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Are you enjoying the days, or just trying to pass them?

71 replies

RaspberryBlu · 28/12/2022 20:20

An awful, depressive feeling has hit today after not leaving the house for two days. I tried not to fill the week up so that DH and I who work full time usually could have some downtime and now I'm starting to feel bored but also lacking the energy to do anything! DC entertaining themselves largely but feeling guilty at that too, even though I know they enjoy nor going out anywhere.

Feeling a bit depressed as NYE plans have fallen through and I have no motivation to get a babysitter and spend even more forced time with DH 😆

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IneedanewTV · 28/12/2022 23:26

I love this period of time. It is the only time when I am off work and have nothing to do. Normally when I’m off work I have plans/travel/holidays/weddings/ etc. The time between Christmas and NY I just watch films, read, potter, meet Friends etc.

Noimaginationforaun · 28/12/2022 23:40

We’re enjoying them! Had a busy Christmas Day and Boxing Day with family, a pj day yesterday, the decorations came down today and we both did some work that we needed to do. Now we can focus on a few family days with DS (3) before all work and nursery starts again!

Zerrin13 · 29/12/2022 00:03

Having to go out every single day is not my idea of fun at all. If I can get away with staying in all-day I absolutely love it.
It doesn't happen too often though as I have a dog to walk and I do enjoy our peaceful walks together. Husband is abroad on business so its just me and my 2 late teens. Its been so chilled and cosy being at home. I love pottering and cooking and tidying in peace. I have ADHD so its my idea of a simple paradise

grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 29/12/2022 00:09

depressive feeling has hit today after not leaving the house for two days

Seriously, I think it's more of the problem to feel this way rather than not leaving the house for 2 days. Why? Why staying your home for 2 days feel so depressing for you?

RightOnTheEdge · 29/12/2022 00:24

I was back at work on Tuesday and its been absolutely manic.and understaffed as usual.
After work I've been building dd's desk that she got for Christmas and setting up ds's new telescope and trying to keep the house tidy. I've got a sore throat and snotty nose.

I'd do anything to still be in Christmas mode, turning the alarm off and spending time with the kids playing games and watching films.

Squishedstormtrooper · 29/12/2022 00:31

I know how you feel OP I’m so ready to go back to work (as sad as that sounds!). I’ve cleaned the whole house, took down the tree, I’m on top of washing, binge watched Netflix and eaten my body weight in chocolate and Turkey. Im done now.

Tomorrows going to be where I begin the health kick in the hope the next few days will cancel out the last. I just want it to stop raining!

SparkleFromWithin · 29/12/2022 01:16

My dh loves having time off work but does struggle with too much time off, which in his case is two days in a row ! He took half a day off for Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and Boxing Day and by the end of Boxing Day he was getting restless. We love having him at home because I love the adult company for one, we have lovely chats over our cups of tea - and the dc enjoy having us both at home. But when he starts getting grumpy I don't resist when he starts saying he needs to get back to work ( he's self employed). I think he needs the space of work and he needs to keep his mind occupied.

Me on the other hand, I love planning activities with the dc - they're all school age now and I'm a sahm so during term time I have loads of time to myself during the week. During the holidays I want to do all the fun stuff with them, whether it's days out, or at home baking or crafts or movie marathons ! I do realise that I start feeling a little frayed around the edges though halfway into the holidays and that's when I need short regular breaks. (Could be going to watch an episode of something on my own or cup of tea and a chat on the phone in a differnt room to the dc). So what I do now is plan all the tiring/full on activities at the very beginning of the holidays, anything that will create a lot of mess or take up a lot of my time and energy. From the middlish is when I encourage them to play independently, get out all their stuff in the playroom and I don't go in there to clean or tidy up (which they love!) till the end of the holidays. I leave bigger things to dh to come and do together then as he's had the whole day without them. So this balances things out nicely for us.

I think the key is to figure out what works best for you as an individual and as a family.

deplorabelle · 29/12/2022 07:31

My capacity for lazing about is limitless but I have felt bursts of bleakness this week, but I don't think they say anything deep and meaningful about my life or mental state. It's more that DH and I had most of a bottle of wine together at boxing day lunch and a few hours later I felt like my world was ending. (No alcohol Xmas day as visiting a teetotal household)

Although it's depressing I can no longer handle my liquor, it is helpful to know there's nothing deep-seated wrong. I just had a hangover!

BarrelOfOtters · 29/12/2022 07:40

Dh and I have colds, nothing awful but bad enough to be tired and aches. Cancelled seeing friends yesterday…had a grumpy day but the best bit was getting out with the dog. Expecting more grumpiness from dh today so I think I’ll get some bulbs in and tidy up the shit tip of a spare room.

Coffeepot72 · 29/12/2022 07:59

Moving from December to January means, in my opinion, going from the most fun month to the most bleak month.

namechangeforthisoneeee · 29/12/2022 08:26

I'm working every day which is defo more enjoyable than my poor husband stuck trying to find things to do with the kids (I did it on purpose)

Weepingwillows12 · 29/12/2022 09:02

I feel the same but I actually think it's a combination of tiredness and how it hits you when you actually finally stop for the first time in months and the rubbish weather. Either way this thread has given me a kick up the bum to try and do something today so thanks. Something fun not the something I need to do which is sort out the kids rooms and find somewhere for new toys to live .....

