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Extra gift dilemma

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OneMoreMyWay · 24/12/2023 06:00

DH was complaining about the DC spending too much time on the Switch yesterday. Both have requested a Switch game (only) on their Christmas list.

They do not need more Lego, but it is the only thing they play with apart from the switch. I have two large-ish Lego sets in storage, one I bought in the Black Friday sales as DD was saying then that she was going to put it on her list. Then when she wrote her list she changed for a switch game. The other I bought a couple of years ago planning to give to DS if he improved his attitude at school. It wasn't needed. It's a bit young for him, but probably the last year he would be interested in it. DH is unaware of both...

From us they're getting
switch game (one each, Santa)
sports bag
pj's and socks
books - one parcel each and one joint.

This is the first year that there are no physical toys under the tree - from anybody. And I'm wondering if that's a mistake. DC2 is 11, DC1 older but with SN and very like DC2 most of the time. I.e. still into toys with flashes of "I'm too old for this".

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user701 · 24/12/2023 06:03

Give the lego

determinedtomakethiswork · 24/12/2023 06:04

There is absolutely no point in having that Lego in storage! Get it out and wrap it up.

MistletoeRegrets · 24/12/2023 06:14

I’m not understanding why the things you’ve bought can’t go under the Christmas tree?

(And yes, I’d give them the Lego - unless you have time / money to replace the set for your son with something ‘older’.)

GreatGateauxsby · 24/12/2023 06:16

Give the Lego too.

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OneMoreMyWay · 24/12/2023 06:18

It would be more gifts than usual. And DH thinks they have enough Lego (and doesn't know about the one in storage 😳). I can't replace as I bought it a long time ago, it's a police station and he's just switched his secondary obsession from the fire service to the police. So he might still be happy with it.

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RoseMarigoldViolet · 24/12/2023 06:25

Give the Lego.

Sugarfree23 · 24/12/2023 06:31

Give the lego.
Zero point in it loitering in a cupboard.

Label it from Santa or the Elves!
It's a PITA when kids change their minds. But hey ho I'm sure they'd both like something to build as well as the switch games. Think of it as the sports stuff is needed.

Wrongsideofpennines · 24/12/2023 06:36

Give the Lego.
It will keep them off the Switch for longer and give them something to do over the holidays. And the money is already spent. If you save it for next year then both children may well be too old for it so then it's a complete waste.

BitchImTheSecretIngredient · 24/12/2023 06:37

Tell DH about the lego and give it to the kids. It's Christmas!

MistletoeRegrets · 24/12/2023 06:44

It would be more gifts than usual.

Why would this matter?

Is there something else going on, @OneMoreMyWay - I’m not getting any impression of fun or joy in your posts?

urbanbuddha · 24/12/2023 06:49

No point in the Lego languishing in the cupboard while the kids grow too old for it.

ChristmasCwtch · 24/12/2023 07:30

Give the Lego. It’s entirely pointless in storage, they may as well enjoy it

QuillBill · 24/12/2023 07:58

It might be more gifts than usual but as you have never not given them toys before, it's more the same than usual than different.

It wouldn't bother me if my dh thought my dd had too much lego if they liked Lego and played with Lego. I'd think it's was fine that he thought that, but that he was wrong.

If your dc hadn't asked for the switch gene, they would be getting that Black Friday lego set,

katmarie · 24/12/2023 08:32

Give the lego, it's a brilliant toy for children of all ages, a bit of variety from the switch games, and gives you and dh an opportunity to spend some family time with them, building it with them, which is always lovely. I love building lego with my kids. I see no downside here.

TheGirlWhoLived · 24/12/2023 08:36

Give the Lego. Lego and a switch game isn’t going to spoil your kids, they’ll love it

gost · 24/12/2023 08:45

I don't understand why you buy gifts but store them for years depriving the kids if fun. Sounds miserable!

PrimalOwl10 · 24/12/2023 08:50

I don't understand buying it and not giving it.

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OneMoreMyWay · 24/12/2023 08:51

The one for DD would also do for her birthday. Usually I have to buy from both sets of GP's and BIL so if I see something in the sales I get it. The one for DS was kept as when I bought it he was into the police, but then switched, so it kind of stayed on the shelf, and it was meant as an incentive that didn't work. Then I didn't give it as a birthday as he knew about it.

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YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 24/12/2023 08:54

If they've only asked for the switch game then they'll be happy. You could always put the Lego on FB marketplace if you don't use it. Have you discussed with DH? It's a bit worrying if you feel you can't tell him about the Lego?

Sugarfree23 · 24/12/2023 09:14

When are their birthdays?
What will you do if lego isn't on the wish list?

Honestly I'd push the boat out and give the Lego. Don't be like me with lego hidden away hoping it will make a birthday list. - actually what am I doing with that ? 🤔

Rockfordpeach · 24/12/2023 09:59

I think you should give the Lego. Like a PP said, a switch game and a set of Lego isn't going to spoil them

Isyesterdaytomorrowtoday · 24/12/2023 10:03

I’d give the Lego, do they have stockings too? Or get gifts from lots of other family members? You seem v concerned about it being too much for some reason

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OneMoreMyWay · 24/12/2023 10:18

Yes, in their stockings they're getting a switch game, a silly toy, a book, a calendar, pens, pencils, bath stuff, something useful and some sweets, chocolate and obligatory piece of fruit.

They get gifts from both sets of GP's (books) and BIL gives them something. A game or clothing from a friend of mine.

I'll try and kick them out to play so I can wrap the Lego. I'll tell DH it'll keep them off the switch if he complains!

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catherinewales · 24/12/2023 10:21

My husband has no clue what my kids get till they open Christmas morning. He knows the big presents but that's it. Just give them it. They'll be happy with it xx

ItAintGonnaGoDownEasyIfItAintCheezy · 24/12/2023 10:37

Is he generally tight op?

Why would he complain?