Stockings for adults?

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Obviously too late for this year! But I've had a tearful mum on the phone (she'll be with us later in the week) telling me my dad's sisters all do stockings where they sneak little presents in to each others throughout December. Do other people do this? Or if you do adult stockings, how/when? We don't live nearby so would be posting gifts.

I love Christmas planning so just pondering this morning as we wait for the littlest to wake up. 4yo very pateintly waiting on sofa post stocking, eyeing the wrapped gifts 🤣

Yes, things like ssmall bottles of super exxy whisky.

does your mother otherwise have issues?

Ive been talking about what things i want in my stocking all month. Dh hasnt bought anything for a stocking. Im glad i bought stuff for my own.

your dad’s sisters sound so thoughtful. Sort your mum a stocking for when she comes to yours. It isnt too late. Christmas lasts until the 6th jan.

Crikey. Someone was woken up too early. Do you normally make such catty remarks?

what a selfish selfish your mother is. Calling her daughter on christmas morning behaving like a spoilt unpleasant child

We have adult stockings but each person's stocking is solely the responsibility of their life partner (our aged parents kept the responsibility until each of us got a life partner)

Contents will be food and drink treats, books, things we need that we would have just bought from household funds any other time of year, and one or two "silly" things of the kind you might buy for an office Secret Santa

Sneaking things to eachother between households sounds too much like hard work!

If your mum wants a stocking it should be your Dad's responsibility assuming he has capacity? But these are people who must have been doing Christmas in their traditional way for decades. I don't get why your mum is upset now. The time to establish their tradition would have been a long long time ago. This isn't your problem to sort out.

this is a grown assed woman calling her daughter in tears about stocking issues!

What on earth. Stockings are for children..grow up.

I haven’t heard of people sneaking presents in during December but I think it’s a lovely idea. I still do stockings here for my husband and adult children. My husband does one for me. I also buy stuff for mine when I’m getting stuff for the others.

shit Op just came across a post from you talking about your mother

she sounds utterly vile. Don’t waste another nano second thinking about this woman let alone FGS having her over in a few days. She gave you a horrific childhood and is now nothing short of abusive to you

Stockings were always my favourite part of Christmas as a child. They were only for the children when I lived at home but I’ve tried to make it a thing for everyone in my home. I don’t do a stocking for my mum or anyone who doesn’t live with me but I do a stocking for my DH every year with loads of little individually wrapped presents and chocolate that he likes. He tries to do my stocking but doesn’t really get the idea and just puts one or two small presents in which isn’t the same. I wish it was acceptable to put one together for myself. I might have to in future when our son is old enough to notice Mummy is the only one Father Christmas hasn’t bothered with.

Yes, because stockings are one of the best bits of Christmas! Life partners not proving very good at this, my sisters and I arrange each others. I’m with one sister, we’ll open ours together, and the other sister had it delivered along with the presents. There’s no sneaking around, we’re quite open about it. Luckily I could do this in person, postage would have been hugely expensive.

Sample size cosmetics, second hand books, little bars of choc or bags of nuts, home made things, and a tacky Christmas ornament. And always a satsuma and some chocolate coins. Love it!

I’m amazed your mother has only just found out about it, if they’ve been doing it for years. Sorry that your Christmas Day has begun with this.

@Strawberrycheesecake7 I do my own! In fact, I didn't one for all 3 of us. I honestly don't care what is socially acceptable here- it's ll just made up anyway. If you want a stocking next year, have one.

We usually have extra adults here at Christmas …grandparents, aunties etc. every adult buys 2 stocking presents for every other adult who sleeps over Christmas Eve and then everyone gets a stocking. If it’s just me and DH we do a stocking for each other . Stockings are important here

I used to do one for my mum, but as her Christmas present, so she'd have lots of little things rather than one big thing, and the "stocking" itself would be a nice pair of slipper socks or something. But my family are quite restrained gift givers in general - everyone gives everyone else precisely one present is the norm. (Obviously we had stockings as children.)

I do my own. If anyone else were to do it, it wouldn't have the things I like. Whereas when I do it, it's perfect. Today's has a book, a can of cocktail mix, a nail colour and a new strap for my watch.

Stockings are only for children here.

Totally agree. A really unpleasant thing to do on Christmas morning.

I did stockings for my DC while they lived at home but they're grown adults with income of their own now and I'm not responsible for their belief or not in mythical beings. Neither me nor DH have ever done stockings for each other and have never had a problem with it.
Your Dad's sisters are obviously very close and it sounds like a wonderful tradition but it's certainly not for everyone, and you'd think your mum would've got over it by now.

Oh let me check the list of Christmas Rules and laws...

Oh wait, nope they don't exist... Turns out anyone can have a stocking.

Only for children in our house, I’m not making extra work for myself.

I do a stocking for myself, I start it early in the year, wrapping the gifts as I go so that by Christmas day I will have forgotten what some of them are.
This year there was hand cream, hand warmers, a little wasjig jigsaw, a book, lots of chocolate, clearly I forgot I had already done chocolate!

Stockings are one of the best bits of Xmas. I happily find stocking presents all year round for DH and DSs. DSis does DM’s as her Xmas present (since DDad died) as they go to DM for Xmas. But that’s our family’s tradition…other traditions apply in other families.

Until she died, DM did stockings for DSis and me, well into our twenties. After she died, we took over the responsibility for each other - and now we share it with our respective husbands. It's a combination of nice little bits, some practical things, something edible and of course a miniature bottle of champagne for me 😁

It is fun to do, but it's been going on for years, it's not a new tradition! The DC know that Father Christmas doesn't bring them - that we do them because we're keeping the magic alive and we love each other. They're happy with that explanation 🤷🏼‍♀️

Yes, we do this. Us siblings do one for our mum, ever since our dad passed. When we were kids it would've been weird for Father Christmas to leave them out! Now, it's just a good way to give small practical gifts that they will appreciate and use, and a bit of fun on Christmas morning.