'3 times a day'

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for salty to ask questions as i'm curious what the questions are...!

Ha ha! Can I ask too!

I mean. God. what are your JOBS for a start?!?! (my husband is in the emergency services. 12 hour shifts do not a love machine make). And how long have you been together. And and and. Salty help me out here luvva!

Dagnamit I have a meeting to go to now - I expect ALL SORTS of salacious detail when I get back

Phew...

Well I think i will list questions if that's ok, I'm still too far in shock to string sentences together!

1. When do you find the time?
2. Was this an agreed strategy with your partner, or did it just kinda happen? 3)How do you keep it from being horribly mechanical and all about 'The Intent', rather than the sex, if you see what I mean?
3. How long have you been together, and have you always been a 3 times a day (A DAY!!!) sort of couple? 5)do you just not have sex at all the rest of the month, or do you continue in the same vein..

that'll do, for now.

I may have further queries Knitter ...

Headbanger I'm a Management Consultant (aka evil capitalist)
DH is a Civil Servant (aka soft altruist)

1, we've always been quite 'quick' - in a good way if that makes sense - 10 mins per sesh rather than an hour.... So we try for one in the morning, one after DS asleep and one at bedtime....
2, Sort of discussed in an amusing way and agreed on - DH likes the challenge!
3, It does get a bit 'mechanical' but 'tis always fun...
4, We've been together 8 years and it hasn't always been that frequent... dipped to about once a week i suppose. This is just a strategy when TTC as otherwise it would just be silly!!
5, When TTC we aim for 3x per day for the whole month (not when actually on AF - eugh)

Ask away... i'm not shy...obv. :)

4, acutally dipped to 0 for first 2/3 months of pregnancy - much to DH horror....

Seriously, you have sex 3 times a day for the 3 weeks you are not on your period?

So it dipped to once a week, which I think is probably quite standard, then you agreed your strategy....was it not all a bit weird at first?? like, the first day after you discussed it....

I am currently trying extremely hard to not make sex all about babies (even though, clearly, it is!!)....I just can't imagine having a regime...but as you say, it works!!

knitter I'm v impressed you manage to find the time! It's made me think that after DD has gone to bed might be a good 'window'....

I'd had a coil fitted before so there was some discussion and a visit to the doctors before we were actually SWI rather than just S if that makes sense. Also as the first day we were trying was the first time i'd EVER had unprotected sex that was weird in its own right... We talked more about how strange that was than the 'why' we were doing it.

Also for various reasons there was a financial advantage to getting pregnant in one of two specific months. So when trying for DS we had the coil removed and then agreed on a strategy of 'maximum-sperm' to increase the chances of getting pregnant in those months... and it worked first month.

After DS I had my coil put back in and was BFing at the point where we might take advantage of the financial loop hole again I had my coil taken out but we didn't really 'try' i.e. didn't do the 3xper day strategy. After about 6 months and no BFP we decided to try and did the 3xper day. I was just about to test and was feeling pg when AF came... so we were 'trying' the next month when I got ill - which was actually the ectopic pregnancy revealing itself. So the first month of 'trying' had worked but I'd had AF as baby was in the tube not my womb.

After the ectopic we were advised to have the lochia and then wait for one more AF before trying again. Which we did and then got pregnant straight away again. We discovered that baby had MMC'd at 13 weeks.

In some ways the 3 x per day strategy becomes about 'can we do it 3 x per day' rather than 'can we make a baby' if that makes sense...

grumpy - when DS has just gone to sleep is a good moment IMO - and then we get dressed again and do whatever we planned in the evening, before going to bed and....

The morning SWI is probably the toughest as it relies on us waking up before DS :)

As I say each SWI isn't a marathon shag-fest though - 10-15 mins tops.... In this situation it's quantity not quality that matters :)

I'm sorry to hear about your ectopic and your MMC - not easy things to deal with at all Knitter.

Sounds like you have a sound strategy....I am a little in awe of you knit you sound like a very strong and level headed lady....

Sorry Knitter you did put that in your original post - I was just too about the 3 times a day thing (shall i stop going on about that now??)

Are you trying at the moment?

See it's the morning that stresses me out cos DD wakes up between 6 and 6.30 and comes into our room for cuddles and I'm terrified of her catching us 'in mid act' but I think I read somewhere that morning is best in terms of sperm quality...

it's fine - the ERPC for the MMC was a month ago yesterday so I 'worked from home' and cried over the scan picture from the 6 week scan (I get an early scan now because of the ectopic).

I know we've been unlucky but am basically fine with it all now....

My AF has just returned (today) after the ERPC so in a few days time we'll be trying again.... look out bedsprings :)

grumpy totally agree with that sentiment. When DS was smaller we co-slept and would 'do the deed' with him in the bed but I'd never do it now if he was in with us.... could you set an alarm for 5 and then go back to sleep after?

ha ha ha knitter that's fab! I love your answers 1-5!! You should post the link to this thread to the girls on the other...they were so loving the 3 a day thing that I'm sure they'd like all the details!!!

Am slightly in awe. Think we were lucky if we managed 3 times full stop over fertile period!

Tee hee, just mentioned 3 times a day idea to DH who looked v worried.... Especially about the early morning one, he's not really a morning person... Then he said maybe I'm spending too much time on MN as it seems to be giving me 'funny ideas'

Thanks for the great read Knitter. I'm feeling inadequate awed too.

Go girlfriend

Thanks for being so open knitter sorry to hear about your eptopic and the MMC. Third time lucky eh? I really thought it was a typo on the other thread as in every 3 days :o I am in awe and just laughing at the thought of DH and I doing it twice a day EVER let alone 3 times a day every day. All I can say is... skills. ;)

Knitter is a hero. As is Mr Knitter. Awesome dedication to the cause

Now whatever you're feeding your DH, my dear, post it to me NOW please. :)

Oooh here's one. Pals on my regular thread may think I'm obsessed with the subject but do you ever get cystitis? If I shagged x 3 a day for half the month, I would be hospitalised and stuffed full of antibiotics, and cranberry juice would be the beverage of choice.

Nice going by the way...I hope it works. Sorry to hear about the MC and the ectopic.

Aries never had sex-related cystitis and have always been a bit puzzled by people who get it actually...

I've always put down my lack of cystitis to the fact that I drink lots of water.... pint for breakfast, 2 pints-ish during the day at work and another couple of pints in the evening.

I used to do lots of sport and was once told by a coach that your urine should be almost colourless and odourless... that's always stuck with me. When I was pregnant with DS the midwives/doctors commented a couple of times how lovely my urine samples were .

I also never get headaches which I put down to drinking lots of water...

Knitter, you are just trying to make everyone jealous now...sex 3 times a day, enough water to have award winning urine, playing sport...

:)

knitter I think you are inspirational!!

How the hell u manage it with a DS, DH & JOB i will never know -

Im so sorry for your ectopic and then MC, but i sure hope your strategy gets you that much deserved BFP and its sticky!!

I will hpwever say.... where on earth do you find the energy