Well meant gifts that didn't hit the mark

[imnotthatkindofmum]

Here's a thread to post your disappointing gifts that you can't be disappointed with in real life! Let off a little steam without upsetting anyone!!

My lovely daughter bought me some novelty earrings. I never wear novelty earrings but she's so proud of them i have to wear them. She was so secured about me opening them but now I have to work out how little I can get away with wearing them so she doesn't realise I hate them!

Also DH only bought what was on my list. It was a cheap and simple list. I would have liked him to choose something he thought I would like. After 22 years not sure why I expect that though!

Oh no! That’s awful. Where did he buy them, do you know?

I think they are supposed to be huge and oversized. My 17 year old is wearing a size S and it still looks huge on them. At least they won't outgrow it anytime soon!

Last year I gave dh A tyre gauge and pump.
That's because I'd asked him to stop at the garage on the way back from the shops and pump up the tyres for a long journey. Normally I do it at home but he's broken the pump doing his bike tyres (and the bike tyre when he blew it up too much).
I included instructions on how to use it.

This year he's got a nice big box with a replacement car wing mirror as ours was demolished a couple of days ago. His fault because I put the wing mirror in when I park on the road, and have multiple times asked him to. He says there's no point because no one will hit it anyway. (In a narrow road where cars are often damaged by other cars...)

He does get other presents too. I will probably be the one who replaces the wing mirror. I was the one who pumped the tyres last year too.

I can still remember one time when me and my brother were kids back in the early 70s. He proudly went to the little shops around the corner, on his own, to get mum a Christmas present. He must've gone in the chemist's as Christmas morning she unwrapped a hairnet and a packet of corn plasters!

Oh bless you. That's rotten.

I'm sure your son would feel horrified to have upset your feelings if he had the maturity. It's a difficult age with their hormones. But that would have really hurt my feelings too.

The thing with the Switch sounds really stressful too :(

I didn't get anything today either. It sucks, doesn't it? I knew I wasn't getting anything and I was quite sanguine about it yesterday. But today, I really can't help feeling hurt that everyone else is getting nice things. Solidarity x

Your children sound ghastly @Whatayear2023 but I’m not sure what your post has to do with the thread subject?

My friend’s mad aunty once got her a sexy nylon babydoll nightie, when she was about ten years old.

I would have thought the well meant gifts she got for her children that went down like a lead balloon.

AnnaDelvorkina

buy something you love sometime soon or even next year and wrap it or tell your dh you need to start exchanging gifts again. Hope you have a nice evening xxx

My sister got me a book. It looks great except I haven't been able to read standard size print since 2007.

My expectations are low, but my mum - knowing that I won't get much else - gets me nothing. She is elderly but it's been for some years now. I've always made a big fuss of her birthdays and Christmases. She could ask my sister to organise something, even a voucher, but no.

I got a hideous bag with smellies inside!
only thing is I said ‘what a hideous print!’ Out loud so everyone is now walking round saying hideous all the time.
but bless hubby had thought I’d like it 😂 and went unscripted off my list …🤷‍♀️

Well meant M&S ‘hamper’ containing handcream-I only use O’Keeffes as only that heals the cracks. There’s a teeny amount of dried lavender that crumbles if you look at it and chocolate covered almonds. Don’t eat chocolate and the giver knows it. My DH is happy!

Bumcake... I had made a List of items that kids have showed interest in and asked for. I then spent hours searching for items going to collect etc wrapping up only to literally have it given back to me or crying as its not a switch.
I had to get a day pass and get 4 buses there 4 back to get the remote control barbie car yet its still in its box and it's all I heard about few weeks ago.

I'm so sorry some of you have had crappy, thoughtless gifts.

I got a "granny" style velour dressing gown, complete with ruffles around the cuffs and v high neckline, from my mum...when I was 20.
She kept it, and was still using it when she died 20 yrs later.

I also got some rose scented bath stuff - which made me 🤢 - from an "aunt" for 4 consecutive yrs.

And one year was given a huge make up kit and sets of brushes - again from my Mum, who I saw every day and who knew I'd never worn (and still never wear) make up.

I think some people are thoughtless, others panic and some are just selfish and don't see/think/hear anyone else.

🎄🎁🍫🍾🍷🍸🍹🍺🍻🥂🥃 for you all.

I want to like christmas, I've tried really hard, but after 50+ yrs on this planet I think it's time for me to admit defeat and just enjoy the sparkly fairy lights which really is the nicest thing and forget about gifts, food, family etc.

Happy Easter everyone!🐣

Happy Christmas @AnnaDelvorkina 🎅🎄 🌟 🎁 👼

Omg what were you thinking 😂😂😂 even if you got on well with your parents why would you want a photo of them for Christmas? 😂😂

All these ridiculous gifts is such a waste of time, your emotions and money isn't it? I buy for the DC but for the few I would buy for I've done an expensive lunch at their favourite place in January the last few years with a tin of chocolates to share. My dear friend and I are going to a spa in the spring. My DS always buys wonderful gifts that I need and my DSD usually buys something thoughtful but she's abroad.

I know there's nothing to open for others doing this but we've all got so much stuff. I value time with those I love most of all but it's been a rough year so we are just having a quiet one and it's soothing.

Is it possible to have them dipped in gold. Like double dipped (I'm guessing they are already vermeil or similar.) Would that reduce the reaction?

So sorry @Whatayear2023 . It sounds awful.

It;s not this year but a couple of years ago my SIL (who is taller than me and a few stone heavier than I was at the time) lost alot of weight and wrapped up a summer dress she had had for a while and worn more than once that I had seen and gave it to me saying it was a size 16 and would be 'aspirational' for me to get into.

I was already smaller than a size 16 and shorter than her and a totally different shape.

No-one made excuses for her though or thought she 'meant well'. Shes known for being a total bitch in the family so everyone just sniggered at her.

A top 2 sizes too big. Do they think I'm really that fat? 😪

You learned your lesson but did your brother?!

Last year DH got me a bread maker. To be fair to him I’d been saying WE needed one for ages, and it’s had loads of use and I’m glad of it now.

But at the time it just felt like ‘here, here’s another domestic task for you to do’ - he’s pretty good usually but last December was so hectic and for various reasons the bulk had been falling to me, particularly the work involved in hosting Christmas.

Much more even this year and a gift chosen from a list I gave him - and it was the one I was hoping he’d opt for! Plus a couple of small surprises.

My mother likes to give me statement gifts. The statement is usually you are the crud at the bottom of the family barrel.
This year it was a plastic child's toy that plays mini christmas tunes. Absutely bizarre. I'm in my 60s.
My half siblings got money clothes, shoes and other luxuries.
I knew I should have binned it so I wouldn't get upset but curiosity killed the cat.
I feel strangely detached from all of it this year. I suppose it's been going on for so long.