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Ds just told me someone he wants for Christmas and I don't have it.

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YayForMe · 24/12/2023 09:24

I remember he asked for it a while ago but completely forgot now it's too late. It's a character teddy and they do have one at our local tesco for £5. He said this morning he's asked Santa for it.

Problem is if I buy him on I will have to get other ds one too as they have equal amounts of gifts. So that means an extra £10 spent which I can't really afford.

What would you do?

His birthday is in January so I could give it then but he's asked Santa for it now so I feel obliged to get it.

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RichardMarxisinnocent · 24/12/2023 10:05

ANightmareBeforeChristmas · 24/12/2023 09:35

Will your children really count the number of gifts each gets in the excitement of Christmas morning?

It might depend how many presents they get, if there are loads I doubt they'd count, but if 3 or 4 for each child it'll be obvious that one child has an extra gift.

notahappybunny7 · 24/12/2023 10:05

IDoLikeToBeByTheSea · 24/12/2023 09:28

Good idea but OP said she can’t afford it so holding one back wouldn’t help.

OP, I wouldn’t worry about it. It’ll be forgotten about when they’ve opened their other gifts and had a fun day 🙂

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It’s a fiver fgs, I think it’s weird to think kids need equal number of presents, he asked for it, I think he should get it.

rainbowstardrops · 24/12/2023 10:07

I agree with the others, just go and buy it and keep one of the other presents back for his birthday. It's really a non issue!

Riches2Rags · 24/12/2023 10:08

I'd buy it.

Especially if he doesn't ask for much.

Might be different if he asks for something new in every other sentence.

SecondUsername4me · 24/12/2023 10:10

Problem is if I buy him on I will have to get other ds one too as they have equal amounts of gifts

No you don't, they aren't sat counting them. Get him the thing he wants, and if you need to keep it equal volume, hold back a small Christmas present to give at birthday in its place.

Oppositioblue · 24/12/2023 10:11

Santa is just about to leave. It’s Christmas Day in New Zealand. He can’t go back for one more toy. He’d be late.

Nevertouchakoala · 24/12/2023 10:15

My kids don’t have equal amounts, they both have loads but I haven’t counted it up penny to penny and present to
present I just got what they would like? Do people really do the exact same number of gifts!??/cost?

Isyesterdaytomorrowtoday · 24/12/2023 10:15

What does he mean he asked for it? Was it in his letter/did you visit a Santa and he asked then?

Nevertouchakoala · 24/12/2023 10:16

@Oppositioblue ita not Xmas day in New Zealand not yet anyway

Avatartar · 24/12/2023 10:20

if you have receipts get a refund for one of his Christmas gifts or bday present (if bday keep a Christmas gift for bday).Buy the £5 gift. You only have to buy one £5 toy and can get that money back through a refund on something else. The only trouble is you may be short until you can get a refund- can someone lend you a £5 to buy it today?

Vinrouge4 · 24/12/2023 10:20

Just say that sometimes Santa has better ideas.

GloriousGoosebumps · 24/12/2023 10:21

I'd buy it. He obviously really wants it and he asked for it some time ago. It would make his Christmas. However, I wouldn't feel obliged to buy his sibling something to "make it fair" because the children won't care about the total cost, they'll only care about whether Santa bought them what they had asked for. Plus a £5 difference in total spend is nothing in the scheme of things.

There's no better feeling than seeing the children's delight at receiving the toys they really wanted.

HerMammy · 24/12/2023 10:40

Just buy it, are the kids going to tote up the cost?
Are ppl really this mad?

luckylavender · 24/12/2023 10:57

YayForMe · 24/12/2023 09:24

I remember he asked for it a while ago but completely forgot now it's too late. It's a character teddy and they do have one at our local tesco for £5. He said this morning he's asked Santa for it.

Problem is if I buy him on I will have to get other ds one too as they have equal amounts of gifts. So that means an extra £10 spent which I can't really afford.

What would you do?

His birthday is in January so I could give it then but he's asked Santa for it now so I feel obliged to get it.

You could get it & take one of his presents out & keep it for his birthday. That means your children have the same amount of presents.

DomPom47 · 24/12/2023 11:00

Get what he wants for Christmas and give his Christmas present for his birthday.

RoseMartha · 24/12/2023 11:04

Just because he has asked for it does not mean you have to get it.

I would wait for his birthday.

Nonentity2023 · 24/12/2023 11:05

If you have the £5 to buy it I think you should get him it as he has not just told you. He asked for it weeks ago and you forgot.

As others have said, you could hold another gift back for his birthday.

If you literally don’t have the £5 to spend then try not to worry too much and tell him that Santa sent a message to ask you to buy him it for his birthday as he had chosen other things for him.

WonderLife · 24/12/2023 11:06

It's not a good idea to give children the impression that the Christmas list is an order form rather than a request! Santa takes their list into consideration but they don't automatically get everything on it - what if next year the last minute request isn't a teddy but a PS5?

pinkfondu · 24/12/2023 11:07

Is it his make or break present?

pinkfondu · 24/12/2023 11:07

Also how old is he?

SquashPenguin · 24/12/2023 11:36

Santa has already packed his sleigh up and probably getting started over New Zealand I’d imagine.

NoNameisGoodEnough · 24/12/2023 11:49

It's posts like this that make me glad to only have one child. I really couldn't get caught up in all that for the sake of an extra present for a fiver. Please get him the toy and think no more about it.

pizzaHeart · 24/12/2023 11:50

WombatBombat · 24/12/2023 09:25

Is there a gift you could take out to give him in January instead, and have this for Christmas?

This^

UndertheCedartree · 24/12/2023 11:55

Does Santa tend to bring them everything they ask for or do you tell them they will get some of the things on their list/letter?

If they know they won't get everything then I wouldn't worry. But maybe get it for him for his birthday. If they expect all things they ask for then I think it really comes down to if you can afford that extra £10 or not.

But ultimately I bet he'll be so happy with the gifts he gets, he won't even notice!

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YayForMe · 24/12/2023 12:15

The fact that he told me a while back is why I feel like I should get it. Why I like them to have the same amount is because we open presents in turn and it would be obvious he had an extra one.

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