No more pain

[NoMorrPain]

Just need to offload. I can’t bear my life of pain anymore. Suffered chronic pain for nearly 20 years, a cocktail of health problems going on and no easy fix for any. Gained lots of weight with last pregnancy and it has had an awful knock on effect to my health, now in constant, almost unbearable pain daily. Baby now 4 months old I have tried but failed to lose weight. Health in tatters and very depressed. Can’t bear this life of pain anymore, if I wasn’t needed as a mum I’d be wanting it all to end, to just go to sleep and not wake up.

Hi sorry no one has replied yet hope you are doing ok today. With a 4m old and lack sleep things are bound to feeling even more over whelming than just dealing with pain alone.

Do you feel up to chatting today?

Can you get outside? A bit of sunlight will do you good.
I hope you have support irl.

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.

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Hey, I’m so sorry you’re suffering. Have you heard of the curable app? It’s a chronic pain app and I’ve honestly found it life changing. I think they’ve currently got a 60% off deal for Black Friday. It’s based on all the new pain science and I really recommend it ❤️ If that doesn’t seem like an option, I would also really recommend Nicole Sachs’ podcast “the cure for chronic pain”. It’s a revelation

@NoMorrPain Hi, I'm really sorry to hear you are feeling this way. I'm have chronic pain, I do understand your desperation. The lack of sleep will be really taking it's toll on you by this point. Did you have to change any of your medications/treatments whilst pregnant? Maybe now would be a good time to check in with your GP to see if any adjustments can be made. I really hope you have some help at home? Here to chat if needed

NoMorrPain

I was in this position for years. The only thing that stopped me was having children.

I do think it is hard for someone who hasn’t lived with unending chronic pain to understand what it is like.

I got to a point where I decided to go private for a 2nd opinion.

The NHS was treating me for something that wasn’t actually wrong with me. Which was probably why I continued to be in pain

After the first private session I was diagnosed with what was actually wrong with me and actually had about an hour where I was pain free that day and within a few months of actually being treated for the correct issue I was pain free.

What pissed me off was that the NHS had left me in pain for years because they hadn’t bothered to actually look at me.
I mean that in the literal sense. The consultant who I saw every 3 months to see how I was getting on and to adjust my physio never actually turned his head to look at me. If he had he might have spotted I had bones sticking out where bones are not supposed to stick out.

I suggest going for a second opinion away from the NHS and on top of that looking at vitamins, minerals and over the counter stuff you find on the internet to ease any pain.
Friend with MS grows her own weed to cope with the illness.

Thank you so much everyone for your kind replies. I am in a much better place now and the pain has become more manageable again. I found some time in between caring for my baby and toddler to spend some quiet time in prayer as I am Christian, and felt very much uplifted and peaceful after this.

Yes I agree the sleep deprivation does not help! Baby has been quite unsettled with her jabs, nasty colds and teething. I think this has a knock on with how the pain can feel at times with the tiredness and always being on duty. But I love my family and I love life, I don’t really want to make an early exit, just at times when it got really bad I did dream of heaven and the promise that there will be no more pain there!

Thank you, yes I think it a good idea to get a medical review and second opinion. A lot of my issues stem from a car accident many years ago.

Please join us in chronic pain cafe thread if you want some company. We all nice and know what it’s like