Greensleevevssnotnose · 29/12/2022 09:12

I haven't been out since 15th December I think it was. I love being indoors. Reading is such a luxury, catching up with the TV. I am going to walk to the chemist today and am dog sitting for two hours. Such joy.

schratching · 29/12/2022 09:12

I'm shattered. The run up to Christmas was nice, got to see children's concert, had work do's night out.

Dh has since changed jobs but in the run up to Christmas, dh worked front line in the NHS. Conditions were difficult and had an effect on our family.

I work full time and have a professional course to complete. We have 4 year old twins and they don't stop.

It's been a struggle for years as we haven't been able to work and have no money to do any repairs on the house.

Everyone was telling me to enjoy Christmas with the young ones but I'm just burnt out. The jolliness of it all makes me feel so lonely.

I am very lucky but also very burnt out.

Frightenedbunny · 29/12/2022 09:25

Wow! Someone on my wavelength! Came to the conclusion yesterday, that I actually hate Christmas. Spent the week running up to Christmas running around non-stop. Husband managed to inadvertently upset his mum resulting in her not coming around Christmas Day. I’ve had a nasty virus I’ve not been able to shake off for over 3 weeks, leaving me with a hacking cough and tiredness. Healthy diet has gone out the window with routine and I’m bored senseless. House is over run with kids Christmas gifts. I’m totally underwhelmed with it all. Can’t wait to take down the tree and get back to normality.

JoonT · 29/12/2022 09:29

I seem to live in two separate worlds, one dreary and grim, the other happy and free.

First, there is the 'real world' – the horrible, giant new build estate where I live. I hate this place. It's surrounded by roads, and all you hear day and night is the screaming of car engines and the explosions of modified exhausts (how is it not illegal to drive around with an exhaust that sounds like a firework display??). The traffic is awful, with constant tailbacks. My neighbourhood is all industrial estates, out of town shopping areas, concrete, cars, more cars, and noise, noise, noise. Some of the neighbours are lovely, thank god, but I'm not much of a people person, so generally keep to myself. There are just too many people crammed into too small an area. I also find my job exhausting (partly because I spend an hour fighting through traffic just to get there).

Then there is my second world, where I am happy. I have a small room to myself, which I've filled with books and paintings and flowers. I've also got a good quality pair of noise-cancelling headphones. Oh, and a bottle of gin. I go into that place to escape. Give me a gin, a Virginia Woolf or Sherlock Holmes novel (preferably read by Stephen Fry on audiobook) and I'm OK.

The only other place where I'm not just passing the time is out in nature – somewhere beautiful and quiet. My dream would be a house halfway up a Swiss mountain filled with books and paintings, and just a couple of quiet, nice neighbours. And no cars for miles around. Just silence, sunlight glinting on the snow, and nothing to do all day but wander about and read and lay in a hot bath listening to audiobooks..

Comedycook · 29/12/2022 09:59

The only other place where I'm not just passing the time is out in nature – somewhere beautiful and quiet. My dream would be a house halfway up a Swiss mountain filled with books and paintings, and just a couple of quiet, nice neighbours. And no cars for miles around. Just silence, sunlight glinting on the snow, and nothing to do all day but wander about and read and lay in a hot bath listening to audiobooks

Sounds amazing!

Zerrin13 · 29/12/2022 13:38

Being really happy and content being at home is a blessing. I'm never bored at home. It is my sanctuary

PineCone74 · 30/12/2022 19:31

Lexi868 · 28/12/2022 21:13

That's why people find it hard to express themselves. This judgment right here. No one is saying they are ungrateful and you don't know what people have been through in their lives. Mental health issues are real and don't discriminate. You can be depressed whether you have things in your life or not. A lot of it can be from painful childhood trauma. Just be kind and understanding.

Well said.

PineCone74 · 30/12/2022 19:40

JoonT · 29/12/2022 09:29

I seem to live in two separate worlds, one dreary and grim, the other happy and free.

First, there is the 'real world' – the horrible, giant new build estate where I live. I hate this place. It's surrounded by roads, and all you hear day and night is the screaming of car engines and the explosions of modified exhausts (how is it not illegal to drive around with an exhaust that sounds like a firework display??). The traffic is awful, with constant tailbacks. My neighbourhood is all industrial estates, out of town shopping areas, concrete, cars, more cars, and noise, noise, noise. Some of the neighbours are lovely, thank god, but I'm not much of a people person, so generally keep to myself. There are just too many people crammed into too small an area. I also find my job exhausting (partly because I spend an hour fighting through traffic just to get there).

Then there is my second world, where I am happy. I have a small room to myself, which I've filled with books and paintings and flowers. I've also got a good quality pair of noise-cancelling headphones. Oh, and a bottle of gin. I go into that place to escape. Give me a gin, a Virginia Woolf or Sherlock Holmes novel (preferably read by Stephen Fry on audiobook) and I'm OK.

The only other place where I'm not just passing the time is out in nature – somewhere beautiful and quiet. My dream would be a house halfway up a Swiss mountain filled with books and paintings, and just a couple of quiet, nice neighbours. And no cars for miles around. Just silence, sunlight glinting on the snow, and nothing to do all day but wander about and read and lay in a hot bath listening to audiobooks..

I think you are me!!

Rotherweird · 30/12/2022 19:51

Beautifully written, @JoonT

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