What did you do for Christmas vs dh/DP?

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I’m 100% not moaning as I think I’m happy with our roles, just interested in how others split it!

I did:

All of DD1’s presents
All of DD2’s presents
70% of DD’ presents
All of DH’s present’s obviously
Wrapped 50 odd presents
Remembered all of the school things

DH did/will:

Bought my presents
Ds’ big gift this year
Wrapped about 6 things
Did Christmas food shop
Will do nearly all of the cooking

I’ve done everything. I hope he’s bought me a decent present. ‘Twas ever thus.

Ive done everything. All presents bought and wrapped. Kids, secret Santa's, nieces, nephews and his family. All the food shop. And I will do all the cooking. If I wasnt here they'd all have a shit Christmas.

And I can tell you now i bet ive got a shit present from him. He puts zero effort into getting me anything nice or thoughtful. Sometimes he doesnt buy me anything at all.
So there's my Christmas rant. Ho ho ho.

I do everything.
All the shopping, hiding, building, wrapping.
Cards
Gifts for teachers
Remembering all the nonsense like non uniform and Xmas jumper days
Trip to santa
Elf every (fucking) night
Cards for friends and family and neighbours
Visit to family (he was at work granted)
Every single piece of food shopping and planning, and I'll do all the cooking.
He might or might not wash up.

At about 9pm on Christmas eve he'll ask if I want any help 🤣🤣 then I'll send him out for a takeaway to save me murdering him.

He will get me everything on my Christmas list though, and he'll sort the bins out and find home for all the new toys in the new year. 🤣🤭

I like things my way though so, it is what it is.

Dh buys the tree and puts the decorations up and also away
He does the food and drink shopping.
He cooks on Christmas day and Boxing day.

I buy and wrap the presents. Theres oy a couple to do.
I sort the food and drink for the evenings we have friends around.

DH is doing 90% of the cooking (for 9 people) and has therefore managed most of the food shopping. I have done/am doing most of the cleaning in prep for guests arriving and will be doing hosting on the day. We will both clear up/with help from guests. We bought and wrapped gifts for our own sides (no kids yet).

I did everything.

He paid.

😁

I sorted out who was coming for the meals (2 big ones - 11 and 16 people and then 2 smaller ones)
I ordered the food
I set the tables and did the decorations
I did presents for my kids and the Dp’s of his adult kids and his teenage kids
I do all the planning etc

he
does all the cooking
does all the rubbish
helped clean the house and went to the dump with a load of crap

i feel it’s even and we make sure we all have a lovely Xmas!

I’d definitely wrap 100s to swap out the cooking 😂

Ive sorted my DHs presents, MIL/FIL, my parents, my siblings, DN, God children (his not mine), brothers / sisters and neighbours. Wrapped them, under the tree and sorted it!

Also planned the food shop, will cook the food and bits on Christmas Day. I’ve also cleaned the house and ready to host family 😂

DH has shopped for me and wrapped my gifts 🎁

He’s also funded 95% of this all and he’s the calm to my stress! He’ll host the family and keep them out of my way on the day, clean up after the cooking and pamper me on Boxing Day!

I did
Put the tree up & decorations up
Bought all DDs presents
Bought all DH presents
Bought my side of the family presents
Wrapped all presents except my own
Organised days out to see Santa
Remembered DD Christmas jumper days / party day / Christmas fair
Cleaned the house
All the planning & organising
Most of the washing up

DH did
Bought all my presents
Bought his side of the family presents
Wrapped my presents
Christmas food shop
All the cooking
Some of the washing up

I’ve done everything. He was meant to take the kids into town today to get my gift from them but was too busy.

I am very very over it all.

Me
all dd1 presies
all dd2 pressies
80% ds pressies
dd1 and 2 partners pressies
my parents
my sister
teachers
dog walker
nephews
all cards (except mine!)
Decorate tree (with kids help)
ordered food (dh helped write list)

Dh
all my pressies
20% ds pressies
his parents
his sister and husband
his grandmas
got everything out loft
put tree up
outside lights

together
clean house
food prep
cooking

Me: buying and wrapping of all gifts for family, friends , teachers etc ( except mine), tree and decorations (with kids), organising activities, baking cookies, bread and soup, dessert for Christmas Day.

DH - my gifts, buying all food and drinks, Christmas day cooking, clearing up

Dh
Bought his parents their gifts
Bought my gifts
Put up the Xmas tree
Put up some fairy lights inside
Built the big Santa gift for our 4yr old
Set up the laptop for our 6.5yr old
Moved the Xmas tree when I wasn't happy with where it was (fully decorated :D)

Me:
Bought every single gift for our 4 and 6 yr old
Ordered the Xmas food
Wrote all Xmas cards, including an update to his family members we don't see often.
I put up the external lights on the house
Organised all Xmas days out
Wrapped all gifts

We will share the cooking

Him
Ordering all of the kids presents
Sorting the food
Ordering presents for his family and me
Organised two christmas days out

Me
Picking up the orders
Wrapping the presents
Putting the decorations up (while being micromanaged!)
Sorting my presents for him and my family

He's bought, wrapped and written cards for his family and friends.

Me - the same. All housework and food shopping.

Normally he'd do a household job if asked Xmas Eve, go out for last minute food item, but he's hot concussion which has got worse in last 48 hours, so I'll let him off as it's best he gets better.

