Making a miserable Christmas a little less miserable

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Hello Mumsnet - I could do with a little help if possible. I tried to get it on PistonHeads where I’m more at home but I think the topic stretched the audience!

my wife is currently receiving chemotherapy with a treatment due on the 20th. On Christmas Day we fully expect her to feel completely rotten. I’m trying to find a way to brighten up her day, to see her smile if only for a few seconds.. Frankly I’m really struggling.

things I know / have thought of.

food - she’s likely to be feeling nauseous. I think we are going to do Christmas lunch early. The last treatment toast and ginger biscuits were as good as we could get.

obviously going out is not an option and she is not drinking at the moment..

she’s not really into smellies into a big way - and the chemo messes with her senses.

i have no expectations for the day. I’ll have a ready meal of some sort ready for me and will make my wife whatever she is comfortable eating. It’s quite possible that it will be a day in bed watching the while she naps..

hints, ideas all really appreciated!

Postpone Christmas Day to 27:28 /31 or whenever she is likely to enjoy it most with you .

Decorate the bedroom and lounge . Twinkly lights, poinsettia or early flowering narcissi or amaryllis stems , lots of lovely soft drinks and her favourite drink to hand

Gorgeous pajamas and a floaty robe or wrap to lounge in with cashmere socks. A Netflix/Prime if you have them watchlist of faveourite films, programmes and a mix of new stuff

Would having her nails done all Christmas sparkly before her treatments. E sone thing that she would like

Lots of treaty nibble food

If you live in a village could you derail prevChristmas Carol singers to sing outside your door ?

Sending you both warmest wishes for Christmas

The first stage is done. While she was having chemo I decorated the bedroom for Christmas, so at least if she does not feel like getting up there is some reminder of it upstairs. She seemed to like it.

We've had Christmas lunch today, I have a bit more shopping to do, but ultimately we are now as ready as we can be, albeit expecting her to be feeling pretty rubbish on Christmas Day. A day in bed watching daft fims between naps is our expected aim...

Thanks again for all the tips, very much appreciated.

That is very jolly!

Classic FM is normally reliable for quiet festive music.

Very well done. I'm fortunate not to have been in a comparable position but I saw what a difference it makes to have a lovely supportive partner when my Dad's health started to go downhill and my Mum became his carer, effectively. I hope you manage to have a decent quiet time together this week and catch up with family time later on. Very best wishes for your wife's treatment too.

That sounds lovely. Snuggly new PJs, blanket, favourite film.

I also love the idea of a deferred Chistmas.