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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC post miscarriage

18 replies

nickstermum · 18/08/2010 18:57

Hi all,

I am thinking about TTC post MC but dont really know where to start. Both EPU and GP have said there is no issue with starting to try again immediately (even without waiting for one cycle as that advice is only really for dating purposes should i conceive again) but i dont really know where to start (other than the obvious (grin)

Any advice from anyone would be gratefully received....

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FisiMaji · 18/08/2010 19:16

Just go for it. Don't wait. Rumour has it you are more fertile just after a miscarriage...

Magic8ballhastheanswers · 18/08/2010 19:19

Hi Have a look at this thread Just MC and ready to try again? loads of support, advice and virtual handholding there :) The ladies are lovely.

Thandeka · 18/08/2010 19:29

my 6month old daughter is currently fast asleep downstairs conceived immediately after my MMC at 10 weeks. No period in between. Think your body just wants to be pregnant again and there's lots of similar stories on here. Go for it!

FlipFantasia · 18/08/2010 19:54

There was a thing on Woman's Hour yesterday (I think it was yesterday) about how the official advice to wait 6 months post-MC before trying again isn't good. As in, there's nothing that shows that getting pregnant quickly after a MC causes any problems. So the advice should be revised to try again as soon you feel emotionally and physically ready...if you feel ready then go for it. And I really hope you have a healthy next pregnancy

susitwoshoes · 18/08/2010 19:56

no reason why you can't try straight away, they say wait till your next period but I think that's mainly so as you know when you're ovulating.

Good luck!

susitwoshoes · 18/08/2010 19:57

sorry, didn't read your OP properly!

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nickstermum · 18/08/2010 20:01

Thanks for this.... hubs is ready, i think it will help me to move on.....

anyone know how you calculate ovulation time after miscarriage..

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ljg72 · 18/08/2010 20:19

I counted first day of mc as day one...good luck

Thandeka · 18/08/2010 20:21

I did same as ljg and ovulated 25days after based on temp and other signs. So only a week later than normal for me.

Means I haven't had a period in 20months

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nickstermum · 18/08/2010 20:24

ljg would that be the day i started with extreme blood or the day spotting started? - sorry not to sure!

thanks will keep my eyes peeled for signs

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ljg72 · 18/08/2010 20:28

I counted from the first day of spotting?.
I didnt ovulate till the following month though. x

meggles · 19/08/2010 09:56

On Fertility Friend - advice is to count from first day of light flow. Not spotting.

I had MC in mid-July, and have just finished 1st cycle after MC. We TTC during that first cycle. We're not preggers.

I would say be very probing of yourself - are you emotionally ready? Personally, I thought I was ready, but when my period came, a flood of 'uselessness' 'sadness' feelings came rushing at me. not pleasant. I felt like a failure b/c miscarraige, and now a failture that we didn't fall pregnant after (when everyone 'says' you're so fertile).

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nickstermum · 19/08/2010 18:16

Thanks meggles i will look on fertility friend. Thanks for the guidance. its a good plan to see that i am mentally ready.... already have the feeling of uselessness post MC.. can that get any worse? Will TTC during that first cycle - amazing if it happened, but i would be surprised!!!

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megonthemoon · 19/08/2010 18:27

Just go for it. I had mc in November and should have had baby in mid july. Instead I'm 37 weeks pg :) I waited for period then we went for it and got pg first cycle.

If you do get pg quickly, you may have mixed feelings for a while. I found first trimester hard as was still grieving a bit, but by due date in July I had a big wriggly bump and felt very at peace - without mc, I wouldn't have this wriggly one to look forward to, and that has really helped me get over mc.

Good luck!

DilysPrice · 19/08/2010 18:34

If you think you're ready then I'd also say go for it.

I conceived DD one full cycle after a mc with 1st pg and there's a sort of peace in knowing that if the previous pregnancy had succeeded DD could never have existed - does that make sense?

Very best of luck.

Thandeka · 19/08/2010 19:41

wow DilysPrice- that is such a lovely way of looking at it and I never thought of it like that. Wouldn't swap madam for anything in the world so thinking that really helps!

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nickstermum · 19/08/2010 22:21

moon Congratulations! not long now how wonderful - i wish you luck x

Dilys agree with thandeka.. maybe there will be light at the end of the tunnel :)

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megonthemoon · 19/08/2010 22:41

Dilys puts it so well - how can I remain sad about my mc when without it I wouldn't have this baby to look forward to? I think it will feel like a double blessing when she arrives as she is the baby I might never have had Iyswim. It does put me at peace with my mc.

So definitely worth trying straight away IMO and IME :)

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