What did you do for Christmas vs dh/DP?

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I’m 100% not moaning as I think I’m happy with our roles, just interested in how others split it!

I did:

All of DD1’s presents
All of DD2’s presents
70% of DD’ presents
All of DH’s present’s obviously
Wrapped 50 odd presents
Remembered all of the school things

DH did/will:

Bought my presents
Ds’ big gift this year
Wrapped about 6 things
Did Christmas food shop
Will do nearly all of the cooking

Me: got the decorations from the loft. Put the tree up and decorated it. Put all the Christmas decorations up. Bought and wrapped presents for my side of the family. Wrote cards for my friends and dh. Did a deeper clean of the house and made a tip run. I’ll do 90% of the washing up on Christmas Day.

Dh: bought and wrapped presents for his side of the family. Did all the food shopping and drinks shopping. Did a bit of general housework. Will do 90% of the cooking on Christmas Day and the food prep before hand.

DH decorated our house inside and outside, organised a fun family trip to get the tree and set it up. Got gifts for his family (only a few needed) and me. Shopped for naice wine for our hosts and for gifts. Sorted the car for a long drive and got bags out etc. Did 30% of the wrapping for DCs’ gifts.

He will also dispose of the tree and do all post Christmas clear up and cleaning.

He outsourced sending cards to his friends and family to our most amenable DC. (I didn’t get any done).

I planned and got almost all DCs’ gifts, organised a couple of festive family things. Did a lot of extra driving DC around in December (we both work full time).

This year am good with the split. But whenever we host guests we fall out because he doesn’t do a fair share of the shopping or cooking and I dislike it. He does wash up and clean up, but I’d far rather do that than cook.

As a guest he helps out when it’s his family as he enjoys spending time with them while doing festive chores and having a drink, but sits on his backside when at mine, which pisses me off.

I’ve done everything.
hes got my presents, his parents presents. That is it.

Dh - clean house, has stashed money away for xmas, bought a few gifs

Me - most of gift buying
We will food shop and cook together.

My car broke this year I don't have a new one yet so we had to do all the Christmas shopping and food together after work.
We both bought our DD presents online. I did all of the wrapping.

He's done the bastard elf and presents for me and his family.

Not sure about who's cooking yet. Very small kitchen so no room for 2. He usually comes on to carve the meat and help when I start flapping

I’ve bought most of the presents, 99% of them online.

My husband has wrapped everything apart from his.

He got up at 5am today as was wide awake. I’ve just realised he’s been to Tesco and done all the food shopping while I slept.

He will do all of the cooking and prep.

We do it all between us.

He got the tree down from the loft, I decorated it. He put the lights up outside.

We chose and bought presents together, we did most of it online anyway. We sat and wrapped together.

I made a food list and we did the big shop together, he put it all away. We’d been buying bits and pieces over the last few weeks so it wasn’t a huge effort.

DH:
Booked the Santa train
Gave some good ideas for DH
Arranged presents (vouchers) for his sisters and dad
The food shopping list
He will also do the cooking (hosting Boxing Day)
Got decs out of the attic
Put up lights/light up decorations
A fair bit of cleaning

I have:
Ordered/bought all presents for my family
Bought all presents for LO
Teacher presents
Written and posted/delivered all cards
Wrapped everything
Put up the tree/decorated it
Put out ornaments
Lots of cleaning
1 million Christmas crafts with LO
Took LO on a few Christmas outings

Last year we both picked up presents for LO and his them in different places. The amount ended being silly and I had to put some away for his birthday so me doing all presents works better.

I’m happy with how we split things. He does the bits he likes (food shopping/cooking) and I do the bits I like (choosing/ordering and wrapping presents) and we split almost everything else

DH:
Got tree from the loft put it up and decorated it
Made and organised his mega Lego winter scene
Put outside lights up
Bought all DS gifts
Did the last few bits of food shopping
Arranged and will drive us to his family
Bought his side gifts
The elf stuff

Me
Bought DD gifts
Bought my side gifts
Booked the panto
Booked my family meal
Will clean the house
Will cook and clear up on Christmas day and boxing day

Together
Wrapped everything
Main food shop
Will take decorations down
Will sort out and find homes for all new stuff

I did everything for years but a few years ago I outsourced the wrapping to dh…just bagged everything up and he cracked on with wrapping it.
I still buy 95% of the presents, all the food and do all the cooking. He does the alcohol shop and collects the kids from uni (which is at the other end of the country and involves an overnight stay.)
We decorate the house as a family but he’s in charge of getting stuff out of the loft.

