If you are buying for someone with less children than you, do you spend more?

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i.e they have 1 child and you have 4, do you spend 4 times what you would have done on one?

hell no

My friends have 2 and buy for 3 so I spend a little bit more if I can.

Someone else has bought for us and I suspect it is a large gift card, I have only spent £15 on their child and feeling tight. They do have more money but wondering if I have committed a faux pas. They won't mind, I worry.

no, it all evens out as they have families who send far more as they have an only whereas our families are spread betwen our three and don't give as much to each child.

Thanks ruby.

No. I have 3 dcs, Sil has one. She spends about £20 each on mine but it would be inappropriate for me to buy a £60 present for her dd imo. I don't spend that much on my dcs 'main present' and neither does she. A gift from an aunt shouldn't be bigger than a gift from a parent I think.

nope! i make sure my niece and nephew have an equal amount of parcels its not about the money and i would be mortified if someone thought they had to spend more on ds just because he is an only. its bad enough that i do it!

Hmm tricky one..I have just 1, and everyone else in family has 2 or more, we had an agreement just to buy for the children in the family and not adults...so we seem to spend twice as much at christmas than anyone else.

Family is different really. I meant more with friends.

nope, for friends I spend £x per child regardless of who has how many

Yes
I try to spend the same on other people as they spend on me - but if i am buying for a 3 child family I would spend around £8 on each child and wouldn't expect a spend of £24 on my only child...but would probably expect they would spend more than £8 on her - but it's up to them really!

If godparents buy for my child then I would buy a present from her to them. And if my brother buys for me, dp and dd, then I would spend more on him - maybe not quite 3 presents worth, but almost.

Unless they are a close relation everyone gets the same from me. I do spend quite alot more for birthdays though, especially childrens birthdays, love buying them toys!

I spend per child too. I have one child and a friend who has two spoke to me about this last Christmas, she said she was feeling bad that I would be buying two presents whereas she would only be buying one for my DD and so therefore she should spend twice as much. I told her it was very nice of her to buy DD any present and that I bought a present for each of her children because I was very fond of them and did not expect it to all even out.

I do feel abit at the idea that an only child automatically gets more presents than those with siblings though, why on earth would it work out like that?

I think it is embarrassing if you are spending 5 times as much on someone else's family as they are spending on yours or vv.

We are the opposite way round to OP. I have one DD, most of our friends have more.

We all tend to spend roughly the same per child.

I'd be really embarrassed if someone spent loads on DD, compared to the indidivual gifts I got their children.

no, spend what I usually do on a child

This is where I feel Christmas costs can just go on and on and on. It's ridiculous.

I only have one child, for me, I buy eveyone who is not my extended family and my best friend a minding - not a huge gift, literally a minding. For example, children will get a wee top that I've picked up in the sale or a book or small toy. It never costs more than £5.00 per child. I also sales shop, so a lot of the time each child is getting something that only cost a couple of pounds, but originally cost quite a bit more.

Does that make me tight? Perhaps. But I refuse to get caught in the Christmas trap where you bankrupt yourself. I would never expect a mum of three to spend three times the ammount of money on my child just because I've bought three small gifts for her kids. A small gift in return as a minding is just fine - and that's how we all work things here.

We have 3DC's, friend has 1 DD. I do spend more on her than I would per child on a larger family.

Why should we benefit just because we have more children?!

catchastar I dont think you are being tight at all I get a bit annoyed at a friend of mine who tends to spend alot on my 2 Dc's at Xmas and birthdays (she bought Dc1 a rocking horse for one xmas!) I tend to think thats something we should have been able to buy her, I have said to her countless times when she has bought stuff (and told me what she has bought) that thats enough and dont buy any more, and I have also said to her that I am spending £25 max on pressies (as I have more or less become a SAHM). I do love her to bits but I feel awkward incase she has spent more than me. We both have the same number of children although mine are much younger than hers.

My friends and I all agreed two years ago to stop buying for our children. We do a secret santa between us for the mums.

Between 6 of us we have 20 children and none of us could afford to buy that many presents, in addition to family and other friends.

I do try to buy a bigger present for my godson, who is an only.....his mum buys for my three, but I probably don't spend as much as she does.

i dont look at how much the gift costs- more importantly in my mind, is whether the person in question will like the gift i have chosen. for instance, my sister has spent around £30 each on my four dc's, she doesnt have children but i have not spent £120 on her, i have chosen a few gifts i think she will love and left it at that

I have four. My good friend has two, as does my brother, as does my sister. I try to spend a bit more per child than they do, but not double. None of us are adding it up to the penny anyway, and are more concerned for the children to be happy with what they receive.

No, not at all. I spend the same on each child, regardless of how many are in the family.