I’m I right to feel annoyed

[Nanniecarol]

I’ve asked my family to come to us for lunch on Christmas Day.
my daughter said that’s fine but that her husband wants to cook the lunch.
I was completely offended by this

Let him crack on and get stuck into the booze I say

Tell him/her no, it's your house.

Maybe it’s time for you not to have Christmas dinner together?
I’m guessing your DD knows this is how he will do it and is happy with that but d it’s just not sitting right with how you want to have lunch.
You have a few choices, you can say no, I don’t want him to cook and they may not come. Or you say yes and accept it’s going to go that way.

Would they invite you to their house? But you would still have to accept it’s going to be done their way.
I only invited by PIL for Christmas once and asked DH to make it clear that his Mum wasn’t cooking dinner. He did but she steamrollered in anyway and took over.
I didn’t invite her again - we went to theirs for a couple of days between Christmas and New Year. She just couldn’t let other people do the cooking.

Winner, winner Christmas dinner surely 😂

My husband always wants to cook Christmas. Sounds great except he doesn't wash as he goes, creates a huge mess. Gets stressed and angry and ruins the mood.

One year he was ill so I cooked and it was so peaceful and easy. Now we compromise and share it.

Just say no, he probably likes a reason to avoid everyone and thinks he's a better cook. But you don't have to agree.

For the past 3 Christmas's my parents have come to our house, having previously always gone to their's. My Dad is the king of Christmas dinner so cooks, we buy the turkey and desserts and they get the veg (he likes to choose it specifically) works perfect for us!

I would explain that you want to cook this year, hence you’ve invited them to your home - where you will be the host. Maybe your son in law can cook Christmas dinner for you all, in his home, next year?