are either nov or dec (inc. mine) also I had really bad PND after DD and I'm sure it was partly because of the dark, cold december days Sad

Still, I should be happy if I get pregnant again, regardless of when the birth date is.

LadyGoneGaga · 27/10/2010 18:42

This site www.pregnancyloss.info/recovery.htm is really helpful on recovery times etc. It took 5 and a half weeks from when bleeding started for me to get next AF and I kept ttc that first cycle anyway, I was charting and ovved after 4 and a half weeks but had a really short luteal phase. But the Doctor told me there is no need to wait for AF to come, they only say that for the purposes of dating the pregnancy but if you chart and use OPK's you should be able to date it anyway.

They say you are more fertile after a mc as well.

I know what you mean re: a summer baby but tehre is still time to get one in and babies are lovely whenever they are born. It's not silly anyway, it's always sad when you make plans and it all changes.

Mylittlebubble · 27/10/2010 19:13

I have had brown blood all day worried it might turn to proper bleeding. As anyone else had this much brown blood and it come to nothing?

LadyGoneGaga · 27/10/2010 19:16

I had brown spotting/blood with my first pregnancy Bubble and it was fine. It was red blood with my second that ended in mc. Have fingers crossed for you.

Mylittlebubble · 27/10/2010 19:23

Right gonna put DD to bed then have a nice bath and early night. Rest Rest Rest. I pushed it last time when things started to look bad thinking if I ignored it the worst wouldn;t happen, but it did. So promised myself I would look after myself this time even if I do sound neurotic!!

Scottygirl10 · 27/10/2010 19:48

Couldn't contain myself and tested 2 days early...faint line! Tested again today and got slightly stronger line. Not getting ahead of myself. Got so exited last time and ended in mc at 5 weeks. Waiting till Saturday to do clear blue digital. No counting of chickens here...good luck to all the other testers :) x

GetDownYouWillFall · 27/10/2010 19:50

Congratulations Scottygirl Smile

Scottygirl10 · 27/10/2010 20:03

Thanks getdown, but like I say one day at a time. In answer to your earlier question, I mc on 29 September and bled heavier than truck for about 6 days. I believe i then ovulated around 13th to 15th October wi a bfp yesterday! When this happened to me last month all I could think about was getting pregnant again, and clearly it can be done in a short time frame. I guess everyone's different :). Hoping for a sticky beam this time, and one for you too next time round x

Scottygirl10 · 27/10/2010 20:05

That's meant to say heavier than 'usual' not heavier than truck lol

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