11yr DD Christmas list

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Hi, can I ask you to share your 10-12yr old dd Christmas lists?

Mine has asked for a new device, art set, hello kitty figures, teddies and collectables.

But I keep seeing other people's Christmas hauls or wish lists with similar age DD asking for expensive skincare, clothing, make up, hair styling kits.

I love that my dd is still into "toys" but it's worrying me that her list seems so different. Should I be buying her all the latest make up, clothing etc. even though I don't want to. I just don't want her going back to school and others saying nasty things about the fact she still gets toys.

Definitely buy her what she wants, not what you think others will get. Encourage her to be her own person with her own interests. My son is nearly 14, has autism and has his very particular interest that some might see as younger than his years. He is getting Lego, WWE wrestling t-shirts and graphic novels and will love them. It's up to her what she tells others about what she got at Christmas.

My 12 year old dd (year 8 secondary) is mad about baking and has asked for a waffle maker, recipe books and baking gadgets. Also, a blanket and yoga mat.

The whole point is she get things she wants not so she can brag about her gifts with her mates.

Why would she brag to others about what she gets? Kids talk about what they get for Christmas/birthdays, I don't think that's bragging.

I’m the other way - my 10 year old has asked for clothes and I’m thinking of getting her some toys as I’m worried she’ll find clothes a bit boring on the day.

Just buy her what she wants, it's not as if she's asked for a peppa pig set. Buy a nice hoodie if you think she needs something more mature.

10yo DD...
Pink Rugby ball
Rugby club hoody
Camera
Pot plant lego
Harry potter lego
Book voucher
Stitch soft toy
Rugby Squishmallow
Gryffindor bits
Personalised travel mug
Warhammer style Weeping Angel &Dalek
Hunger Games books
Dr Who book
Money for Scout trip to Poland

12yo DD
Harry potter lego
Hufflepuff dressing gown
Squishmallow
Book voucher
Clothes voucher
Works voucher
Hufflepuff travel cup
Phone case (butterfly or Hufflepuff)
Harry Potter Alamnac
Seeds
Paints
Trainers
Money for Scout Trip to Poland

They really are all different. My elder DD is aghast she needs to wear make up in a school play!

If you want to introduce her to some skin care , which to me makes more sense than make up you could get her some La Roche Posay face wash , toner etc . Is she year 6 or 7 ?

Reframe your own attitude towards the gifting- it's not a haul

My almost 11 year old DD wants toys and Lego!

If she hasn't asked for skin care she doesnt need skin care other than spf and whatever she washes her face with.

My DD is 11, in year 7 wants an art set and cute cat themed clothes, star wars Lego, a Jellycat teddy, and baking stuff. Definitely buy your DD what she wants, I'm sure she's aware of the social situation, different crowds have different preferences, not everyone wants to be the same. My DD's friends are all into cute animals and Harry potter still, none of them wear any make up.

My mum bought me a make up set every year from when I was around 10 to 20, I still never wear make-up and I used to feel awful opening it each year knowing I wasn't living up to her expectations. Christmas is not the time for that. You can always buy her skincare at a separate time in a low key way if necessary.

I have boys that age.
DS 11 (y7) mostly wants football training stuff.
DS10 (y6) wants art stuff.
Neither would look down their nose at collectibles, art sets or new devices. Both would still take a new teddy to bed! They’d be bored if they had nothing to play with/ do on the day.

I also have a 16yo DD. It’s the first year she’s asked for make up (1 item), but clothes and jewellery go down well… as do lego, cuddly toys, build a bear- and she’s one of the “cool” girls! Some things don’t have age limits!

My 11 DD has asked for:

Furry crocs
A jellycat
Pink or heart pyjamas
A £10 Roblox gift card
Freeze dried sweets (😣)
Some Nike socks and Nike leggings

Oh gosh, OP. I just tensed up inside reading your post.

Your DD is 11yo. She doesn’t want make up. You don’t want to buy her make up. She wants toys and crafting stuff. You want to buy her that. And yet, you’re worrying she’s going to be bullied at school for not getting make up for Christmas and are wondering if you should get it for her anyway? This is EVERYTHING that’s wrong about Christmas.

Listen to your DD. She’s the child you have. She’s not 11yo you.

I was buying my son baking stuff at 15.

My 12 year old - clothes, make up, skincare, anything Taylor Swift!

My daughter is 11 just after Christmas and has asked for Christmas
a furby
a Bitzee
sanrio build a bears
a karaoke machine
cookez makery
like you I was worried it was all too young for her but I am glad she is enjoying being a child

12yo I know also not into loads of makeup/hair bits. I think she went through a stage of wearing liquid eyeliner because she likes Manga...
Her mum is getting her a new school backpack, fleece duvet and bed sheet set and boba tea kit (they are going on holiday for Christmas so that's the main one). I've been asked as a close friend to get bath bombs, combat trousers, big baggy jumper or Squish Mallow (mellow?). Hope that helps!

My DD is nearly 11 and the few things she has told me are similar to your DD OP.
She’s not mentioned anything her friends have all these tik tok bottles , branded clothing make up etc .
I love this about my DD and the fact she’s growing up in her own time and doesn’t feel the pressure right now as I know soon as secondary school comes this will all change !
Buy your DD whatever she’s asking for. It will make her Christmas !

I am listening to my dd but I also know my dd. She's extremely sensitive and if someone says something to her as they have done before she takes it to heart and is upset and worries over it for months.

I would never ignore her wishes/wants. I was just curious if there were other children asking similar things more age appropriate in my eyes. And would it be best to maybe get her a few little bits that every other child I see, seems to be getting to save possible upset at a later date. I honestly just wanted to see a few lists similar and I have.

So thank you to everyone 😊

Get her what she wants, for sure. But maybe don’t spend too much money on the toy stuff / don’t buy her all of the toys she wants - around this age my DD changed very quickly and her wish list went from 90% Lego to 0% Lego in less than a year. So some of the stuff she asked for and got given didn’t have a very long shelf life because her tastes changed. She still loved it for a while though, and your DD’s tastes may change more slowly.

My 11DD has asked for (realistic):
vbucks
nike pro leggings
nike backpack
Lakers merchandise (like T-shirt etc)
Agatha Christie book

(unrealistically - which she knows she won’t get!)
airpods
go pro
Apple Watch

She isn't interested in toys anymore, but to be fair was never huge into toys, more books, music and teddies

Dd 11 has asked for similar… Lego, collectibles, ty beanies, instant camera, mini brands,

My daughter has just turned 12 and has asked for all the skin care, make up etc. It's been heading that way since she was about 10 but this is the first year she doesn't want any toys at all. Last year she at least still wanted squishmallows, craft sets, games etc. I'm actually a bit gutted she doesn't want anything like that this year. Buy your daughter what she asks for I think it's lovely that she's asked for toys. You might find by next year her interests will have completely changed especially if she is due to start secondary school so make the most of it while you can.