Dh has always suffered from neck pain and headaches - when he's having an attack life is miserable for him and everyone around in.
Since the beginning of this term the attacks seem to be more or less non-stop. It is impacting us a family horribly, he is always in a filthy mood and biting the kids' heads off, we can rarely do anything as a family - for example twice we've been going round to friends' houses and I've had to go alone. On holiday, it is a given that he will have neck pain for the first two days and lie in bed moaning. He is awake half the night groaning and thrashing about, which keeps me awake too. Last night about 5am I started crying saying I couldn't cope with being so worried about him all the time and I get it in the neck as being unsupportive.
Over the years he's tried acupuncture/chiropractors/osteopaths/pilates/yoga/swimming. He's had an MRI - zilch. He's adamant none of them work or work for long. He sees a massage guy regularly who helps a bit but saw him this Saturday and it seemed to have no effect. I've made an appointment with the GP for this week but don't hold out much hope. I think he needs to see a therapist and a lot of this is based on childhood trauma and a total inability to deal with stress, he mutters that yes he will but then when I press him on it he yells at me to stop nagging him.
I am at the end of my tether with exhaustion and anxiety. I love dh but if it carries on this way I am going to have to leave to save myself and the dc. Any advice on where to take this would be welcome
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Chronic pain
Wits end with dh and chronic neck pain/headaches
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ForeverbyJudyBlume · 01/11/2021 09:51
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