I bought, wrapped and paid for all the kids presents and my family's presents plus sorted cards
I sorted all the food and drink (he paid for most).
I'll cook xmas dinner
I took DD 1 shopping (she can wrap her own gifts)

We did the Xmas decs together
we'll both prep xmas dinner

he bought his family gifts (2 of them and actually one hasn't been bought yet as we aren't seeing them until Jan) and cards (the cards are probably still sat on his desk)
he took ds shopping and will help him wrap.
he'll clean up after Xmas dinner

I've done most of the cleaning but he's been doing a few diy jobs and he has to pop to the shop later lucky him!

I bought his presents and most of my own presents. He's terrible at presents and it grates me he can't even think of one thing to buy me off his own back.

I:
Ordered most presents
Did the online food shop
Did the big clean before decorating

He:
Bought the cards (card shops give me a unique kind of stress!)
Wrapped most presents
Hauled decs out of the loft

Cooking would usually be me but adult DS1 is taking the reigns this year! He's moving out in Jan and I think he wants to mark the last 'family home' Christmas - he is of course welcome back any year though!

Maybe our Christmas is just smaller and more manageable, but I don’t find it a lot.

I did:

• buy and decide on all of children’s presents (but we have shared finances)
• wrapped the presents
• wrapped the presents that came from family members unwrapped straight from Amazon 🙄
• booked meeting Father Christmas many, many months ago!
• sorted the Christmas cards
• collected teacher present money from the class and sorted group present

He did/ will do:

• the “big shop”
• will cook the dinner

We did/ do together

• attend carol concerts and school plays
• buy the tree and decorate
• share general food prep over the period, but we don’t go crazy and it’s not a lot of work

We don’t do presents for each other so that’s another thing not to worry about. Honestly, our Christmas isn’t that much work.

No decorations?

I’ve done the majority of the ordering. He’s done the majority of the pick ups. He was in M&S this morning and was getting ignored and women behind him trying to queue jump as they assumed he was attached to a woman, odd.

He has just made a batch of sausage rolls and has made and frozen the soup for starters tomorrow.

He’s cleaned most of the house and tidied and sorted.

He’s cared for the kids, but I organised tickets for their many musical performances.

Neither of us feel hard done by, I’ve had surgery so my physical abilities are still low. But regardless he likes a job and will find them if not tasked.

I’ve ordered all presents, all food and am doing the wrapping now.

I have done extra cleaning and organising of house.

Adult dc have put up decorations.

Dh (who only finished work just now) will be cooking entire Christmas lunch.

A pretty even spread of responsibilities,

DH:
Put all the window lights up
Got the decorations from the loft and put the empty boxes back
Did most of the food shop
Bought my presents
Accompanied me on a few trips to buy family presents
Will cook Christmas Dinner
Cleaned house
Drove me around a lot!

Me:
Decorated the house and tree
Planned and wrapped family gifts
Planned gifts and food, made lists
I also clean the house

This is the first year DH has taken full accountability for his family’s gifts. I told him in October this year I wouldn’t be reminding him or making suggestions - turns out he can do it after all!

To be honest I am the cook of the house and I love hosting so I don’t really WANT his help with those things. I also like the presents to look a certain way when wrapped so I don’t want his help there either. He will dutifully do as he is told when I bark orders at him while setting up for guest and he has changed the bed sheets so we have clean ones for Xmas so he’s not all bad.

He brought the decorations in from the garage - he’s also a very good washer upper.

Well the tree - which we go to choose and then decorate as a family. We did also all make a wreath, but I almost consider this as just an activity with the children rather than a “job”! Pre DC we just used to buy one around the same time we’d buy the tree, so no work involved. And then cards get put up as and when they arrive, which isn’t really a job either.

He pays for everything, I shop, wrap, decorate and cook etc

Me: bought 50% of Ds’ presents, bought DH’s presents, bought my family’s presents, cleaned the bathroom, mopped the house, bought 70% food and drink, wrapped all presents I bought

DH: bought 50% DS’ presents, bought my presents, bought presents for his family, hoovered house, cleaned gutters, cleaned all windows and mirrors, bought 30% of food and drink, wrapped his presents

I plan the food, do the online order and cook most of the meals. On days when I cook DH or the DC wash up and vice versa. Adult DS1 usually cooks at least one meal.
DH does the fresh stuff shop at the supermarket.
We share the wrapping and gift buying for our sons. DH buys for his side of the family and I buy for mine. I do more of the planning and research for gifts though, just because I enjoy it.
He does the majority of the house cleaning and tidying.
I do the tree, he puts up the outside lights.
I do most of the cards but he does some.
Pretty much even.