We're taking the train...some now boarding, some delays, some still standing on the platform! TTC 'Waiters' IIT!

[bebejones]

Old thread here

Welcome aboard, make yourselves comfy I have a feeling it's going to be a bumpy ride!

he has better days and worse days...

ultimately his brain has been damaged by his stroke so he wont ever get better, and the doctor thinks he might have had another small one (ie why he has got suddenly a lot worse than before )... be he is no worse this week than last week i dont think, so just hope he stays the same...

he is just very confused, and doesnt understand whe he has carers coming twice a day but thats just how it has to be...

either that or a care home ... he isnt even 60 yet

thanks for asking

Does he feel better in his own surroundings? What are the carers like, are they any good?

Oh you know that September bus so many of us have been waiting for for quite a while? Well it's now due to start boarding in... Wait for it... 57 days!

Busy old train last night!

I think I will use the OPKs to just get some reassurance that I am interpretting things right. Cant wait to try them out!

Can't believe that bus will be here soon, don't think I'll be borading it 'properly', more using it as a rail link

Nannyl - so sorry to hear about your dad

hey Nannyl, bebe, AC, 100 years anyone else who currently onboard and not snoozing hehe

i wud of like to use OPK's however think u can get addicted to peeing on sticks and seeing wot they say, i ordered some more cheap pregnancy tests of ebay the other day just to see if pregnancy line is any darker now its still bothering me a bit that lines were so faint :S

im looking forward to everyone starting TTC soon, its going to be xciting :)

WHYWAIT- hope your feeling ok, fingers crossed it was an implantation bleed, i felt like AF was coming for about ten days b4 i found out i was pg, i even went into a shop to buy a preg test and then decided not to as i was convinced AF had started whilst i was there, fingers crossed for u :)

Oh it's just so damn exciting on here at the moment! Lots of 2WW, HPTs and symptom spotting. I am a little bit but also very at all of you getting on with TTC and also of those of you who have succumbed to the magic pregnancy inducing abilities of the train!!

Still secretly hoping that I will somehow fall prey to the babymaking train (but I'm not going to do anything to actively encourage this - that idea has been put firmly to bed!!!)

AF arrived 3 days early this cycle. In the last 5 cycles I have had:
#1 - 30 days
#2 - 29 days
#3 - 35 days
#4 - 30 days
#5 - 27 days
So much for getting towards a regular 30 days!! At lease my Persona showed ovulation in my last cycle :)

Goodness only knows what happened in month 3! I did tests but they were all negative so guessing my hormones are still settling down after being on the pill.

WhyWait - try not to symptom spot too much or you will go insane. I know it's hard and I am sure I will be dreadful when I get around to TTC but the more you think about it the more mad it will make you!!!

AC I can't believe that you are less than 60 days from TTC..... Super exciting!!

My colleague posted photos of her baby on facebook yesterday and she is the most gorgeous little thing ever. I usually think that newborns look a bit funny and some can actually be very ugly looking at the start so was pretty shocked to see that her's was just gorgeous! There seem to be a lot of babies being born at the moment in my grouo of friends, what on earth happened 38 weeks ago?!?!?

Wow, train was busy last night! Thanks for the welcome everyone.

Sorry to hear about your dad nannyl, that sounds so hard. Does he live far away?

Can I ask a newbie question? What's TCOYF? Probably too early for me to start using it, but am curious.

I've been keeping a note of my cycle lengths too JS, they're all over the place. Shortest in the past few months was 28, longest 42 I thought I was in trouble that month! Hope the irregularity isn't anything to worry about, I've been off the pill for months so would have hoped they'd have settled down.

So much to learn!

JS not me unfortunately. It should have been my bus (i.e that was the timetable i was working towards this time last year) but I will be watching it leave without me.

Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a fantastic book about your fertility signs and your cycle. It tells you how to maximise your chances of conceiving and also how to avoid pg.

Not at the same time obviously!

AC - we can wait together and watch the bus leave without us......

so i caved took another pregnancy test to reassure myself the preg line came up b4 the controll line this time and was very definate dark line so i wasted money but least i feel better and have reassured myself

im feeling a bit down stressed today, DP left for work at 6.30am yest and wont get home till afta 8 tonite, so been alone with DD for 2 days, really dont like his new job, its not benefiting us in anyway just means he is seeing a lot less of me and more importantly DD, not wot i need when im pregnant but i cant say anything as this is the reason y he didnt want to talk about TTC till afta the new year :( its just gets really lonely being home alone all the time, starting to worry how ill cope with 2 now if his job carries on like this, i wudnt even mind if it was bringing in xtra money but it works out less money 4 more hours, sorry for the rant (think the hormones r kicking in i am not a very nice pregnant person i dont think lol

Oh jbells! You silly saussage!!! good that it has reassured you though :)

It sounds like you are having a tough day - really sorry to hear that DP's job is upsetting you. Hopefully things will start to improve at some point but for now it's crappy that you don't get the benefits of his extra hours and time away from home.