He generally cooks Xmas Dinner, but I half suspect that's to avoid my Mum to some extent!!!

I bought the tree, we both decorated it. He put up the outside lights. I bought and wrapped pressnts for my side of the family, plus our two dc. He bought and wrapped for his side. We will be staying with family for 5 days over Christmas. Dh bought the booze to take and is making a dessert to take.

That's pretty equal, but on years when we host (always for several days), he makes Christmas dinner and does almost all of the other cooking!

Me
Christmas food shop (online)
Bought/ordered some presents for DC, my parents, sibs, niece and nephew and for any friends' kids
Organised a couple of days out
Prepare food for Christmas day late pm/early evening meal. Won't be cooking a roast because we're having one at my mum's on Saturday after I'm done working, and DC aren't fussed about roast dinners apart from Yorkshire puddings and pigs in blankets. So it'll be a party food buffet type thing with all the things DC like.
Feed/muck out the animals on Christmas Day with DS1 and walk the dogs

Tree was put up together
Not much to do in the house as we aren't hosting anyone, I'm working up to 5pm on Christmas Eve and have on call shifts 25th and 26th
We'll be finishing wrapping presents for family we see after Christmas on Christmas Eve together with a glass of wine.

DH
Bought/ordered some presents for DC, PIL, niece and nephew his side.
Wrapped presents for those we saw before xmas (his family)
Pick up DS1 from work on Christmas Eve (retail) and take him to and from work on Boxing Day.
Had the car serviced and MOT'd before any long drives
Sort the animals out on Christmas Eve/walk the dogs with DS2 while I'm at work
Prepare Christmas brunch after he comes back from his bike ride with DS2 Christmas morning.

I did about
60% of the Christmas shopping
80% of the wrapping
all of the food sorting
the tree

DH did
100% of booking activities
rest of the shopping and wrapping
outside lights and any faffy jobs I didn’t have the patience for
most of the bau housework

definitely think I got the better deal!

I’ve done everything. Decorating, presents, wrapping, shopping. We’re going out for lunch Christmas Day so not doing the cooking then.

My DH has booked a ski holiday as a Christmas present to one another. he works insane hours though (about 90 per week) and I’m part time so I always do the lions share.

Everything was pretty much 50/50 from talking about presents, buying them, wrapping, food menus, buying the food etc. In fact wrapping is still done together while listening to Christmas music. Dh is great, completely involved, loves Christmas and everything that goes with it.

We decorate the tree together, all of us. Dh and Ds2 do outside lights, Ds1 and I do the garland for the stairs. Cooking is shared, I make the Christmas ham, Dh does the roast potatoes. He loves cooking.

We have spreadsheets for presents, Christmas food menus, food shopping lists etc. Every year post Christmas everyone talks about what they liked, disliked and I add notes to the feedback section. It all feels very organised and not overwhelming.

I bought most of dc presents and got them delivered
Dh stocking and present, only a couple of gifts
Bought my family a couple of gifts
Sent Xmas cards (he doesn't see the point but I send them to neighbours and relatives who expect them)
Gift for nursery and a mutual friend

Dh found online and drove to pick up DC main present
My present and stocking - he's a great gift buyer so will do a better job than I did of him
Food shopping in person including going to a couple of shops to get specific things
Food delivery order and pick up
He'll cook dinner
Bought his family a couple of gifts

We wrapped kids presents together
Split the cleaning fairly evenly
Found a father Christmas visit and a light trail we wanted to go to and booked it together,
Bought and decorated the tree together

I think it helps when you have a little child, as one person is being productive cleaning etc and one person is looking after or playing with the child. So both of you always feel like the other person is doing something and you don't get resentful

I wrapped some presents last night and stuck the tree and a string of lights up.

Dh has painted and wallpapered the dining room, fitted new flooring to the kitchen, dining room and snug. (in the last week after the new kitchen was fitted the week before)
He has taken both kids separately to choose their presents, went with me at 7am yesterday to do the big food shop.

He will do all the cooking.

I paid for it all (higher earner).

He is a bloody cracker! I’m old, tired and menopausal so not a cracker.

My DH passed away years ago, but this is how it worked:
Me: bought presents for him, our kids and my family
Did photo cards, write them for my family and friends, posted them plus his
Decorated the house

He did:
bought my present, his sons’ and his family’s
write any Christmas cards to his family/friends
cooked Christmas dinner and most of the washing up
Paid for it all.

Together we: got the tree and did the food shop (online wasn’t really a thing then).

I did:
Bought the children’s presents
Bought his present
Bought the presents for wider family
Told him what to buy me
Teacher presents
Bought the food
Attended the nativitys and end of term shows for the children
Booked the Panto tickets
Decorated the house
Moved the elf every night

He did:
Worked bloody hard all month, paid all the mortgage and all the bills so my salary can be spent on the fun stuff

Grateful we’re a team, even if our division of work is different to other households

Me -

Everything

DH -

My present
His stepmothers present - and even that’s new this year (I normally even do that)

I don’t mind too much though, I have only ever been a SAHM or worked part time and I’m the Christmas queen and he’s a tiny bit of a grinch…

It did used to be utterly exhausting though when the children were little as my list was so huge, with all of the school events too. Now it’s a little easier as they are young adults.