Are you enjoying the days, or just trying to pass them?

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An awful, depressive feeling has hit today after not leaving the house for two days. I tried not to fill the week up so that DH and I who work full time usually could have some downtime and now I'm starting to feel bored but also lacking the energy to do anything! DC entertaining themselves largely but feeling guilty at that too, even though I know they enjoy nor going out anywhere.

Feeling a bit depressed as NYE plans have fallen through and I have no motivation to get a babysitter and spend even more forced time with DH 😆

I'm going to suggest we go away next year, hopefully to avoid the stuck at home vibe. I couldn't give a shit if we are stuck at home, but DH cannot cope with it at all

We weren't at home Christmas day (came home to sleep) and have been at PILs since boxing Day, have also been to see my gran who lives much nearer to them than us. It's been very relaxed, seen loads of people, chatted, played games, eaten some lovely food. We're going home tomorrow (floor a Tesco click and collect to pick up on the way home) and not back at work until Tuesday. I'm looking forward to relaxing at home, going to do some baking with DS and looking forward to an evening to myself when DH goes out for the evening with a friend. So nice to have time to switch off.

That's why people find it hard to express themselves. This judgment right here. No one is saying they are ungrateful and you don't know what people have been through in their lives. Mental health issues are real and don't discriminate. You can be depressed whether you have things in your life or not. A lot of it can be from painful childhood trauma. Just be kind and understanding.

The weather where we are is atrocious so going out for walks really doesn’t appeal
I do need a bit of structure so do plan a few small things to do eg do a wash and then I can enjoy the things I never get time for
eg read my book for 2 hours

Plan something to do tomorrow, even if it's just for a couple of hours. It makes all the difference.

I mean plan something out of the house. Go somewhere.

Back to work for me today, quite relieved,to have a bit of normality really. Only 2 days though and then away for New Year which is just lovely.

Im fed up of Christmas food and the decorations. Was never really feeling it this year so grateful it’s over really.

If only I could just do 2 days every week though🤣

It's pissed it down for 2 days here. I much prefer being off work when it's not cold, dark and depressing.

We used to get bored now we plan ahead as we’re both off until next Wednesday!

Boxing Day - Panto (it was so bad it was good)
Yesterday - Avatar at the cinema
Today - housework and shopping/coffee and cake out in town
Tomorrow - tip run and popping to see SIL for lunch
Friday - day trip out using EH membership
Sat - lazy day, need new tyres on my car, going to friends for a curry NYE night
Sun - Big NYD church lunch then heading to the coast for a little 2 night break away including a theatre show
Monday - away
Tuesday - back, get sorted ready for working again.

@Lexi868 How am I not being kind and understanding? The OP is in a funk and clearly doesn't want to be so what's wrong with suggesting a change of mindset and realising the good things in one's life? The OP didn't mention any MH problems, I didn't realise we all had to assume that about other posters these days.

I am very similar to you, after a fairly busy Xmas day and Boxing Day, we've spent past two days at home in pjs (as both have this awful flu/virus doing the rounds) and I feel utterly dreadful. I feel really depressed and rubbish for staying home and doing very little. I think tomorrow I'll at least get out for a walk and some fresh air.
There is always a lull and anti-climax after Xmas day I think and these days between Xmas and new year are weird.

Although I have always been a super productive person and often when I see people who enjoy sitting around doing nothing for whole weekends etc I think it's weird to not want to go out and do things or even just be keeping busy at home but I know everyone is different.

Then recently someone said something interesting to me. They said that always needing to be super productive and busy is actually a trauma response...and it hit hard. As a child my mum used to always be busy we kids were ragged about all over the place and never seemed to have time at home, so growing up if it was the weekend I'd have to be up at the crack of dawn doing chores etc and if I dared to sleep in I got a telling off and made to feel guilty for resting or enjoying myself. It struck a chord with me that actually, it's okay to relax and do nothing. So my new year's resolution it to try slow down a bit.

I’m loving it. Enjoying a slower pace of life and not feeling guilty about lazing. We did go for a walk in the rain today which was needed though!

I've got myself into a bit of a funk too! Had flu just before Christmas which has left me totally wiped out, too many people in the house so it's hard to read a book or watch something without interruption and the constant noise is getting to me. Bored of sitting about but even a dog walk requires a nap afterwards at the moment! Also the time of year that I start contemplating what the hell I'm doing with my life, etc, which doesn't help things.

Had the best time ever. Took my mum to lunch at the Ivy, then Spurs Dare Edge. Looking forward to slobbing it at home for a few days.

I think having something to do/a reason to get out every day is key.

Today has been lovely because we've chilled out but also done a tip run and taken DDs out to a cafe for a hot chocolate.

Tomorrow we're going to take DDs into town to spend some of their Christmas money.

Friday we're meeting friends for a coffee.

If I sat around all day/didn't leave the house I'd feel absolutely awful so having little errands to run keeps me sane.

I'm enjoying them. I go back to work on the 3rd and I don't have another annual leave day until March so I'm very much enjoying pottering around, organising, having a lie in etc.

Loving it. Busy Christmas and pre Christmas and busy life so great just reading cooking catching up on tv exercising at home.

Why this frantic need to “do” stuff all the time? Don’t get that.

I don’t enjoy this time much, i kind of feel in limbo after spending so many weeks, planning and organising for Christmas and now it’s done I don’t really know what to do with myself. The dc are happily playing with their Christmas toys, but I feel like I’ve lost all focus and am just a bit lost really.

I’m loving it! No alarm clocks (apart from the living ones), no rush to cook, eating whatever whenever, watching shit on TV while leisurely doing the housework, going out when we want to do things we don’t often get to do. My life is manic during term time so I’m enjoying the relaxed time before the madness starts again.

Raining really heavily here too. My boys are utterly hopeless at entertaining themselves so we went swimming today and out for light bite. The rest of the time I've been a bit fed up too. It's not like the summer when there's stuff going on. Not full scale depression just not feeling usual self. I get it OP.

I don't understand how you can go two days without leaving the house? you might feel better if you head out for a walk or even go and potter in your garden (if you have one) ? Breathe in some fresh air and do something outdoors.

OP, I'm doing OK but I've been back at work today and it's helped me to feel a bit normal. I like my routine and a sense of control and Christmas knocks that out the park so I always end up feeling a bit topsy-turvy. I'd try to get some routine back or do something nice for yourself.

I am very lucky to have healthy parents and so on but I'm miserable staying with them. I've been out for long walks and hidden up at costa or McDonalds a few times.

I am dealing with the rage inducing clutter and shoes and the shower not being squeeged properly by going out for a run, reminding myself that not setting the alarm, sitting in bed with a cup of tea and seeing my family is something I look forward to.
We'll all be back to work/school soon enough and dreading football games, making proper dinners and clock watching all the time.

Ah, Crimbo Limbo! The week where no one knows what day it is! I love 1st-25th December but beyond that it all gets a bit stale. DH is already back at work but I’m not back til next Wednesday. I spend my mornings at David Lloyd and afternoons doing jobs round the house or watching Christmas stuff on TV.