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Present given back - what to do [hmm]

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timmette · 25/12/2008 17:54

Was feeling very pleased with myself and got dh a wii as a present - as I thought he would never spend the money on himself. He was pleased and opened it and played for 5 mins and then told me it was a great present but he's too old 29 - and he is happy with a book - and yes it's fun when he plays with my bil etc but he doesn't really want one himself.
He then told me to sell it on ebay or some such place and by myself a kitchen aid - because that he would enjoy eating the benefits and he is quite determined - do I force him to keep it? Do I buy my much longed for Kitchen Aid. I did also buy him a few books and a CD and DVD from ds.

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babyOcho · 25/12/2008 18:14

I agree with your DH, they are quite expensive (although v fun) but is he isnt going to use it you might as well spend the money on something else.

A Kitchen Aid is far prettier as well

gaussgirl · 25/12/2008 18:14

UnGRATEFUL! You may have to spend several evening showing him the pleasures of a WII- but the great thing about them is there's something there fore everyone! I hate computer games- but I jog along at Wii-Fit jogging time, play tennis, hulahoop, do somthing with is it Ravin' Rabbits... I get in there on the Guitar Hero game.. get searching! And I'm 46!

babyOcho · 25/12/2008 18:15

BTW - 29 is NOT too old for a wii

Pineneedles · 25/12/2008 18:20

I think you have done your bit and bought him a really nice present. Do you fancy keeping it at all? The sport thing you can get to go with it sounds really good fun. Otherwise, tell him its enitrely up to him if he flogs it on ebay and buys you a kitchen aid with the proceeds. If he's tht thoughtful, and he knows you wanted one, why didn't he just get you one anyway??! And if he wants to eat the kitchen aid output tell him to buy himself aaa recipe book at the same time. Poor you...

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timmette · 25/12/2008 18:20

Thanks - but he knows all the games etc as he does play on my bil wii fairly often - he just says he doesn't particularly want one himself and is more than happy just to play at my sis house.

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timmette · 25/12/2008 18:24

Oh no he did try and buy me one the colour I wanted was sold out so I told him to wait until back in stock.
And I am very happy and love doing all the cooking in this house - I don't let him in the kitchen.

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muggglewump · 25/12/2008 18:24

Did he tell you that today?
That's so ungrateful!

In the long term though I guess if he really won't use it, then sell it on and buy your Kitchenaid. I have a Kenwood Chef which I love so not a mistake to buy one.

I am still a bit in shock that he told you to sell his Christmas gift and buy yourself something so he can enjoy what you make with it though.

Pineneedles · 25/12/2008 18:30

That'a ok then, definitely just sell it in that case.

jangly · 25/12/2008 18:30

Sell it on e-bay and get your Kitchenaid. What are you waiting for?! Manna from heaven!

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timmette · 25/12/2008 18:32

No mugglewump he was just joking about that - trying to persuade me it was ok to sell.

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Zebraa · 25/12/2008 18:35

Sounds like a boring, miserable sod. It's Christmas! Couldn't he humour you a few more days at least?!

MmeHereWeGoAWassailLindt · 25/12/2008 18:40

DH bought me a case for my iPhone that I don't really like. I will not use it as I just pop the phone in my pocket and the case is too bulky. He could tell I was not keen so he suggested taking it back. I did feel a bit bad but he bought some other things that I loved and us ok about me exchanging it.

No point in keeping a gift, especially such an expensive one, if you will not use it. I think it is better to be honest and sell it or take it back.

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timmette · 25/12/2008 18:41

Nooooooooooo Zebraa - that's so not him - he's just painfully honest

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crokky · 25/12/2008 18:47

I'd sell it and get what you want! He has been honest. eBay will be bulging with unwanted gifts and people will be buying up the bargains.

PS My DH would be so envious. I got him pants

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timmette · 25/12/2008 18:58

He was very tactful and honest - but he says he just enjoys the interaction etc when he plays with my sis and bil.
No it's not for me - but a Kitchen aid is my kinda thing

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DaisyMooSteiner · 25/12/2008 19:26

Shame he used it at all, or you could have got a refund!

I'm a terrible giver-back of presents. It's not that I'm ungrateful, really I'm not, it's just that I hate the thought of money being wasted on something I don't really want. Be pleased he felt able to be honest with you

mumeeee · 25/12/2008 22:17

He is not to old for wii. My DH still [lays games on our xbox and has a psp and he is 48!
He sems very ungratful couldn't you play some games with him?

katch · 25/12/2008 22:19

I think he's being really kind to you - he wants you to spend the cash on what you need.
Not everyone is a computer games freak - I can't be arsed myself.

Zebraa · 25/12/2008 22:54

Well if he doesn't want it, sell it on ebay like you suggested and buy something you really want and need. I have to say though DP and I are 26, have a one year old and am 6 months pregnant and we're never off our wii! It's excellent!

VinegarTitsTheSeasonToBeJolly · 25/12/2008 23:32

Erm i have a wii and im whispers 36

Very tackless to tell you today that he didnt want it, he could have at least waited a month and then said, look i dont really use it, why not sell it for something more useful

I would say he was ingrateful and insensitive

janeite · 26/12/2008 09:39

I don't think he sounds ungrateful. I think he sounds sensible and considerate and as though he sees your relationship as a real partnership and the Wii as something a bit frivolous that he's unlikely to indulge in enough to make it worth the money. Unless it's something YOU really want, or unless ds is old enough to get any use out of it, I agree with your dh.

Having said all that, I am 38 and rather like the Wii!

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timmette · 26/12/2008 09:59

Thanks janeite that's exactly how it is - ds is 2 so he won't get much use out of it. He does like the wii but just thinks he won't use it enough - he actually said he would rather spend the time with me rather than playing on the wii - which I thought was rather sweet.

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AbbaFan · 26/12/2008 10:09

I don't think it's ungrateful at all. If he knows he won't get the use out of it, it would just be such a waste of money.

Sell it and get your KA.

We have a wii and a KA, and I definitely use the KA more. I got wii fit when it came out last year and used it 3 times , although the kids play it loads!

fondant4000 · 26/12/2008 10:23

I think he sounds lovely, and probably knows hiself well!

My dh used to spend a lot of tie on his PS2, but stopped because he realised he wanted to spend the tie wuth his family.

It's been gathering dust now for 4 years!