Can you take time out for a nice bath?? I know it's silly but I find that really helps me when i am feeling a bit down.

Hugs to you
x

thanks JS WHYWAIT

i am getting myself worked up and upset now, this just isnt wot i sighed up for when he told me bout new job he sed it wud mean he was home more as he wudnt be travelling just over a hr there and back everday, we live near liverpool and his old job was by manchester, but now it seems every couple of weeks or so hes going to be staying away on business meetings etc, i just really hate being alone all day and all nite, i know it sounds stupid but if i didnt contribute as much financially as he did i prob wudnt mind so much but i still pay all the bills and all he pays is the rent, at the moment im getting paid for 20 hrs a week, id prob have a more lienient view otherwise, but at the moment DD seems to be my sole responsibilty most the time, i work 2 days and pay just as much as he does in bills, i just feel im in a bit of an unfair position, he earns a lot lot more than me but had got himself into loads of debt before i met him that consequently takes a big chunk of the money, last nite afta he finished work while i was still running round with DD, he went back to his hotel, went to the gym, used the sauna and steam room and then ordered room service , maybe im being unreasonable but i just feel hard done by at the moment, and in a very miserable mooney mood lol, i really dont think DP understand how tiring and hardwork looking afta a toddler is dont get me wrong i wudnt change looking afta her for going to work and i know im lucky i get to see her a lot more than he does but it wud be nice if he ever recognised how hard my job is

Hope everyone else is having a better day
oh and to top it off he was supose to leave work for the 3 hr journey home at 4 and still hasnt

Hi JBells,
So sorry you are feeling so sad. You are bound to be feeling more emotional than normal with all the hormones swirling around in your body. Plus you are starting to think about how your life will be changed when 2d baby comes along and so that is stressing you out too.
As you know my dh has big debt too ad so is payingoff a loan. It does get frustrating as most of his money goes onto that but you say that he got into debt before he met you? So since he has been with you he is just paying that off?That is good as it means he has learnt his lesson and is doing everything he can to make things better i the long run. I have ranted and raved about dh debt but I know that he is not getting anymore into debt and is sorting it out. Its going to be a good few years yet but in the long run it will be ok.
Also, when I have to work away I go out with the people I'm working with and get a meal for free from expenses so it sounds like I am having a good time but I would do anything to be at home with my dh-it just makes it the time go quicker.
I think like the others said you need to have a nice night,relax, think of the positives and then when you feel a bit calmer explain to dh how you feel as your wellbeing is very important too.
I really hope you ar ok.
Sending a big hug
x

Me again-need bit of help/advice.
As you know only past 4/5months have been gettig periods since coming off injection.
Day 18 of m/c today and started bleeding after two days of cramps,back pain. Its only light and is bright red. Does this mean anything?Is there any chance of conceiving on a 18 day m/c. Feeling quite miserable because of it. Going to post on general conception bit too.

As long as you ovulate and have a luteal phase that lasts at least 10 days I don't see why not.

Jbells I'm sorry you are feeling so down and DH is not around to take it out on lol. As has been suggested, treat yourself to some r&r. I am in exactly the same position as your DH, i.e. I came to the relationship with £35K debt, and it's not easy. I'm down to about £24K now, but it seems endless. Tricky to manage when DH has no debt, particularly when I want to ttc. It is rubbish from either side.

thanks for all your advice yest everyone, i am feeling a bit more rational today, i know its his job and its not as if he is partying all the time, these hormones just seem to be getting the better of me, hopefully they will calm down soon, its just so lonely in the house on my own at nite once DD is in bed (gets the violins out) lol, i have rang in sick to work today generally feeling crappy and really cant stand to sit around those intolerable people, going to see my mum so that shud make me feel better and DD is in nusery so will get a bit of rest that shud help,

sorry for the rant yest :)

Amummy- im not the best person to know about times u ovulate, conceiving etc, i hope you managed to get other advice tho, wot was the general concensus?

AC- thanks for advice it always helps to hear view points from people out the situation, i do need to remember that DP is trying to get out of debt and its been a long hard few years but by the end of necxt year there will be light at the end of the tunnel, i guess its always frustrating for both parties

jbells sorry you had a poo day yesterday, rants are good though, I did miss out on the advice part of things.

Hope everyone else is OK, not got time to check back on everything as I am about to get ready for work, but I'm still here, still waiting, still wanting!!!!