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How much do grand parents buy for grand children?

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Marne · 19/12/2009 19:24

How much do your parent (children's grand parents) buy for their grand children at x-mas?

I often see on here people saying grand parents are buying dc * and ** and i always seem to feel a bit .

My mum spends around 5-8 pounds on the dd's for x-mas, i am very grateful (i'm not trying to sound ungrateful) but these are her only 2 grand children and she has no one else (other than her partner) to buy for, she's not that short of cash yet she hardly ever buys the dd's anything.

I know i'm probably going to get called 'ungrateful' but just wondered how much grand parents spent on your dc's?

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Alambil · 19/12/2009 19:25

a lot, but only because I can't.... when I'm working and can get DS more than one £30 gift, she'll cut down I think (I hope!)

I guess in total she's spent £80ish

Hulababy · 19/12/2009 19:26

Probably around £50, sometimes a bit more, sometimes a bit less.

yomellamoHelly · 19/12/2009 19:28

Far too much! (Def over £100 each.) Especially on eldest. Most of it gets ignored because they've been given so many presents. Find it all quite depressing. Makes me give them less each birthday / year.

Tizzyjacko · 19/12/2009 19:28

FIL gives money cos he's got lots. My Mum spends about £10 but she has v little and 11 DGCs

TulipsAndTinsel · 19/12/2009 19:29

they've spent alot on dd this year as she's facinated with cameras atm and my dad promised her a pink camera, think it cost him 70 euros on ebay but it's a joint xmas and birthday gift and even at that my mother is complaining.

generally they spend about 20/30 euros apiece on birthdays and xmas but my mother does constantly pick up bits and pieces in charity shops and sales and brings a little something every time she visits, a book or whatever.

dp's mother spends about 30 euros apiece judging by how much cash she gives us to buy stuff if she can't be bothered.

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Marne · 19/12/2009 19:30

I do buy a lot for the dd's so maybe she thinks they are spoilt? I only buy them lots because hardly any of our family bother to buy them anything, if i knew she was buying them something nice then i could buy them less (saving me money).

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em83 · 19/12/2009 19:30

about £100+ each on 3dcs

FabIsGettingReadyForXmas · 19/12/2009 19:30

Pil have given us £150 towards what DH is making them for Christmas and they are buying gifts too.

I don't care if they only spend a fiver, what I do care is that child 1 gets more than child 2 sometimes.

Wiseoldelf · 19/12/2009 19:34

About £20 each. My MIL would go daft if I let her - but she is TOLD not to buy too much for them. Instead she makes a huge cake for them to eat after Christmas Dinner.

MortaIWombat · 19/12/2009 19:35

£30 (halving the cost of a £60 bike for dd (5) with us) - and £5 on matchbox-esque cars for ds (2), with which he will be very happy!

ByThePowerOfGreyskull · 19/12/2009 19:36

the grandparent like us to suggest something for them to buy so sometimes it is £20 sometimes £40 but it is something we know the boys have wanted.

fin54 · 19/12/2009 19:36

I only had one Grand Daughter for nine years (now have 2) the oldest one was the only child in our family for 22years, so I started when she was a baby and santa comes to my house as well, I must have spent about £250 on each of them, this is fine as long as both my husband and I are working and I just love to see their faces on Christmas morning when they come to our house. (expecting to be slatted for this but what the hell their only young once)

thighsmadeofcheddar · 19/12/2009 19:37

About £60 from my parents and the same from in laws. Plus usually a cheque for the savings account from MIL.

ln1981 · 19/12/2009 19:39

way too much!!
dp's mum is the worst, they all get what can only be described as a sackful of stuff. Some of it is clothes but id reckon there is easily over £100 worth of stuff each! (there is our 3 plus our niece) And no she isnt rich, she just cant stop buying. dp has told her repeatedly not to buy so much nut she just wont listen. It probably sounds incredibly ungrateful of us, but we are not, we just think that they are spoiled a bit too much. my mum and dad spend about £30 each on them, depending on what they would really like. A bit more reasonable i think but still quite alot if money is tight.

em83 · 19/12/2009 19:39

fin54 i totally agree with you, my pils said they love seeing kids faces on xmas morning !!

Tizzyjacko · 19/12/2009 19:43

Fin54 why not? What a lovely thing to do. There is no right answer on this thread. The only things which would cause ill feeling IMO would be discriminating between GCs or any other action that made the parents feel that the GPs did not love/care for their GCs. The amount spent/given is surely irrelevant

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Marne · 19/12/2009 19:45

my grand parents (my dads side) used to give us £30 each and that was 20 years ago.

I agree fin54, its great to see their little faces (and they are only little for a short time).

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4dy · 19/12/2009 19:45

my parents spend about £10 on each on my ds, they have 16 grand children and are nearly 70 so they just have pensions. I dont expect them to spend that much. the problem I have is my dp parents spend more on there daughters two kids than my 2 ds as me and her son are not married! Think each child should get the same

BlackYellowRed · 19/12/2009 19:45

DH's parents spend about £30 on each grandchild (my 2 children and their 2 cousins). My parents send about £50 for each. Same for birthdays too. Would not expect or want them to spend more.

whatdotheyspend · 19/12/2009 19:49

They "spend" around £20 on each child, but in reality we buy the presents for our 3 DC, and my sister's 2 DC, because mum & dad have almost no income. (Namechanged)

'Tis the thought that counts & they are super-generous in every way.

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Marne · 19/12/2009 19:49

The amount shouldn't make a difference Tizzy, i just find it odd that she spends so little, when dd1 was born she said she would spoil her and she never spends more than 8.00, has never baby sat for more than a couple hours, never had the dd's at her house (even though she could). Maybe i'm just being silly but i find it upsetting that most grand parents spoil their grand children at x-mas.

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fin54 · 19/12/2009 19:53

Never ever would make a deference with my granddaughters I adore and love them both equally, I buy them clothing and toys that maybe I couldn?t afford to buy my own children when they were small, yes I will be the first to admit to spoiling them but if I can?t spoil them who can.but can I just say it is never and never will be a compition with anyone about who can afford to buy for them, they will get as long as I can do it and hopfully that will be for a good few years yet.

Tizzyjacko · 19/12/2009 19:55

Sorry Marne. I had forgotten your original post was about the amount. But really isn't that is part of your feeling that she doesn't care enough??? Most of the answers on here are that GPs give what they can in time, money or support and you seem to feel let down in all areas.

lizziemun · 19/12/2009 19:59

Mum will buy what dgc ask for so £20 or £30. But MIL buys one of those massive santa sack things and fills it with tat but not anything that dgc will use or play with. She has also bought dd1 the same things for the last 3yrs as she 'has' to spend the same on each gc.

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