MIscarried at 4 wks.... now what? :(

[SophieB1]

I'm sadly in the process of having a miscarriage, I was 4 wks. What do I do now? Do I treat it like its a period? have to admit this is truly horrible :'( I know I was only 4 wks but u get excited that ur gona have a baby n start to secetly think about it all and what u wana buy etc just heartbreaking

Ah hon, I just posted on your other thread, I am so sorry. I take it this was to be your first? I am TTC my first and have had 2 mcs this year, it's totally devastating and even though it's happened early, to you that little life was your future and you will be totally gutted.
As far as the actual process of a mc so early on, my second was early and it'll be like a heavy period and perhaps last a bit longer, and expect to pass some clots. If at any point you are concerned go and see your GP. also my EPAU nurse advised to carry out a pg test 10 days after bleeding stopped to ensure the mc had completed properly...you should get a negative result.
Oh and as one of the girls on the thread below commented earlier...no tampax, just use towels.
Take care, big hug

PS Should you at any point in the future decide to ttc again, this following thread is so very supportive:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1010695-Just-MC-and-ready-to-try-again-Pack-your-cake

This would have been my second, haven't told the bf yet as his just started a new job and I haven't had the courage. Thank u tho :) x

Sophie so sorry, do kind of know how you might be feeling.

As soon as you get that line, you can't help but mentally plan ahead...I had mc in may at 6 weeks, and got a bfp on Thursday this week, but am sat in bed cramping, heavy bleeding with a hot water bottle on my tummy.

The whole thing is crap and so emotionally heart wrenching.

All I can say is take care of yourself as much as you can, mums net has been a life saver to me, and the support is fantastic.

I counted the first day of bleeding as day one of new cycle? not sure if thats exactly right, but things returned to normal quite quickly. Was advised we could ty again whenever we were ready, as long as I got a -test. The whole waiting one cycle is for dating only really, and if loss is early and complete it should be ok.

Sending you lots of hugs, and hope you can talk to your BF soon.

XX

I'm so so sorry for your losses.
I think the answer to your original question is that you need to treat it in whatever way feels right for you. I've had 2 early mcs, and the first one, at 5 and a half weeks completely devastated me, I cried for ages, lay in bed, it took a while to get over. However we TTC again after my first AF and got pregnant straight away. Sadly that one ended at four and a half weeks. That time, it didn't shock me half as much and although I was disappointed sad, I didn't need as much time to get over it.
Not sure if you'll want to hear this, but hope you see it as a story of hope - we've recently tried again and I'm now nearly 6 weeks pregnant (and praying that this one holds on).
So I wish you all the luck,
xx

Thanx everyone, as much as I want to do a sickie from work I won't because it takes my mind off of it, I now feel for all the women out there who go through this. Things happen for a reason I suppose :)