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Help - A 9wk old baby and desperately want to get pg again... is this normal??!

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Newmummy2010 · 08/09/2010 22:32

I've recently given birth to a gorgeous little bubby, but am totally desperate to be pg again.

It took over a year to conceive #1. i'm over the world to be a mummy and can't believe my luck. Not sure if urgency is due to this or baby hormones...

Not even sure how we can get pg as I'm BF and it seems BF is 99% effective contraceptive. Seems like unless i stop, its going to be impossible. ;-( but won't stop feeding yet, as its important to me to look after bubby.

DH is v understanding but DTD is not easy, had forceps delivery and episotiomy, so still uncomfortable and finding it diff to become a temptress to tempt hubby to jump me as DTD is painful and he works long hrs and not sleeping cos of bubby!

Anyone in a similar situ / advice would be much appreciated... Am i going mad??!

Big thanks x

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stainesmassif · 08/09/2010 22:48

Hormones. When ds was little I remember thinking I'd like to have twins, triplets, six at least. I'd still like more, but I think that was definitely hormones. Unless time is against you I think it's a good idea to give yourself a bit of a break before going straight into the next. Is age a concern?

JaynieB · 08/09/2010 22:49

Definately hormones! I went to a baby group when DD was little and around this age the talk was almost incessantly about more babies...one or two succumbed.

saintlydamemrsturnip · 08/09/2010 22:51

god no are you insane woman?

Although dh and his sister have less than a year between them . His mother still moans about it nearly 40 years later :o

I recommend a nice cup of tea!

ShowOfHands · 08/09/2010 22:53

It's normal and will pass.

New baby hormones make you do crazy things like want to get pregnant and use the words dtd and bubby. It gets better.

DinahRod · 08/09/2010 22:54

Hormones.

It's why a cousin of dh's had 3 girls under the age of 1!

Hormones can return in a real rush but do subside.

summery · 08/09/2010 22:54

Definitely hormones.

I too wanted to be pregnant again almost straight away and also become a midwife!

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Newmummy2010 · 08/09/2010 23:09

thanks all for the wise words.

stainesmassif - yes, age is against me, maybe that's also part of the issue subconciously.

summery - being a midwife must be v rewarding, thanks for the support.

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hairytriangle · 08/09/2010 23:14

It's why a cousin of dh's had 3 girls under the age of 1!

Trying to work this out - two of them were twins, or they were triplets ???

stainesmassif · 08/09/2010 23:17

Yes! I wanted to be a mw too! Hormones.... Newmummy- how much of an issue if you don't mind me asking? If it's any consolation my cm had 5 from late 30s onwards, no multiples. She's my heroine!

ShowOfHands · 08/09/2010 23:17

I know somebody who had 4 under 1.

Twins and then twins again 11.5 months later. She's remarkably sane.

seashore · 08/09/2010 23:19

Agree it's hormones, I wanted to be pregnant (and give birth again!) instantly after just giving birth to ds 14 mths.

Northernlurker · 08/09/2010 23:27

It's normal to want another baby when the one you have is so yummy - kind of like doughnuts

BUT - You need to give your body a little break and you need to let both you and dh have time to enjoy your daughter for a few months. Two babies in a year would be very, very hard work for your body and it's not actually how we are designed to reproduce. If it happens, it happens - but if I were you I would leave it a few months at least. Also - sex shouldn't be painful - is the discomfort improving over time and are you using plenty of lubricant? Even if you don't usually it can be helpful for sex after childbirth.

DinahRod · 09/09/2010 08:17

hairytriangle, dh's cousin had a girl and then twin girls, all within a year. They are also going to be in the same school year. She says the girls are going to go through life with people working out when their parents had sex and look faintly appalled

summery · 09/09/2010 09:49

Can I just say I am NOT a midwife

Actually the thought of doing what they do makes me feel queasy, I was completely set on training to be one though after my ds was born! (for a few weeks)

mousymouse · 09/09/2010 09:51

I had this, was about 2 weeks after dd slept though the night... feelings went away quickly with the sleep regression a month later :)

HotSprocket · 09/09/2010 09:57

I wanted to be pregnant again right after i had dd, probably lasted about 2 months. I remember telling my friend who has 2 dc and her just giving me a 'look'.

She is 4 months now and i still know i want more someday but not for a long long time.

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Newmummy2010 · 09/09/2010 18:42

Hi everyone - thanks for all the advice, yup sounds like those naughty hormones are to blame.

Feeling slightly better that this has happened to other people too.

Northernlurker like the analagy about doughnuts - I've always had a sweet tooth and yep using lube. As we've only had sex twice (once with the lube) and there was little improvement to the pain, not sure if its getting easier yet. Time will tell hopefully. I had an episotiomy due to forceps delivery, so think this maybe to blame unfortunately.

From a new MN'er, thanks again for all the support and lots of luck to everyone x

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Northernlurker · 09/09/2010 18:50

The episiotomy may be the issue - but you don't have to put up with that indefinately. If it carries on hurting go and see your GP (make an appointment with a female one if you prefer) and get the ball rolling for a hospital referral. There's no reason in this day and age for women to be permanently scarred by childbirth. Oh and welcome to our idst

Northernlurker · 09/09/2010 18:50

idst???

Sounds like some sort of cult.......should be 'midst'!!

LittleSilver · 09/09/2010 19:02

I felt exactly the same. Much to my chagrin couldn't get pg until I stopped bf (though really OP, it's NOT 99%) effective. But I would have loved a closer gap. Hey ho, I'm very grateful for the babies I have.

HotSprocket · 09/09/2010 19:05

Agree with Northernlurker about the episiotomy pain. I had one and the stitches were buggered up.

I went to the doctor and she has referred me back to the hospital. I think best to get it sorted sooner rather than later.

yummytummy · 09/09/2010 19:10

i agree, def hormones. however i had similar ie episiotomy and forceps and when i saw the gp and gynae physio they said it can be normal to experience pain on dtd as it can sometimes take up to a year for the tissues to totally heal properly.(obv this may not be true for u)

Nospringflower · 09/09/2010 19:19

What does DTD stand for? I seriously cant work it out and its bugging me!!

DinahRod · 09/09/2010 19:43

doing the deed, I assumed?

sweetkitty · 09/09/2010 20:05

I felt exactly like you after DD1 waited until she was 9 m to TTC and there's 18 months between them.

If you are exclusively breatfeeding your periods might not come back for a while, I had to drop feeds when DD3 was 11 months or so to get my periods back to ttc no 4.

Good luck close age gaps are hard but great fun.

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